Do you believe people should be rated?

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I don't. I think it's demeaning. And what does it even mean to be an 8 as opposed to a 9? Since perfection doesn't exist, 10's aren't possible. But, how are 1's possible as well. Is someone so ugly, that they deserve a 1?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

A rating is just a very concise shorthand of communicating relative value. We rate all kinds of things because ratings are a very useful way to get an idea across quickly. Nothing says you can't dive into more detail if it's important to you, and people often do, but that doesn't make the rating any less valuable or valid. I'm not saying that it tells the whole story either, or that it isn't biased - all ratings are biased - but they are still useful.

More importantly, even if we somehow banned x out of 10 ratings, you will never stop people from rating and ranking people in their heads. They might articulate it differently, but it's always going to happen.

Honestly, the people who don't like ratings tend to be people who have low ratings themselves, but getting rid of number ratings would only make communication less efficient - it wouldn't stop people from rating other people.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I basically agree with you. I always hate trying to put some number value on something like a person's looks (even when specifically asked to do so).

I agree that people shouldn't be rated (ideally), because it is indeed demeaning.

However, it is useful insofar as it helps a person trying to describe their relative attraction to someone compared to their attraction to someone else.

So it can serve as a rough illustration of how much you're attracted to one person compared to some other person (or against the most attractive person you've ever seen (..."a 10"))

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I don't know about that. My momma was often told she was a "true 10" because she was gorgeous on the inside and out -- and she was. It's not a note on being "perfect" but on how attractive she was. Growing up, I always based my vision of "10" on whether a person was fully appealing (inside and out).

Do I then think that there are "1" or "0" sorts of people? I've met many solid "2" sort of people who are extremely nasty (and therefore completely unattractive to me even if they are physically gorgeous). 1-5 are therefore on the spectrum of being internally flawed.

Account · Accepted Answer

I cannot realize for the life of me the metrics that the system is based upon. It just feels faulty/inaccurate to me.

HawkPerception · Answer

Everyone judges things in their head. Whether you like it or not, it happens. It's how you select fruit. It's how you deem whether someone might be a threat or not. It's how you imagine how your kids would look like with someone else.

It's usually the people that would be considered low in rating or people that can't handle the truth that don't like the concept of rating.

RavVid · Answer

It is more complicated than that. The proto perfect girl in my sex brain might be quite different to the proto perfect woman in your sex brain. B cups are perfection to me. D cups might be perfection to you.

My 9.5 girl might be a 4 to you. Your 9.5 might be a 3 to me.

Came across a research paper that got guys to assess drawings of female bodies. I was a long away from the median choice because I really like slender and the median choice wasn't slender enough to my taste.

The research authors concluded hip waist ratio is not that important which I think is total crap because I have got an adequate number of years of perving under my belt.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I think its fine to rate people.. Many times I been told I am a 3 or 4 especially in my younger days.. now some people say I am 6 or 7.. It all really doesn't matter. I generally rate everyone on the first glance and I'm sure everyone rates me.. It doesn't even matter there are ugly people, average people and pretty people, it's clear to see but people don't want to admit it lol.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Mainly for the reason that the rating means nothing.

Women on this site are always asking to be rated. And I always respond the same way, "no". And I always tell them it's pointless to do so. 1. Because she's not a hunk of meat. I'm nor going to give her a grade like one. 2. Even if I did. You're going to question my motivation we s of WHY I gave you the grade I did. 3. Let's say i give her a 7. She's going to wonder why not an 8, or 9. Then you have other responses what if a guy gives her a 2 and another guy a 5. Now the ratings are all over the map. To make a long story short she ends up right back where she started. And none of it meant anything. Because we're all just yutzes on the internet that don't know her from Eve. And that is the whole point. Her exterior attractiveness is only part of her. She could be beautiful with personality of a bowl of plain oatmeal.

9 times out of 10 these are just women fishing for compliments anyway.

Blunky · Answer

I find it's usually used by delusional people who like to self-proclaim they're a high number, or "high value" person. Also by "nice" people who want to induce pity by claiming they're a low number.

I mainly watch how critical they are of themselves while rating others. More often than not, they brush off what little criticisms they have of themselves and feel entitled to more than they themselves have to offer.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Ratings are a defense mechanism against looking in the mirror and choosing to do the hard thing

If you’re fit you look better then someone who isn’t
If you’re well groomed you’re better than someone who’s unkempt
If you’re well dressed you’re better then someone who’s dressed like a hobo

Every aspect of attraction is controllable

And the idea that you’re a “2” and therefore it’s so over for you is ridiculous

So no: people should not be rated

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

A rating system for anything is going to be subjective and will only really apply to themselves or anyone who already agrees with them.
Are you saying people shouldn't have opinions, or that people shouldn't share their opinions? Because that would make it nigh impossible to let people know what you like and dislike and by how much, which would make it much more difficult to get what you want in life than it otherwise would be.

Vevv123 · Answer

Asking for a number only obscures the beauty of our complexities. A simple number can never truly capture our uniqueness, especially from a 2D perspective.

Sono83 · Answer

I've done it occasionally with friends. In college we used to call an attractive woman a "little Miss Hot Ass, lol! Then there were those that were "wife material." But in general, I don't really rate woman, I just notice the ones I find pretty.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I agree. I don’t like putting numbers to people.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not only demeaning, it is also incredibly stupid and immature.

es20490446e · Answer

Rating is comparing. And that doesn't acknowledge a simple truth: that someone can be perfectly capable without being better than some other.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My only ratings are acceptable / not acceptable.

Ariesman81 · Answer

I think it's fine so long as the need for the rating is to gauge objective reality vs just garnering attention.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Only people with a juvenile mentally, rate people.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Sure. If they ask to be rated based just on appearance

blackeagle007 · Answer

No. It’s either an ego boost or ego killer. It’s best to do away with rating system

robocop666 · Answer

I am a 7 according to AI and women. I am happy with that. I am ageing freakishly well too. People think I am 26 and I am 37.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Agreed. No one should be rating anyone else with a number

exitseven · Answer

No the issue is who does the rating

Anonymous · Answer

It seems childish to me.

zagor · Answer

That is Jr High stuff.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

At 71, I'm still about an 81/2, so..

Gayuglycowardv3 · Answer

Im a 3 my bros like a 6 or 7

Anonymous · Answer

In school and college? Yes, I think so.

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