Why does catfishing work on dating apps to get matches?

[Anonymous]

I am consistently told and assured that all you need to get matches is to have a good personality. Swapping out my picture and name and leaving my profile netted me more matches in 1 day than I ever had in my life.

The conversations I had were me talking as normally, and the conversations went great. I never brought up meeting, however with most matches they asked me to meet up and I would then reject them by saying I think we're not a match, which led some to try harder and I ended up unmatching.

In theory I should never have gotten a match since I used a pic that wasn't me, that lie would be enough to disqualify me from matching. In practice that one lie made a world of difference. Why is this?

[Razp_Sorbet]

You probably used a picture of a dude who was hot as fuck 🤷🏻‍♀️ you're not going to be everyone's type. But having decent pictures helps majorly. The amount of dating profiles I've seen of men that have terrible low angle dark photos where they look greasey and unkempt is absurd

[Asker]

When you say "hot as fuck" do you mean for what you personally find hot or hegemonically attractive?

I heard the thing about having decent pictures, but it does make sense that pictures would be the difference between absolute 0 matches and 50+ a day. I kept my bio the same, I didn't embellish it. Even if looks and personality were equally important (according to most advice on this site and in public, looks have no impact) that still doesn't account for this difference.

How much would you weigh pics vs bio? If you can give metrics and how you got to those numbers that would be appreciated. Thanks for your reply.

[Asker]

Also I see that people find professional pictures to not be attractive on profiles, is photography training something every man just learns to do and is key for finding partners?

[Razp_Sorbet]

Pics lure you in bio makes you interested So obviously your bio is decent but pictures are lacking.

Knowing your angles, having good lighting and looking clean will help. It's hard to say how you could improve without seeing your profile

[Asker]

Thanks, but I'm not asking about improving, I'm asking about the advice that is given saying that looks don't matter and failure to match is due to personality. Are People lying when they give that advice, if so why?

The idea that the pics "lure" isn't that an incel notion? Will lightning and angles get me the same amount matches as what you consider or what society considers a hot person to be?

Nearly all the questions I asked you avoided.

[Asker]

I want to understand the underlying principles at play

[Nikki1989]

How do you show your personality from a dating app? If you have an attractive, magnetic personality, you wouldn't need a dating app.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I mean I always a swiped on how they looked then read the profile after we matched but I mean I had 2000 matches on tinder alone

[Asker]

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