Are dating apps hopeless?

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EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. Also depends on your personal experience.

For men though it's way harder on average than it is for women. Last time I heard the ratio was something like 95% men to 5% women, and as a result those women become SUUUUUUUUPER picky because they literally have so many men to chose from; meanwhile most men are lucky if they match with even ONE woman. So you basically more or less need to be in the top 5% of all men, sometimes even top 1% or less.

When I tried it though, biggest waste of time I've ever done in my life. It went absolutely NOWHERE. From scammers, to people who "were just looking for friends" (on an website/app SPECIFICALLY designed for dating), to people who never responded, to people who talked for a bit then ghosted, etc. And frankly I just don't have the time or energy for that.

Dating in real life is already really hard but dating apps are completely hopeless, or at least from my experience.

Also doesn't help that I don't like taking pictures and don't have any impressive feats in my life.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

For me I would think so. I've never been on one. I have filled out at least six profile pages at least halfway and then decided not to do it

My friends that are on there, brag about it and say, it's somewhat like a meat market. They meet girls quickly. They can date quickly

But most if them are doing it to get laid. I mean they're looking for a girlfriend but it's not a priority type thing

So I feel most girls get misslead on them

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

No. It's just too much fishing with attractive images and bios everyone likes to read. Most people don't want find a fitting partner but they want have high number or positive responds. That's why most of people in dating apps don't present themselves like they really are but an idealized image of someone who fits to everyone.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

They are nuts when you can walk out your front door and meet someone today. I met three new people just today alone.  Also remember, people resort to dating apps for a reason, and that is they are NOT quality people. Quality people don't need apps to forge even the most basic of relationships.

AviatorTom · Answer

I met my wife on a dating site., and I know several couples who met on a dating site/app. It is what you make it.

Simslover92 · Answer

I don't think so. It's certainly a hit and miss but not totally hopeless.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not hopeless, but very frustrating and unlikely to find a match. Less so if you're a girl.

Avicenna · Answer

It depends on your expectations and the quality of women where you live.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

No, but they are at the very end of the hope rope.

Amur8711 · Answer

For the most part I think they are useless, but they still can open up opportunities.

By cousin lucked out on Bumble. Met a very pretty and sweet girl from Venezuela that was sent here by her family to live with her uncle to get out of the hell whole Venezuela has become. She struggles with English but everyone in our family loves her. She even tried getting me hooked up with a friend of hers from back home. It didn't work because she never replied to my messages because she already started seeing someone else. Lol

capriVib · Answer

If the user is a woman, she can easily find a short or medium term relationship without even using a profile picture.
Unfortunately, for men, it’s a hopeless app to make it work, you need to be really good. For an average or below-average man, it’s a waste of time to use it it’s better to try meeting someone in person or, at worst, through Instagram

SotiCoto · Answer

Usual dating app experience for men: Try everything, get ignored.
Usual dating app experience for women: Try nothing, get mobbed.

They're absolute drek, and that is because people have utterly misused them too much. It was supposed to be to help people who have difficulty with relationships get them, but they got taken over by people who do NOT have difficulty and promptly ruined it for everyone by treating the whole thing irreverently.

Anonymous · Answer

They're not hopeless but they are unlikely. Few people use them for what they're intended for. But it's still possible to find a match you're just going to have to be patient and wade through a lot of crap.

As a guy I have a rule that I don't message women first. That drastically increases the liklihood I'll talk to woman who's genuinely interested. But the drawback is I probably only get a message a day.

This method probably won't work for a woman online dating though

Benjiman19 · Answer

In my experience, I've never gotten a match with a woman and then ended up going out on a date or even just to meet up. Even though I'm myself when texting with them, I always got blocked after a few minutes. I'm not going to change myself for someone just to see me as who I'm not. I don't have "game."

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not gonna answer the poll myself, I haven't seen a need or care to really use them.

I just was taught by the schools I went to years ago that those websites and apps just lead to scary stuff happening and usually doesn't help them get into a good relationship.

foxsquirrell · Answer

For most guys I think they are. I think its not the app though its who is on the app! I mean no matter were you display yourself if they don't find you very attractive then you' re not going to do well. Put in another way, if you are not attractive in real life how will an app like Tinder change how attractive you are? So its not the app, but who is on the app which makes a difference.

Jltakk · Answer

For me, yes. Had 2 dates total in 15 years throughout multiple apps. Did the whole reset account thing too. ELO score is a depressing aspect of the algorithm as well. Mental health took a plunge as a result. IRL flirting is painful and an insurmountable challenge due to certain afflictions that hinder my ability to read social cues. If I can describe it, it's like being trapped in a spiders web. A loop I can't get out of.

BadApple69 · Answer

I met all my wives on dating apps… all 12 of them! ~ joking~  I have met a lot of people on those apps most bad but some good.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Met my partner on Bumble. We have 2 kids now, been together 7 years

Unycorn · Answer

I wrote I am looking for a solid relationship - but only men wrote me who wanted hook ups. Or scammers.

queenofcardio · Answer

So many weird people on there. I'm still on them 😂

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not hopeless but they only really work for a few people if what you’re looking for is a serious relationship

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I met my husband on tinder Sunday we just celebrated one year married and November will be 5 years together we couldn't be happier

serious · Answer

I don't know to some people it might be convinient.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Mostly yes. Most people on there are just looking for sexual flings.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

if you want simp attention then no. but if you want a real relationship or just intimacy in general then yes, your're fucked. especially if you are a guy

lilBigPotato · Answer

No but people who are stuck forever on them are

Makeushiver · Answer

It seems they are good as a source of fiction

genericname85 · Answer

i wouldn't say "hopeless" but surely not very effective.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Dating apps are nothing but "endless rigid buffet" 😂

LiamJHayden · Answer

Always have been for guys who are not Chads or Tyrones.

qwerty2469 · Answer

If you are American the apps are only good for meaningless dick. American men are looking for love over seas.

Anonymous · Answer

dating apps are for socially awkward individuals.

shortster · Answer

Some apps are better than others; but ultimately it is the users that drive the experience.

Abdulw · Answer

I'd say speaking to people in person is much better

Kattsnaiper · Answer

Im sure people have found love on those apps, but they are bussnines that wants a profit and see love as something that they can sell.

Phoenix98 · Answer

They're all just scams lol.

Skyros · Answer

I’ve heard of many people getting married because of them.

Chris_Chapman · Answer

Some people use them for hookups. I've even seen prostitutes advertising on them.

In_Trance · Answer

The apps are fine. The users...

slatyb · Answer

My wife and I met on one.

jazzy34 · Answer

I’d rather meet a man in person.

fonduegirl · Answer

The whole internet is

WonderingManII · Answer

Yes. They are like gambling.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yes and no. Depends on how you look

SoJust · Answer

I think it's hopeless

BeechImFabulous · Answer

If you're a straight man, then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Not if you are lucky.

n8765 · Answer

But it's should not be a priority

Anonymous · Answer

It's dead for the most

Anonymous · Answer

For men they are

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

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