Guys, does asking out girls give you a sense of self? If so, how?

[Vneila21]

A lot of you would say that you prefer to approach women. My response ranges from "it's a guy thing" to "Do you think women are desperate?" To me, it's freaky to imagine a man pursuing me. My history with boys isn't great either.

[ohsheeT]

You know this is a really good question. It must give men a since of self because all you hear about on here is the feel bad because they were rejected or turned down so when this happens there are men on here that are Devastated . . I look at it. as it is what it is. it's part of life . It happens for many reason good or bad

[Anonymous]

No. Asking women out is NOT relevant. But a man drastically shrinks his dating pool by not asking women out. That is the only reason we do it.

Women push that tired old notion that "women are desperate when they ask guys out". No guy actually thinks that. Women just create that bull💩 to alleviate themselves of responsibility of putting forth effort.

And generally the type of women that push this are the laziest of the bunch. She doesn't want to ask guys out, but she doesn't want other girls doing it either. Because she knows it'll put her at a distinct competitive DISADVANTAGE.

[Vneila21]

Interesting, and there's reassurance that people don't have to date. Pressures from society say, "That is what makes a man." Our society doesn't emphasize the importance of consent because we get so tied up in general identity crises. Why do you think women created the desperate notion? I assume it comes from the movies we watch. I watched a lot of Disney movies growing up and I'm still a fan.

[Opinion Owner]

I already said that at the end. The women that spread that do it because they don't want other women crossing the Pickett line so to speak and asking men out. They figure if they tell other women guys will think you're desperate then it'll discourage her.
Guys have there own problems on this side. No guy worth his salt has a problem asking a woman out. Problem is is most women were active participants in it all. Women used to give men feedback. To be fair it's broken overall for both genders. All I'm saying is guys don't just ask ANY woman out. And guys don't want to be rejected either. So they truing to gain as much info as possible. And that's only possible if the woman is forthcoming. So this is the real reason for women approaching.

[Shiprex]

I think a man has to have a sense of self BEFORE he asks a girl out. That way he KNOWS what he wants has spotted someone he wants and is up for going out to get it.

[Vneila21]

I agree. He has to know who he is first and that will give him more direction on who to seek.

[Shiprex]

Exactly. It's unlikely a guy would make a move if he was clueless about what it is he's after in the first place.

[WonderingManII]

Some women say they like to chased. I never felt right about chasing anyone. In fact I'm scared to it. And I'm scared to ask anyone out. My mental disability has made my life difficult.

[Vneila21]

I do not understand why women would Like to be chased. I am scared of that too. Especially if I don't know who might have a crush on me. I do not want to be persuaded to like someone that way either. It should be mutual before going any further.

[WonderingManII]

It is ok for you to feel that way. Everyone has reasons for why the feel the way they feel.

[Asgaeros]

People used to approach and talk to each other somehow when electronics weren't a thing. It's a pretty human thing to socialize and approach , not just for dating. As long as they can take a no and behave overall, i see no issues with it.

[talka20]

Im neutral about who ever approaching the opposite sex

[Anonymous]

I never do that, because I'm too shy.

[Smile456]

Why freaky?

[In_Trance]

No it doesn't