im a girl and I think the same way! I'm also shy, so I have never ever asked or even hinted to a guy I wanna date him, I always wait for him to make a move, but! I think it depends on circumstances, like with me, me and this guy have liked each other for a long time, and there were ups and downs, now were cool and friends again but of course there's attraction, and weve been trying to talk but were both shy and choke. One day he came up to me and wanted to talk, I was so shy and nervous I choked and messed it all up, I think he was trying to ask me out...and yea I ruined the moment thanks to my nervousness. So I went home thinking how I might have disappointed him and he will probably be so turned off and think I'm not interested, so I immediately contacted him and told him I was having a bad day and that I wanna have lunch with him and meet up...he replied quickly and was really happy and agreed! I never felt so much better! I made his day too!
i didn't feel un-feminine either...i think were all on the same boat and its all equal...as long as you're not too pushy or overwhelming like writing an essay how you feel about him or something, there's nothing to worry about! just be casual about it and go for it! you have nothing to lose, you can only gain! you can gain his friendship and love, and you can also gain the treasure of not having to wonder all your life what if you had asked him out or hinted it at least...that is a miserable feeling believe me!
hope this helped best of luck
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It is "customary" to follow tradition and allow the man to approach you for the right to date.
I disagree with that statement, times are changing. Women have equal rights in the work place and in social environments, why shouldn't they be allowed the ability to ask a man out?
Here's how I view the subject - If the woman can build enough courage to be different and ask me out, she deserves kudos. In an ultimatum where she did, ask me out, I wouldn't give her any more "benefit" for having the courage. She would be viewed equally, the same as anyone I asked out. (Obviously my desire to be with that woman would vary from person to person).
If she came "over-the-top", meaning that she was very pushy on liking me, it would affect how I viewed her. I would see the woman as "needy" or "clingy" and lose a little interest, but not enough to be a deal-breaker just yet.
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ArtistBBoy
Not at all, granted society does make it seem like the men should make the first moves or ask the girls out, but some guys are just to shy to try and get the words out to see if they wanted to actually go out, perhaps fear the girl didn't like them enough to think of it. I've never personally been asked out by a girl but I wouldn't think it weird or desperate if I was.
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