Please don't judge harshly, I know I'm wrong and not good?

[Anonymous]

I'm in abusive relationship where my partner is physically and mentally abusive towards me. I've been with him long time and recently his friend was giving me attention and we had been meeting once a week or so, the way his friend was talking he wanted to be serious with me saying he was developing feelings. I last saw him 2 weeks ago I stayed at his in mornin. i woke up and asked what time it was he said half 1 in afternoon I panicked and started grabbing stuff until looked at my phone it was only 7.30an.. he showed me he kept something of mine in his dressing gown pocket and said it's to keep you close to me.. he was off with me I said I was leaving soon he said thank fuck of for that and going back to your boyfriend who hits you. He offered me money for taxi I said I don't need your money. He walked me to door kissed me twice and watched me leave. I sent him a message last week he replied but it was a cold message now nothing. I removed him from my social media as well.

I don't care for my long term partner anymore I want to leave him, he's hit the love out me and I thought I'd make a go with it with that guy but now I feel trapped and I've noone to talk to.

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Have I messed up with other guy?

[Ironic_Method]

You need to get your shit sorted out before trying a romantic relationship with someone.

[Asker]

I tried, I tried leaving had nowhere to go.

[BarryLiverstone]

Maybe the other guy wants to see you again?

[Asker]

I sent him a message but he was cold on me it was hi how are you, he replied I'm good you?, I said I'm unwell but OK then he never replied so I took that as he fell away from me.. I don't know what I done

[BarryLiverstone]

Did you ask him something else? Didn’t know how your conversations went normally with him.

[Asker]

No he usually contacts me but I initiated that conversation.. Was it because I went home rather than stay with him

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t know how often you have stayed with him and been home. If he usually contacts you then maybe he wanted to talk to you. He’s friends with your boyfriend?

[BarryLiverstone]

You removed the guy from your socials? That means to him that you don’t care about him anymore

[Asker]

Do you think he did care for me though

[BarryLiverstone]

Seems like it. He misses you

[BarryLiverstone]

Why not call him?

[Asker]

If he hasn't replied to my message or text me he's hardly going to pick phone up to me

[BarryLiverstone]

You don’t know that. Why not try to call?

[Asker]

I've been here before where I chased a man and it backfired on me

[BarryLiverstone]

So because it backfired one time you will never follow up with another guy? We are adults, no need to play games. Unless are you a teenager?

[In_Trance]

So what's your question?

[Asker]

Have I messed up with other guy

[In_Trance]

trauma based relationships never last. once the trauma is over, the relationship foundation is gone. You need to be on your own for however long it takes to get your shit together and then seek a relationship

[Asker]

I've know other guy a long time we recently started seeing each other. Why did he turn cold on me was it because I had to go home

[In_Trance]

you'd have to ask him that question

[jahaims]

Stay single and fix your mental health you nut bag