Please read before commenting. pretty much a few months after I turned 18, my dad started telling me that I needed to start buying more of my own food. I had a part-time job at the time and still do. He said I would always get three free meals a day though, but I needed to start buying my own snacks. Fair enough.
But now he's telling me I need to start buying my own milk, basically the only thing we can eat for breakfast is cereal and oatmeal (unless I buy something else). I bought my own cereal, but how am I supposed to eat it without milk? Doesn't the milk kind of tie in with the three meals a day that I get for free, like my breakfast? Little by little he's starting to make me buy all of my food. I'm trying to save up for a lot of things right now like a car and my insurance I'm going to have to start paying soon, I have very little money to buy my own groceries. If it was just the milk it would be okay, but he keeps adding on. I am so hungry most days. I go to bed hungry because the ramen noodles I bought aren't that filling for dinner 🥺 It's not like I'm a 30-year-old still living at home. I'm literally 18.
Lol trust me, it doesn’t get easier when you are older. Depending on your life choices you will have the same issues when you 30 and living in your own house. Use this as an opportunity to figure out how to solve issues like this. Re-evaluate what you want in your life and under it takes hard work from someone.. notice I said someone (because who knows you may marry rich and be served a sliver or gold spoon) may not be you, but someone will have to provide that. It might as well be you who learns how to do that so that you can take care of yourself if need be
I don't think you understand. My dad never let me get a job until I was a few months away from turning 18. I was never able to save money. And pretty much right after I turned 18 he starts charging me for stuff.
It’s not about savings, it’s about moving in to being an adult and contributing.
You use heating, food etc. While in full time education, yeah it’s free. As soon as that full time education ends and or they start making money, then they contribute towards the household bills.
For example, your son or daughter spending $400 on clothes, while having heating up high, using loads of showers, eating food.
The way he is going about it is wrong, however once children who are living at home start working or making money, then they should contribute towards household bills.
It’s fairly common here to have 30yr olds living with their parents due to house prices etc,
He could at least wait till I'm 19. He's giving me deadlines to when I need to have a car by, and he's charging me for other things while he's doing it. It's his fault I don't have any money, he decided to wait until I was almost an adult to let me have a job. I contribute around the house in other ways.
"It's not like I'm a 30-year-old still living at home. I'm literally 18." - Ouch, that hurts! 😔😔 I think he's in the wrong. If he didn't let you work before you turned 18 then he shouldn't complain about you not having enough money. He should be able to understand that you have a part-time job so he shouldn't make you starve. I'm so sorry for you.
If you are not in school, I can see him saying that, but if you are just working part time and nothing else. I started working young, so I have had to myself.
What the hell is going on with that man? Is it about saving a few dollars? How about you apply for food stamps or whatever help system you have right in front of him? Maybe he will get it. 🤬
Never said it was right, but I didn't think it was toxic. He had 7 kids in the house and we all got the same speech. He prepared us to be ready to be adults, which you are at 18. Prepared or not.
