Maybe I'm overreacting?

[Anonymous]

I have been trying to date but haven't found a meaningful connection. I have not had sex in a year. I'm starting to feel lonely and want someone to build a meaningful bond that could grow into a relationship. I always seem to block when the relationship get to the intimacy part and disappear before it happens (or cut off contact). I started to try the online dating. I met a guy and he seems ok. I cooked a holiday dinner and gave him a plate. Just to meet and say high (10 minutes) He seemed interested. I just hope it isn't just sexually. We gave each other hugs and he looked at me for a minute and said he was going to kiss me. I went home and seen a text saying ' I want you 😩'. I almost made me feel like it's only sexual and I was thinking of blocking him.🤦🏽‍♀️🤔😫🤷🏽‍♀️

[Screenwriter]

Well, "I want you" is COMPLETELY sexual. Tell him, no thanks and end it. No need to block him unless he's stupid enough to contact you again. I don't see his statement as a threat to you.

But, I feel there is something inside blocking YOU from intimacy, and I'm not talking about sexuality. You make the statement that when it seems to move into that sphere, you clam up. So what's that all about?

Sounds like you want GENERAL intimacy: meaning someone you talk to, confide in, and who you can be affectionate with AND sexual with. The whole package. There's nothing wrong with wanting a 360 degree relationship. Seeking it and waiting for it.

This guy wanted a hookup. You don't. So say thanks but no thanks. Leave it at that. Your reaction was correct. Lots of online guys use meeting women for dates as sexual hookups. Not what you want.

Keep looking and be straight with whomever you meet. Ask friends who they know who might be good for you to meet. If your family can help, ask them too. Online is leas likely. But I like Meetups because they get people together who have similar hobbies, interests.

And you can make new friends who open doors for all kinds of relationships.

[Babebytheshore85]

Um, you're 30-35 years old. Why are you online dating? Why aren't you going out with friends and meeting people?

[Asker]

Lol I was in a 12 year relationship. He passed away and I have social anxiety.

[Babebytheshore85]

@asker you need to go outside you will never find anything genuine and worthwhile by hiding. Real men are outside meanwhile left overs are online

[BarryLiverstone]

It seems lusty but you can keep communicating your boundaries and meet him again in a public place.

[Staximus]

He's trying to skip the romance and go straight to the bedroom

[Anonymous]

A whole year! Let me know when you get to 50 years. Yeah, you're overreacting.