So I have been dating this guy for a little over a month now. And we sent each other funny stuff, usually through out Facebook wall sometimes to each other. Tonight, he decided to send me this picture... I said “oh thanks” and he said that he was only sending it to me because he thought it was funny. Okay, what’s funny about it? You have a girlfriend who is a fat ass and you aren’t as fat? I’m confused. I’m more overweight than he is. He isn’t skinny though. So, it’s not like he’s a thin guy. But am I overreacting? I get sensitive about my weight. I need to know what to do.
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For the people telling me that I should lose weight; I have tried losing weight! I overdosed on laxatives just to try and lose weight so don’t tell me anything about lose weight. Been there done that. I’m only sensitive when it’s brought up. I’m happy with my weight but I don’t want someone who thinks I’m not good enough for them if they think my weights a problem. I’m healthy and that’s all that matters.
In a way you might be overreacting and then you might not be. So you don't like people talking about your weight right? Well neither do I, but some girls do like being told they have a fat as*. So if you haven't told him how you feel when people talk about your weight... He might not have thought it would bother you he might not care what people think of his size. But if I was you I would've responded like "Wow, just wow". You should tell him how it made you feel though.
And as far your weight goes as long as you are happy with it don't worry about what people say about it. But if you want to jet in some better shape then look up some exercises for where you are wanting to shape up. But you need to be happy with your body... Hope I could help a little...
You're entitled to your feelings, you have every right to feel however you feel. I would just non-confrontationally let him know that you're sensitive about your weight, that way future incidents won't happen (theoretically). I want to say he wasn't aware of how your weight is off limit for jokes, and thought it would be harmless to send that picture.
You're not overreacting. A lot of people are weight-sensitve. It's not cool for someone to make a joke at your expense; even if they think they're "being funny". Making someone feel bad isn't funny. It's called poor taste.
I don’t know him as well as you do, but I think he might’ve not realized that you would have taken it a different way than he did. I think you should mention it to him and say something like “where were you coming from with this joke because this is how I took it.” And have a conversation with him about it because your feelings are completely valid but he might’ve not meant for it to come out a certain way!
He might not be as sensitive about weight as you are, so he might not have realized it could be taken hurtfully. I take it to mean he likes you the way you are, as in "no need to worry about your size, just come be with me".
How much more overweight are you than him? Maybe lose a bit of weight therefore you will be less insecure. He can make as many fat jokes as long as he isn’t the fatter one in comparison.
I think you are overreacting and reading more into the cartoon than need be. what I see in that comic is a girl calling herself fat and a guy not caring at all About her self deprecating and just wanting her close to him.
If it bothers you that much, say that to him. Personally, I joke about being fat (humor is my coping mechanism) so I wouldn't be all too bothered by that. However, I do think you're being a bit sensitive, only because I doubt he intentionally sent that to you just to make you feel bad about your weight. It's supposed to be a cute comic.
You lose weight by exercising. Laxatives don't do what you think they do.
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You already know what you need to do. But instead of fixing something you're insecure about, you'd rather make him out to be the bad guy.
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Lol you don’t think I have tried losing weight? I overdosed on laxatives just to try and loose weight so don’t tell me anything about loosing weight. Been there done that. I’m only sensitive when it’s brought up. And I don’t think he’s a bad guy. I just thought he didn’t think before he sent it to me and that it meant something to him, that I wasn’t good enough for him.
That's called insecurity. You put it out of your mind because you get sensitive when you think about it.
Why the hell would you take laxatives to lose weight? You need a smarter plan than that. That's not trying, its taking some pills because you don't want to make an effort.
And what if he does think you'd be more attractive if you lost some weight? Is that so bad? He'd be more attractive if he lost some weight, too, by your insults toward him. But you can't stand to talk with him about it because it would be admitting that you're not perfect, right?
You're not perfect. He's not perfect. Nobody's perfect. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't make the effort to be the best you can be for each other.
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