My "boyfriend" chats to other girls on Monkey App? Am I overreacting?

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So my "boyfriend" is obsessed with this app called Monkey. Basically the app consists of guys meeting girls and vise versa. I put boyfriend in quotations because we are exclusive and only messing with each other but he doesn't want to date at the moment because we are also each others ex's. Anyways, into the story. He has been going onto this app called Monkey and giving his snapchat to attractive girls on there that he matches with. I got mad at him about it because he's literally giving out his snapchat to other girls and texting them. When I confronted him he said they just text and they all live hours away or in other states and he's not hooking up with them or doing anything in that manner and that I am overreacting because he is just texting them. Am I overreacting?

GuildLegend435 · Accepted Answer

what he's doing *is* morally wrong, but because of the setting of your informal sexual relationship, there's not much you can do about it. at least in his mind. he doesn't hold any loyalty towards you, and seems not to respect himself very much.

if you want more than just sex, you should find it elsewhere. cut this one loose. rip the bandaid off.

i'm sorry to say it, as it probably feels like a bucket of cold water on your heart.

Inv8derChris · Accepted Answer

Whether or not he's meeting these girls is hardly the point. If you guys are together; he shouldn't be talking to other girls like that. "I'm not doing anything." Yes, you are. You're flirting with other girls. When will people get it through their heads that cheating doesn't come in degrees. If you're screwing around, you can pretty it up; it's still cheating.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

No, you are not overreacting and the only thing to do in this case is to sever the relation.

You are clearly the 5th. wheel in this constellation and basically just there for the physical part when it comes for him to get rid of excessive male sexual hormones.

He is an addict and nothing you can do will change that situation. Take the necessary steps before it is too late.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

You are not. Why is he spending all this time talking to other women? It is, in effect, cheating, emotionally. Get on your walking boots, girl. He is NOT exclusive. He is talking to a host of other women and pretending to be exclusive. Get out of whatever kind of relationship this ISN'T.

sejla · Answer

If he doesn't want to date you are not exclusive which means he can date or sleep with anyone he wants. If you want to protect your emotional well being as well as your body then you need to stop whatever you guys are doing now and just remain friends or distant friends.

J_Klayton · Answer

I confused about your relationship status.
You're exclusive, but just messing around and be doesn't want to date?
I don't understand.
If you truly are committed to one another he should put all his online flirtationships on hold during the duration of your relationship.
He should be more focused on you.
If you aren't really together then it's just a mess.
He can do whatever and so can you.

ck501 · Answer

So, he is not your boyfriend but you want him to behave like your boyfriend. Yes, very much oberreacting.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

she is not a lady for no lady sleeps around ! a lady only sleeps with her husband ! other wise she is a street walker , a tart , etc.

Roseygirly · Answer

no hun you aren't its disrespectful of him as well as imoral.

cavmanier · Answer

Well he is clearly interested in these girls. It's not "just texting."

foxrider77 · Answer

Then I would do the same thing, find some guys and have a party without the boyfriend.

RogueCrystal · Answer

Have you confronted him about it out asked to see his phone?

Browneye57 · Answer

So, you ARE dating or you're NOT? And really, why are you trying to be his mommy?

Anonymous · Answer

"we are exclusive" -> "but he doesn't want to date", what?

Agem123 · Answer

He isn't your boyfriend. If you're not okay with that situation, leave.

Anonymous · Answer

I got through 25% of your question description and had enough. When I saw your age I immediately knew why this question was so nauseating.

nerms123 · Answer

You should break up with him

lala_candy · Answer

Would be mad if he was on the Monkey app

outside_Toronto · Answer

no you're not

Moumi · Answer

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