Maybe I’m overthinking?

[Anonymous]

So I recently meet a guy we have great chemistry, hooked up on the first date.. I felt a little embarrassed cause it’s my first time doing that, anyways he mentioned he dated a girl for 5/6 years and they move to nyc, 2-3 years ago
He claims she hide him so things ended… when I went to his place the furniture and bed design also makeup booth was all hers he wants to see me again but I don’t know if I should continue seeing him.. she’s African but seems to travel there very often, he claims she has a boyfriend now. I’m in my 20s he’s turning 50 this year..

[OlderAndWiser]

"So I recently meet a guy we have great chemistry, hooked up on the first date.." Mistake if you are looking for a serious partner.

"I felt a little embarrassed cause it’s my first time doing that," You should feel embarrassed.

"anyways he mentioned he dated a girl for 5/6 years and they move to nyc, 2-3 years ago" f he tells you that on your first date, he is subconsciously warning you that he is really not avalable.

"He claims she hide him so things ended… when I went to his place the furniture and bed design also makeup booth was all hers" If it is ended, she gets her stuff out of there and he never ses her and nver talks to her again.

"he wants to see me again but I don’t know if I should continue seeing him.." I think you probably do know the answer but don't want to admit it.

"she’s African" So what?

"but seems to travel there very often, he claims she has a boyfriend now." I'm Brad Pitt! Anybody can claim anything, especially if it's helpful to get you in bed. Look at the evidence; her stuff is still at his place!

"I’m in my 20s he’s turning 50 this year.." Are you looking for a LTR, a future father of your children? Or just wanna get laid. If you like having sex and that's all you want, keep screwing him but expect to be pushed aside at some point. If you want something serioius and long term, this guy is not The One.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel uncertain about the situation. It's important to trust your instincts and consider your own feelings and boundaries. It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns and see how he responds. Ask him about the previous relationship and if there is any lingering attachment or emotional baggage that could impact your potential relationship. It's also important to consider the age difference and any potential power dynamics that could be at play. Ultimately, you should do what feels right for you and prioritize your own well-being.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like bullshit to me.

[In_Trance]

You are overthinking

[Anonymous]

50 is crazy 😭