Am I just overthinking?

[Anonymous]

Hey, 19 year old guy there. A little more than 1 week ago I met a girl (18) on a dating app. She requested me so I accepted girls since I thought she looks beautiful. We immediately clicked and we are talking about various topics and I have to say that conversation is flowing really great. We compliment eachother sometimes and yesterday we were flirting a little. It's too soon to say but for now I like how she thinks and I think she is really nice but like I said it's too soon to say for eachother that we are that nice etc. I want to take things slow because of my last breakup with my ex because od her trying to cheat on me, so I learnt that it's better to take things slowly for future relationships and it also feels much better this way. I can feel that she likes me, she also responded well yesterday when we were talking something about food and I told her I'm a great cook and yes I can say I'm a really good cook, we were flirting in like a way that who knows maybe I will cook something for her in the future and that things. I can tell she loved it and responded well. The only thing is that I almost always initiate conversation, even though she responds to me quite fast. She initiated it also few days ago but I'm almost always the one that does. I know it's mostly in girls nature to wait for a guy to text them but I don't judge that. I'm wondering just if I should maybe wait for her sometimes to text me or just forget about that thing who texts first and just text her whenever I want and if we should maybe text less because now we text wachother almost everyday but it's true that we met little less than 2 weeks ago. I'm just wondering how I should act, that's all, because I think she is beautiful on the outside and inside for now...

Thank you and regards

[etsylo]

you met not too long ago, so i think you should wait it out. it is seen in society as men texting first and women reply which i think is bull. so maybe she's warming up to the idea of letting loose around you?

either that or you may need to talk to her about it and how you feel, cuz it can suck to start to conversation almost always and it's okay to share the start. (after a while of talking to her ofc, since it's pretty new)

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply, appreciate it. I mean I would ask her out if we wouldn't live 30 miles away. So for now I can just talk to her for some time still. You are right it's too soon to talk to her about that stuff... I will just text her and stopp thinking about it so much

Regards

[etsylo]

Of course, though it's only for now. As time passes and you both keep conversing, if it stays with you always initiating things, then do have a talk. But for now yeah, try to relax cuz that's all you can do. :(

[Asker]

So I said fuck it and askeh her, cause I like being direct. She basically aaid that she really appreciates me asking her that and that it's really nice talking to me. She said that she wants to text me but just thought like "oh, maybe he is busy or maybe he just doesn't want to talk...", she basically said that she likes it that I told her that and that she can now stop thinking whether to text me or not and that she will from now on. So I guess that question is solved haha.

Regards

[etsylo]

I'm really glad things were talked out!! This turned out to be a good outcome, that's nice.

best of luck to you both from now on!