What is wrong with me that all these men would rather lose me or let go of me rather than fight for me or commit to me?

[Anonymous]

these men pursue me and try so hard to convince me to give them a chance and when I finally give in and eventually feel interested in them they act distant and detach from me which triggers my anxiety and then they tell me I’m mentally unstable and eventually leave me …

why can’t they just calm my anxiety and give me reassurance? They’d rather let me go than love me and show me they are genuine about me

[PeachyPie93]

Well.. you are believing men at their word, that is a huge mistake. Anything about love or like, is all lies up until he sleeps with you. If he says I am not looking for a relationship rn or some other bullshit excuse, know he just doesn't want to date you, he just wants to sleep with you. Do not dismiss these types of comments, a guy who can't commit to you within a month isn't interested! That is why you get to know him slowly over time before you have sex with him. Never sleep with a guy who isn't officially your boyfriend since you have no obligation to him. If you ever feel pressured or rushed to have sex, just know if you lose him because you didn't sleep with him. He was never actually interested in the first place and did you a favour. Learn from this hurt and mistake and be smarter with the next guy. Also don't let anxiety run you, if a guy makes you feel anxious he isn't the one. Block him it will save you the heartache.

[Babebytheshore85]

You're clingy, insecure, desperate, don't have a life, don't have friends, no personality, too easy and you're not their dream girl

[Zack-Bann]

You know mental anxiety is treatable right?


You’re asking what’s wrong with you and answering your own question


Most men aren’t therapists, and will eventually give up in the face constant psychotic episodes


Before getting in a relationship you need to work on yourself to become someone that a man would be lucky to date


As of now it seems you’re not

[RavVid]

It is this modern world.

Men have got the memo that they are highly disposable (i. e divorce rate).

So rather than suffer from the agony of being dumped or divorced we'd rather just keep it down to sex only. As women will be sex only now that is all we do.

[genericname85]

"they try so hard to convince me to give them a chance" implies you're playing hard to get. that overinflates your value in a mans eye and once they get to know you, they'll realize that. so you're sort of unintentionally overselling yourself by doing that, that's why you get this experience with men. if you like a man just be chill about it. no need to make it harder for them.

[jahaims]

You are clingy and aren't emotionally healthy. You also are talking to immature men who are looking to use you or if they are mature they realize how unstable you are so they move on like they should.

[Pterodon]

You mentioned anxiety twice. Could that be the overall problem?

[Asker]

I don’t see why a man can’t love or commit to an anxious woman I don’t see anything wrong with that yet men run away from me

[Pterodon]

Because anxious women can’t focus and are always putting out fires elsewhere instead of focusing on the relationship

[Asker]

I only get anxious when the guy acts distant towards me if he didn’t move funny and stayed consistent I wouldn’t have been anxious

[Pterodon]

So you want him to always focus his attention on you? You sound needy

[Asker]

It’s not that it’s more like I had sex with him and he started acting weird and drifting from me which caused me anxiety he made me believe he wanted something serious and then as soon as we had sex he distanced himself from me and told me we were only friends when I told him I wanted something serious

[Pterodon]

Ok so he fucked you and now just wants to be friends after he made you think he wanted more. I get it. How old are you? You should’ve learned this one long ago. He used you. He got what he wanted which was your pussy now he’s done with you unless you give him more pussy. This isn’t rocket science

[Asker]

Im 32 but was sheltered majority of my life, he was the second guy I’ve ever been with

[Asker]

The worst part is he Denies it and gets offended and defensive when I call him out on it and he tells me he wasn’t using me and that just because he told me we weren’t couples that it doesn’t mean he didn’t take me serious

[Asker]

He even cut me off and wants nothing to do with me anymore

[Pterodon]

I’m sorry. If it helps you’re not the only one this has happened to. Learn from it and don’t believe everything you hear which can sometimes be lies. Actions on the other hand always speak te truth

[Anonymous]

I mean if multiple men did that, you need to self introspect aaaaaaah

[Godihateyou]

Jesus christ i just read a few sentences and I'm ready to block you forever. Insufferable

[Anonymous]

Stop playing hard to get and you might find someone.

[Nikki1989]

You are meeting the wrong men.

[Anonymous]

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