Their rejection after we talked for a bit really hurts and impacts me in ways I can’t describe to anyone… sometimes men don’t tell me straight out that they’re not interested but ik their interest shifted once they became rude, mean or distant…
I think it really does create a breeding ground for obsession… I can’t go a day without checking their socials that they never even gave to me. I become very depressed and my low self esteem shatters completely.. I get jealous
Why do I still crave someone who doesn’t want me or cares about me? I could be dying and none of them would care…
But God I care about them so much. I want to be with him… knowing that he wants someone better hurts… it’s hard to let go
I think it really does create a breeding ground for obsession… I can’t go a day without checking their socials that they never even gave to me. I become very depressed and my low self esteem shatters completely.. I get jealous
Why do I still crave someone who doesn’t want me or cares about me? I could be dying and none of them would care…
But God I care about them so much. I want to be with him… knowing that he wants someone better hurts… it’s hard to let go
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Probably abandonment issues. I had the same problem. After some therapy with a psychologist, I’m okay now.
I can help you get over that feeling in a matter of days, but you would have to do everything I told you.
No mushy music, no eating junk foods because you are sad, no playing the victim, no staying at home because you are scared to face the world, no quoting "but we have a history together"
You get where I'm going with all the above? All those things are merely you wallowing in self pity, because you love the feeling of being hurt MORE than accepting it is over.
Well it IS over, and I'm sorry, really I am, but today could be the day you get your life, and the power he took from you, back again!
From now on., only play loud happy music. Only eat healthy food, jump in the shower, put on some nice clothes and get out into the world, go and see friends, family, people who care about you.
All that is why guys get over broken relationships in days instead of (however long it is taking you)
I wish you well. Stay strong.
Oof… that was Kind of a truth that I needed to hear… it’s a feeling that feels like home
I do hate myself
You don't have to hate yourself. You just have to accept that break ups are a part of life we all go through. For you to get stronger though, you have to really want it badly enough. Bad relationships are no different to bad drugs. Some people take forever to get off them, or maybe even never do.. Other people can stop cold turkey.. My way is cold turkey and if you want my help.. as i said.. I will help.
Sometimes too much clingyness makes us depart ways. We had our mother's do that already. Sometimes you need to take a breath and be as much as an introverted person as we are. And read our boundaries if we don't tell you what kind of person we want in our lifes.
Sorry just basing it off my experience in my life. I don't like to much clingyness