Did I screw up with my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Last night, I got tired of my girlfriend never texting me morning or goodnight. I always help her, and I never ask much. Literally, I don't ask her for anything at all but to just text me morning or goodnight sometimes… She can't even do that. So out of annoyance, I text her I give up. Just block me. She replied I don't have time for this, which made me feel dumb. I should have just communicated, but it also made me sad cause she didn't even care to ask what was wrong, like how I do. What should I do? Cause she acts cold towards my needs.

[Anonymous]

It is red flag which doesn't seem like red flag but it is.

You have to see how much cold she behaves how often and for what issues. Is it very frequent or only to specific things?

I feel like she doesn't care how you feel about something. And it's not a good sign. We do have emotional needs also from our partners. If that doesn't get fulfilled it's very much frustrating. And we realise this only when we get totally broken but they are not available for us.

I don't know much about your relationship how's it is. Or how you deal with things. You need to figure this out yourself. You need to ask yourself that is this relationship healthy for you? And what can you do to make it better? You know your partner better than us. You know yourself and your needs better.

Good morning good night is a small things, but the thing what's important here that why she doesn't try to put efforts on what you are need to feel the love and care from your side?

Is this communication gap? Is this gap of understanding? Or does she really doesn't bother that how you feel about something?

We cannot give any suggestions here to you. You need to find out yourself.

[Asker]

Honestly, she just runs from issues. Whenever she has a problem, I solve it with her, but when it's me, she gets mad and runs away from it. She's exhausting to be around, and she's a bit selfish. Whenever I tell her I like something she doesn't do it.

[Opinion Owner]

You won't be happy in such kind relationship. You will be always feeling more lonely.

[Opinion Owner]

She could be best mom, best daughter, best friend, nicest person but she can't be nice partner for you this way with this kind behaviour ever.

[Asker]

True. I'm done with her

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tough situation with your girlfriend. I can totally understand feeling frustrated that she never makes the effort to text you a simple good morning or goodnight, especially when you're always there for her. It's not too much to ask for a little reciprocation, you know?

But I get why the way you approached it, just telling her to block you, might have come across the wrong way. That was probably a bit too far and made you seem kinda dramatic. You're right, you should have just communicated openly about how you were feeling instead of lashing out.

At the same time, her reply of just saying "I don't have time for this" without even trying to understand where you were coming from is pretty crappy. If she cares about you, the least she could do is listen and try to work through it. The fact that she didn't even ask what was wrong shows she might not be as invested in the relationship as you are.

My advice would be to try talking to her again, but this time come at it from a calmer, more constructive place. Explain how her lack of communication makes you feel, and ask if there's a way you both can make more of an effort to stay connected. See if she's willing to compromise at all.

If she still brushes you off or gets defensive, then you might have to accept that your needs aren't being met in this relationship. You deserve someone who's willing to put in the same effort you do. Don't be afraid to walk away if she can't give you that.

I know it sucks, but try not to beat yourself up too much over how you handled it the first time. You were just being honest about your feelings, even if the delivery wasn't perfect. As long as you learn from it, you'll be alright, man. Just focus on finding someone who appreciates you.

[WindAtMyBack]

Texting sucks. I don't blame her for not texting first thing every morning and last thing at night. The point is that you want her to text but she doesn't want to. You want your way. She wants her way. Why is she the one who is wrong?

Maybe because I didn't grow up in the texting generation. But this seems like an extremely trivial thing to be upset about. It seems very needy to me.

"What should I do? Cause she acts cold towards my needs. "
Stop being so needy. Stop worrying about such trivial things.

[BonzoInBitburg]

You got mad because she doesn't text you good morning and goodnight? Really?

[slatyb]

Date someone who cares.

[Abbycado]

Lmfao XD

[Anonymous]

Lmao

[Asker]

If you got something nice to say or not? If not just fuck off my nigha

[Opinion Owner]

Calm down nibba, nu 1 her will take orders frum u, b careful