Would you let your girlfriend wear what she wants?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I let MY girlfriend wear whatever she wants, but that's because I vetted her morals and values before I got together with her, and I know she would never even want to wear something that was inappropriate. Understand that she was raised with very traditional morals and values, and rejects "modern values" completely.

I'm not in any position to "control" what any woman wears - I can only control who I will be in a relationship with. So if my girlfriend decided she was going to wear, let's say, a sheer nightie to some party or public event, I couldn't stop her, and I wouldn't - but I would end the relationship, permanently. And she knows that, and respects that, and wouldn't likely ever come anywhere close to that line - but if she thought she WAS getting close, she would come to me for guidance, because she respects my morals and values (it's one of the things that attracted her).

What anyone else does is up to them. I may not like it, but I'm not likely to share my opinion unless asked for it, and will "express my beliefs" by just removing myself from their orbit. If they don't share my values, then I don't share my time or attention with them, and that goes for anyone.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I mean to a extent if I don’t like what someone’s wearing such as I think she’s wanting sexual attention I can choose not to be with her the same as a woman could choose not to be with a man.

But I wouldn’t control someone no I can’t force someone to stop wearing something. People need to start controlling who they allow into their lives and not controlling another person.

So my girlfriend isn’t my property the best I can do is tell her I don’t like what she’s wearing. The only choice I can make is if I choose to be with her.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

Interesting question, what's the most interesting is that in France it's kinda more the reverse problem that when I was a child, they were many many men complaining that their wife / girlfriend did not wear clothes sexy enough or were not feminine enough. Nowadays there's a whole 180° compared to when I was a child / teen.

In my experience to what I can have seen most men (except religious) are usually ok with revealing clothing (so long as it's not too much, like dress above the knee are ok so long as it's not just under your butt) same with cleavage a little bit in summer in a tank top most are fine with it but one who go full to the navel is not ok. Everything is question to moderation; a bit revealing most are ok (except religious) after there's a shift with the younger generation hating it and American are a lot more prude than European on this matters too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would be concerned if my husband did. Means he doesn't care. Like I put on a real sexy black dress to test him with my cleavage on display and no bra up on display and skirt so high that if I bent over you you could see my uterus. Told him I was going to see my girls. We had an argument and we had hot steamy angry sex with me still wearing the dress, he lasted 30 seconds.

Anyway I got changed into a more modest dress, changed into my boyshorts and put on a bra as I was just calling over to see my mother anyhow.

The point is he cared enough and my goodies are for him and him alone to look at and play with.

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl or woman gets triggered at me wearing sweatpants, a Nike shirt and some Jordans on my feet, then I'll question a female over 25 wearing tight clothing in public for attention. What I don't get about females today is that they state they don't want a guy or man telling them what to do because that's a form of control, yet I've seen females control their husbands or boyfriends on what to wear, how to act, etc. that is a form of control. Another thing I don't get is what females say, "If you can't accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best," or something absurd. Yet, hardly, nowadays I don't see girls or women supporting a guy who had to work 2 crappy jobs and go to grad school by pulling all nighters doing work where he eventually becomes successful. Women will go to the guy who's successful in life.

A guy doesn't care about pursuing the cute next door girl working at cash at the local grocery market. That's the difference where women have higher expectations and those expectations are a bit ridiculous. This is why more guys nowadays don't want to date. The whole concept of incels is trying to give a guy a low blow because he's sex-deprived. But if guys are like f-it, I don't want to date then clearly he can keep it in his pants and focus on himself.

Miristheiss · Answer

I do not really give any input in what my wife wears.

I am guessing you are hinting a woman who likes to dress , sexy, tight clothes, boobs showing, short skirts, thong bikinis... etc?

I would never have been with such a woman. I wouldn't have had that in my life.

michalpl00 · Answer

She can dress sexy in my presence on a date or whatever, but cannot dress slutty. I would never have a long term partner who is looking for attention and validation from others. Generally these type of girl. Post of social media inappropriate pictures, dress slutty, have 50 guys friends, parties clubs and girls vacation only. These are BIG RED FLAGS.
The worst part is that men will get called insecure and controlling. But that’s part of the manipulation because it has to do with respecting the other person. It goes both ways. Its hard to not look insecure tho. So what I would do is state my boundaries assertively and if its not being respected I would leave her and find someone who will. What i think is extremely attractive is respect. Which is shows through actions and not words

Lliam · Answer

Yes. I might say something about a particular outfit if I thought it was unattractive. I might even kid around about some of her outfits. But I would never tell her what she can and can't wear. I'm not her boss. I don't own her.
All I care about is her behavior.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I mean of course? What kind of question is this, lol? Anyone who WOULDN'T let their girlfriend wear whatever she wants is just a controlling freak who I would suggest she break up with.

Anonymous · Answer

I might become concerned for her safety if wearing to revealing clothes.

Males can't help themselves after all and all my ex ladies have been absolutely STUNNING, so the males would simply ruin it for her because as said they can't control themselves around what they find attractive, this has been said over and over here, and I'd express my concern but in the end it's her choice.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

As long as she lets me wear what I want, I got no problem reciprocating.

Honestly I don't care at all what she wears and if she has a problem with what I wear - military uniforms with jackboots - it's her issue not mine.

RavVid · Answer

It is a problem already, if I consider I need to intervene in what she wears outside of the front door.

Inside the front I think I am entitled to demand what she wears.

So put me down for me not letting her where what she wants.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends.

She should be comfortable in what she wears. If she has a propensity to be easily influenced by fashion trends, I would draw a line when I think she is being a fool. For example: beaches - women have normalized g string thongs. I think thats a bit much and not appropriate.

But its unlikely I would be in such a situation because I don't date women who are not self-confident.

laurieluvsit · Answer

The minute a guy starts telling me what I can wear and what I can't is the minute I am out of there. Sorry, not sorry.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I might not fully like some of her stuff. But I'd never dictate her what to wear. ... I may make suggestions, though.

loveslongnails · Answer

You're 16 - your boyfriend is controlling what you wear, or if you think other girls should let their boyfriends control what they wear, you're already in trouble.

molonski2 · Answer

NO , certainly nothing too Slut like or embarrassing , presentation says a lot about an individual , she would need style and correct attire.

abc3643 · Answer

Of course. I don't own her. She can do what she wants. And, if I don't like it, then I can leave her.

Entertained_Adult · Answer

No. Looking ugly = breaking up. Do whatever it takes not to look ugly. If you don't want to break up, wear what doesn't make you ugly.

LiamJHayden · Answer

"Let?" She can do whatever she wants. Of course her actions and demeanor might result in the termination of the relationship.

laraWM · Answer

Of course, you should

lilBigPotato · Answer

If he doesn't he isn't my boyfriend anymore. He can state his opinion, but he cannot force me to wear what he likes

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Yes, I would even if she was comfortable wearing nothing but her birthday suit.

sawno · Answer

Ill give her my honest opinions but I'd never restrict her if she wants to.

glennos89 · Answer

Yeah I do but I would tell her also that I will leave her if she takes advantage of that freedom. I don't like woman who dress like sluts

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

I might not like if she wears something, but I wouldn't forbid, just would voice my disapproval.

PaleDale · Answer

Of course, it's not a matter of "let", she's a human being who can wear whatever she wants. No one has the right to tell someone else what they can or cannot wear

Fireguy17 · Answer

sure, my wife wears what she wants to wear. I have no issues with what she wears.

Dargil · Answer

What is  let , exactly?

ottawahuman · Answer

I NEVER let my woman wear flats. If I see her without heels she's I'm trouble!

MrChinaski · Answer

The problem with your question is the word 'let'. Her body, her choice.

Anonymous · Answer

I have no right to tell my girlfriend what to wear, but I do have the right to not date women who dress in certain ways.

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Yes but I wish she'd return the favour and not complain when "my shirt doesn't go good with the shorts I wear!"

WhiteThought · Answer

She can wear what she wants, but that doesn't mean I will stay with her if she does.

Grond21 · Answer

I will express my opinion, and I chose a woman with similar morals

Jove79 · Answer

Depends on what it is.. if it’s something really slutty, I think I’d ask her to change kindly

jamesgoldman · Answer

As long as it isn't a fake watch or crap jewellery sure

V1ka5h · Answer

Yes I would until and unless it is very short. And talking about bedroom 😏😏 whatever she likes even without dress...

NYlatefun · Answer

Yes, well unless I lived in the 1800s. Do guys tell women what to hear nowadays? That seems ridiculous.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Yes as I couldn't stop her , but I wouldn't like it and it'd make me jealous if she gets male attention

robocop666 · Answer

Well I wish every woman on earth dressed like Jelena Karleusa

Staximus · Answer

I don't care what she wears, as long as she's not dressed like a hooker

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Yes, of course... i can surely suggest her but its totally upto her if she wanna take my opinion or not...

noohair · Answer

Trying to control another person is not fun...

Osborne775 · Answer

As long she allows me to wear whatever I want then yes absolutely

BDRick · Answer

Everything we do is in good cahoots with one another so yes

Gaylordslav · Answer

She won't respect a man who doesn't act like her father

Sluttt · Answer

All mem and women are shit so people would say yes why not

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Probably. If she wants to cheat, that's her prerogative

Notsoswifttaylor · Answer

Depends. Is there a specific reason to this question? My ex did. But it was to try and be picked up.

TheLimeNan · Answer

I'm not going to dictate what she's wears, completely up to her

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, but if I had a girlfriend, yes I would.

Lena7637 · Answer

Me as a lady I don’t dress anyhow cos dressing is your addressing

QuietRunner · Answer

If she looks like that and wear that then yes

NoDecision · Answer

Chocolate is a troll and a guy.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i couldn't deal with that

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely!

DrPepper12 · Answer

Let? LET? You're young.

exitseven · Answer

yes, probably.

Catailian94 · Answer

With in reason if it’s presentable.

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

Within reason, I'm not the jealous type

Alex-Snow · Answer

Of course. It is her body and her choice

WonderingManII · Answer

Yes, as long as she is kind to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Go back to sleep.

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