If she’s having skirt, would you set a limit of how its length? how much cleavage?
Or are you the type that wouldn’t mind what your girlfriend dressed and be proud of she’s being looked by other guys on the street.
Please share you opinion.
There’s two answers to that...
When women dress sexy enough to attract EXTRA attention they’re actually advertising themselves to other guys. Similar to flirting. Both flirting & advertising work against loyalty on the current relationship potentially. Very likely the less serious the relationship is.
A lot of guys are too dumb to know that the woman they’re with in a “serious” relationship doesn’t actually think the relationship is serious & is actively looking to upgrade.
Now a guy could understand all this & not care because she’s replaceable if she cheats. But you have others who are just clueless & in “love”.
Anyhow, as long as no violence or mental abuse is involved there’s no such thing as right/wrong in relationships. There’s simply negotiated terms/compatibility or lack of compatibility.
I personally have no problem with my woman dressing ‘attractive’ but there’s a line where it becomes “dressing like a whore” and is inappropriate for my relationship. Like if she wore super short skirt with no undies. Or wearing skimpy undergarments only in public. That sh*t might have been cute/cool in a non serious relationship but I ain’t having it in a relationship where she expects to get life insurance, total loyalty & marriage level perks.
Yes. I mean I wouldn't dictate her every action or article of clothing but if she is going out in ultra revealing clothing its pretty damn clear that she is interested in male attention that isn't mine. That would be off putting to me, again, if she is going out with friends or what have you wearing clothing that is specifically designed to garner male attention. Its like holding up a neon sign that says "I'm single and looking". Its disrespectful to me and our relationship and I would put it in the same category as a man flirting with women while in a relationship, you can say its harmless all you want but your clearly signaling to others that you don't respect your relationship and by extension your significant other.
If I were her boyfriend, I would set a strict dress code for any person that is entering my house, regardless of gender. I pay the rent and I am the one that says what goes.
Girlfriend or not, as long as she is a visitor in my place, I make the rules and those are that people should dress in a way that no cleavage be visible, that a crop top is not adequate or that the skirt will be down to the knees and that she has to wear a matching bra and underwear. I expect a similar decent dress code for any male.
Other than that, she may dress the way she wants as long as I don't have to be seen together with her in less than adequate clothing.
@EmmaMary absolutely and that is basically what I do when I have to go to others' places. I make sure that I am buttoned up to the top and that I have non revealing, baggy clothes on.
Before even going to anyone's place, I always ask what the dress code is for the occasion. If it is a dress code that does not suit me, then I politely decline the invitation. That is the least decency you can show by dressing up adequately.
Wow okay, found the one toxic person on this post.
@Gods_Gift it is called decency and respect towards others.
Wait- why does it matter if her bra and underwear matches? Lol. No one is going to see them; that's the whole point.
Well it's quite a bit further than most people feel the need to go in this regard. I mean it's clearly what you want to do, and that's fine, but I find it interesting that you feel these standards are right for everybody. In my case I'm very clear that my standards and values aren't everybody else's, and that other people don't have a reason to conform to them!
@Gods_Gift If you own a place and you have children living under your roof for example, you want them to abide by the house rules right? you would not them to have wild sex while you are in the house.
If I invite people to my place, they should also abide to my dress code and not appear half naked. On the other hand, if I know that the place I am invited to will tolerate half naked people, then it is also my prerogative not to to attend since I might be subjected to that type of dress code.
I place a very high standard on proper behavior and being half naked is not what I would consider being appropriate and therefore it is not my place to be.
I bet that SueSue is the anti fun police who wants to control other people lives
Except she’s your equal and you’re not her parent. Rules in a relationship is fucked up
As a women, I’d respect it if my future partner asked me (politely) to not wear any revealing clothes but if they start to act possessive over every little thing that I wear = that’s a NO from me! I’d dump their ass right there!! I’m down for compromise but I won’t be treated like a puppet. 🙃
I notice you didn't describe what every little thing means.
You can’t set rules for your partner
You can set boundaries for yourself
You can discuss expectations and beers together
You can break up with people you feel do not honor the relationship
You can’t order adults.
Guys that have rules about how their girlfriend is dressed are guys that want to be sure that they don't have a girlfriend!
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I don't make rules for others, especially for my partner. If I didn't like her style and trust her judgement, I wouldn't have chosen her in the first place.
If this is about her dressing sexy, I'll say that I am proud to have my sexy looking women walking beside me with her arm slipped through mine. People can gaze all they want and eat their hearts out.
I so suppose that if she was dressed racy and going out without me I might wonder what was up. That would be weird but, again, I wouldn't be with her in the first place if I didn't like her style and trust her judgement. I certainly wouldn't act like a jealous, controlling douche and treat her like my teen age daughter. "Young lady, you aren't wearing that outside. Go straight back up to your room and change." lol
I trust her, COMPLETELY, and yes, all caps for emphasis!! She likes to look good, and I know that she likes that, not just for me, but for others! She says she hates it when guys hit on her, but I think she really does like it, and feels like it is a compliment, but she says she hates it, so I won't be jealous, maybe?
I wouldn't be jealous, as having strangers, and even people she works with, commenting on how she looks and looks amazing!! That makes her feel good, so why would I be jealous, and hate something that makes her feel really good about herself?
I think she is REALLY HOT!! I can't imagine why she loves me so much, as I have nothing to offer but cooking well, my sense of humor, that she adores, and how I make sure she has a lot of joy, sexually, before I even consider loving her, like I like. Is that it? Maybe putting her, before me? I don't know! :)
Ok I would honestly, I feel like I get jealous pretty easily and it happened in my high school relationship cos she was very touchy and flirty. But I would say she shouldn't dress provocatively for her own safety as well. Mostly at night, showing more skin when going out will probably get unwanted attention from people like pervs or dangerous guys and I would hate for something to happen to her. This is assuming she's out by herself or with friends, if we were going out together I would probably be less uptight cos I'm with her. I feel like I'm just overprotective cos I care too much about things in general
I wouldn't force the agenda, but if she's habitually going out dressed like a cheap French whore and soliciting male attention left and right, then red flags will be going off in my head. tbh a girl like that probably is better off single, coz she clearly has need for male attention that can't be sated by monogamous relationship. I'd ask her to change just once, and if she doesn't then that tells me all I need to know about her intentions.
But of course if she dresses with some modesty but leaves a little sexiness in there, then that can be quite flattering, coz deep down every guy wants to "show off" his girl-- we just don't wanna worry about if she's low-key looking for fresh dick on the side
@kim45456 a relationship is really a series of mutual agreements, so neither party should "follow the other's rules", but the relationship's boundaries should be negotiated continually. If we have an agreement that she doesn't dress like a prostitute, then it would be equally reasonable to agree that I not go out flirting openly with other girls. I can give and take. Like I said, I wouldn't force anything without her involvement in coming to mutual agreements. I'd just be more likely to gravitate towards girls who dress with a bit of class, and not going out half-naked to the club while her boyfriend sits at home thinking "well as long as she's happy in that skimpy outfit, I'm happy!"
Anyway I'm talking about the more extreme examples, I'm certainly not the type to control what a girl can and can't wear. But if she's going obviously overboard into "whore territory", then of course I'm gonna call her out over it.
If that was a deal breaker for her, then nobody's putting a gun to her head forcing her to stay. She can leave me anytime, and I'll find a girl who's more compatible in her vision of the relationship boundaries.
@kim45456 dressing super slutty while in a relationship is no different than verbal flirting. Its a sexual display. But oh right i forgot, its apparently one rule for thee and another for me
" dressing super slutty while in a relationship is no different than verbal flirting. Its a sexual display. " wtf no. Clothes are clothes. Blame man whores who look at your girlfriend. By flirting you an extra effort but clothin you do nothing, why it is your fault when men whores hit on you? Why so incesure?
@kim45456 do you not understand how "cause and effect" works? We're going in circles here. Dressing like a slut = sexual male attention and come-ons. Its wilful and deliberate.
@kim45456 thats not even the same category of comparison. And no i dont dress like a manwhore, I dress like a normal person who's not fishing for attention.
You're the only one being hypocritical here, coz you're basically saying a woman has no responsibility for how men react to a deliberate conscious choice to present Herself in a particular way
@kim45456 can you stop deflecting for five seconds and just accept that dressing like a slut invites men to act as if a girl wants to "be slutty"? Women in relationships who do this know exactly the effect they're producing; and their boyfriends are usually naive enough to believe she's just "expressing herself", so she's essentially gaslighting her boyfriend by acting as if its not a sexual display. Of course men in relationships can do the equivalent behaviour (eg: "oh baby I'm just hanging out with friends, noo baby that girl is like a sister to me, I'd never flirt with her" he says, while flirting heavily with other girls)
How about blaming the man whores who look at and cat cally your gf? Just because they are not anle to control themself we should face the consequences? Why do watch porn? I know man women who dont like their men watching and it is an emotional cheating. Why do women always have to comprimise? If you dont want your partner wear revealing shit, you bettter cover your eyes and stop looking at other women. Is the same shit
How about blaming the man whores who look at and cat call your gf? Just because they are not able to control themself, we should face the consequences? Why do men watch porn? I know many women who dont like their men watching porn and it is an emotional cheating for them. That is gas lightning!! Why do women always have to comprimise? If you dont want your partner wear revealing shit, you bettter cover your eyes and stop looking at other women. Is the same shit
" (eg: "oh baby I'm just hanging out with friends, noo baby that girl is like a sister to me, I'd never flirt with her" he says, while flirting heavily with other girls)" a woman who dress revealing dont touch or flirt with other men you slut!! Are you stupid? That is like blaming women for rape just because she wears revealing shit.
@kim45456 okay maybe we're not seeing eye to eye here. So to clarify,-- I'm only referring to the women who INTEND (consciously or subconsciously) to use slutty attire to invite male sexual attention. Its usually in the last weeks or months of a relationship, where emotionally she's maybe already "checked out" on her monogamous commitment, or is moving in that direction. I guess some girls are truly secure and fulfiled in relationship and wpuld never cheat or willingly invite male attention of that natire... but they just feel confident and free when revealing, "slutty" clothes from time to time.
The trouble is, the former is hard to tell from the latter, because the former tricks their partner into thinking they ARE the latter.
P. s. the photos you posted are not what I refer to as "slutty". I'm talking about going out to club with skimpy little tube top and short shorts or somethong to that effect. I'm not trying to make women "cover their modesty" or some 1950s shit
Look it is ok if you want modest girls. For me clothes are clothes and it has nothing to do with cheating but i understand that you get jealous, if other men look at your gf's revealing skin. So just date women who wear not revealing clothes. I respect your preferences but dont understand the reason behind it. Anyway it is sensless to discuss, we both have different opinions and can't agree
@kim45456 perhaps.. I actually agree with lot of what you've said, I just think a lot of it is context-dependent. I also think there is lot of middle ground between modest and slutty.
are you F ing kidding? Who's making these questions up? Gentlemen please sont respond, its trick question. If you rhought you had any say you're dumb but the fact that you think dresses to impress you? She dress for the women rhat she wikl xross paths with where ever you may be going. leave the man woman debate be, we gentleman will lose that fight every time, and do not even go , oh i can beat her up, see where it would get you if you even just attemped to. Once when my wife and i took karate classes together, i had sparred with a lower level belt and i showed off and qon badly. Do yoy know how instructor put me in my place and taught me a vrry valuable lesson? He made me spar with my wife. I had to let her do what i had just done, why' , because he knew that i would bring shame on myself and my ghee. When he stopped us, he awarded her the winner and i bowed to her then walked over and bowed to the other persob ; then shook his hand and sat down.
Yes. Not that she can't wear anything revealing. Sometimes the clothes they like just happen to be a bit revealing, but if she's going out with her girls and she dresses up like she's looking to get fucked, I'm not okay with that. If I go out with the guys, and I dress myself up and try to look my best, she question that too. Why do I need to look like that if I'm just hanging out with my friends?
What would be the point in dating an attractive girl, but hiding her light under a bucket? My niece dated a fool like this who told her she couldn't wear dresses or skirts. When I tell you I hit the mf roof! It's a control issue and a lack of trust. I'd never allow it.
My only rule is that she is dressed appropriately for the setting. Something that I'd be perfectly fine with her wearing to an adults-only evening private party could be completely inappropriate for a family reunion, for example.
I've rarely had any issues with this kind of thing in 30 years, and on the very few occasions I have, she's usually asked me "do you think this is okay?" before I even needed to say anything.
If she would have a clothing habit that I'd not be comfortable with: I don't believe that we would have gotten together.
I sometimes wish that my girl would try different things, but that's her own choice. When she's not comfortable in her 'outfit' ... that 'helps' no one.
So: no rules.
Whattt? Seriously honey? This sounds like as if a girlfriend is slave to her boyfriend that he would set limits n rules for her
I think everyone has the right to dress up as they want and others shouldn't have a say in it
And my boyfriend is very very good in this he himself buys me short n revealing dresses n he says he is proud of me n loves it when others see me with those lusty eyes thst they can only see me but not get me
It's tough I'd say it depends on her personaility if she has a tendency to be very close and intimate with people maybe a little more modest but if she knows how to be confident and how to hold herself aka distance and boundaries maybe a little less
But overall I think you know what you are getting into with how they dress when you are dating them you don't want to take something away from who they are. Besides as you get older their are more natural transitions into more modest clothes
Well, not really.
If I don't find the way someone dresses to be acceptable, then I simply won't ever date them.
If I'm already dating someone, clearly, they must have passed my initial assessment about them.
SHOULD they drastically alter the way they dress once we are already dating, then yes I will bring it up and I will remind them that people fall for each other for certain reasons, and that you can't expect people to remain interested in you when you take away those reasons.
i said no as a vote on the poll , but i will say that , i dont actually give her the rules but sometimes it does bother me , even though when i think about it , she wears some revealing stuff , and guys find that hot then its a compliment to me in the end , seeing as she's my girlfriend
To the guys white knighting and claiming they wouldn't have a problem with it, bullshit. Stop lying to yourself and others.
If a girl goes out of her way to dress revealingly she isn't a good girl. For me at least. It's disrespectful and shows she exploits her sexuality and is likely to be more open to casual encounters. All of these things I am against.
@kim45456 oh I'm sorry are you upset that I call out whores for being whores? You mad that I don't want to be with a girl who shows herself off? Why? Why feel the need to show yourself off to other men? How is that not disrespectful?
@kim45456 uh yeah? When they are doing stupid and disgusting stuff? You're telling me you never criticize someone for something? You NEVER call someone out for their behavior you don't appreciate? You're a fucking liar if you say you don't.
@kim45456 I'm going to call Donald Trump an idiot. I'm going to call Joe Biden a daft brain dead fool. Kamala Harris a race baiting traitor. Mayor Pete a gay figurehead for the DNC. Ron Paul a psuedo intellectual libertarian idiot who should stick to foreign policy.
I'll call SJWs triggered little bitches for being upset by simpe language.
I'll bash conservatives for being hypocritical cunts.
Mockery and insults are what I do. People do it a the time. There is a kissass loser a few tables behind me sucking up to a cop because he's an idiot who is braindead and hates the government yet sucks every cops dick. He deserves to be mocked. Will I do it and make a scene? No. But I will make fun of him.
Its super hard to find a woman who understands the importance of decency
I do have rules, I stopped dating women who dress like whores and reveal themselves for likes.
I can't be bothered with trying to undo decades of satanic and predatory programming.
I just want a woman who intrinsically has decency and covers herself appropriately
No rules as I don’t wanna be an oppressor, but there would be potential outfits (ones that are popular with girls lately) that I would not appreciate or be complimentary towards 🤐
Luckily, my lady allows me to be her stylist often too, so I’m still satisfied with how she would dress regularly 👗👠👒💃🏻
She had a life as an independent being before I came along. Who the hell am I to show up and start making rules. When you pair up with someone you take the whole package. If you can offer some sound advice or a helpful word that's ok. But don't waltz into someones life and start making changes, that's the fastest way to be shown the door.
I would tell her I wouldn't like her to dress like a slut. Otherwise I'll accept most anything. However there is one style of jeans which makes me question why the hell someone ever thought it would be a good idea to clothe humans with such things. So, that'd also be a no-go zone.
If she dressed and looked like the girls in the photos, I'd love it. However, if she dresses and acts like this girl to flirt with other guys, I'm not going to like it.
Listen if you are in a relationship then compromise is necessary. You ever notice how girls with shirts longer than their pants are rarely in public with their boyfriends?
If you think something is comfortable then that's cool but you should find a guy who is okay with the dress code you like. Don't expect guys to be just okay with you walking around in whatever.
For a lot of guys clothing is like a personality trait so what he sees other guys will see.
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