Would you date someone who doesn't believe in marriage?

[7Phoenix7]

🤝❤️ without 💍

[ohsheeT]

If I really liked them yes if they had a beautiful heart smart wise happy can smile yes I would ..

If she can commit with her her heart soul mind spirit yes I would

It's the Piece of paper that is witness. That the marriage was in front of God.

In my heart no matter what wo do it's going to be in front of God. Shhh lol

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Well, *gets on mic* I am one of these people. It’s a piece of paper, that details western patriarchal nonsense. I’d rather not subject myself to any more of that than what I see in the world everyday. Play with my money and time? I think not. If I want to just up and leave signing that paperwork I kind of forfeited doing it peacefully. I don’t believe in marriage. I’m even skeptical of committed partners and “common law marriage”.

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao 🩷

[7Phoenix7]

This is my first time ever seeing you here on gag and I love you already hahaha

[Joshydavid25]

"western patriarchal nonsense." Marriage often benefited the woman as well as the man.. Especiallysince the world throughout history wasn't as safe and laxed as it is today, and is in all cultures outside of the West..

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Thank you, I’ve been around a little over a decade. I just pop on when I feel there are fun questions like this one.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@Joshydavid25

-_-… *sighs* I stand on my point. Clearly you’re a champion for the “western patriarchal nonsense”. The world isn’t lax it’s gotten more dangerous towards women and children. Women didn’t benefit hardly. Especially when we’re talking about how the United States didn’t allow women to have credit cards or buy homes till the 60s. We’re still having to argue and advocate for autonomy over our own bodies especially our reproductive organs with the very individuals that can’t store an entire infant in their body.

[Joshydavid25]

"Clearly you’re a champion for the “western patriarchal nonsense”."

As I mentioned, it's a "Western" thing, every culture around the world since the beginning has had marriage as an institution and it goes beyond a piece of paper.. And if you look throughout history it wasn't til recently in the last 200 years that people weren't breaking their backs farming or working mines, or working fields all day.. When the first feminist were "advocating" for something like "voting rights", most women didn't really care for it, and you even had anti suffragettes against feminism.. Most women wanted to get married to have a man take care of them because there were no cushy office jobs..

As for credit cards, the first one was issued in 1956.. Most people didn't own one (even men).. It was a new thing reserved for mostly bread winners.. I'm sure most women weren't worried about something they're husbands probably didn't even have.. Not even 20 years after it was introduced were women given the privilege of a card.. Same with home ownership..

You have more autonomy over your bodies than men do.. It's easy not to get recklessly pregnant because you want to live a hedonistic lifestyle.. There are plenty of women against abortion so it's not a man vs. woman thing.. You can do whatever you want with your own body, it's the baby the people worry about..

[Joshydavid25]

It's not**..

[Simslover92]

I don't think I could. I want to be married one day so that would go against that.

[7Phoenix7]

I feel like a guy who truly loved you would marry you just because it means something to you. Even if it wasn't a desire for him.

[Simslover92]

Yeah I thought so too but it just didn't go that way for me and my ex. He was very hesitant in wanting to marry me. He was against it for a long time and lo and behold he proposes to another girl a little after we broke up. So I guess I just wasn't the right one for him in the end and I guess he didn't love me enough to want to. But this new guy is so different. I think he would want to in a heartbeat. I just hope it works out.

[7Phoenix7]

Wow that story about your ex is crazy smh...

I'm glad it's much different with your new guy.

[Simslover92]

Me too.

[Keyboardkat]

I'm way past that stage in life, but I can tell you that when I was single and dating, I wouldn't have wasted my time with a girl who didn't believe in marriage! I always loved blind dates back then, because there was always the tantalizing possibility that the next one could be "the one." I also never wanted sex without love. I wanted the whole package.

[7Phoenix7]

I'm not a woman who doesn't believe in marriage. Just to be clear 😌.

I only ask questions because I am interested in what others have in their minds.

And I don't like sex without love either. Thank you for commenting, @Keyboardkat!

[Cormac995]

Yes, I don't want to get married by law but I'm fine with a small private ceremony for close family and friends. If not I'm fine with that too if a little disappointed but to me the life time commitment is the part that matters most not a ceremony.

[glennos89]

Definitely I would! I don't believe in marriage anymore aswell because I think marriage isn't in any way benefitial for men any longer. Too many woman have been taking advantage of the privaleges they get for divorcing and men aren't willing to take that risk anymore

[bddddd]

100%

In Australia, if you live together for 2 years and do things like have children or mingle finances then you have all the same rights and obligations as a de facto marriage as you do in a de jure marriage.

Okay there are some things that will take longer and require more paperwork in a de facto marriage, like sponsoring a partner to migrate permanently for example. But it is all achievable.

If you don't enjoy paperwork, put a ring on her.

[Keyboardkat]

We have the same concept in certain states (not all) in the U. S. It's called "common law marriage." I think it requires that you've been living together for at least six months. There are probably other requirements, depending on what state you're living in, but I'm not clear on those.

[Keyboardkat]

If you're really interested in doing that, you of course should consult a lawyer who practices matrimonial law.

[lyrem04]

Absolutely not! I date to marry, so I wouldn’t get with someone if I don’t see marriage in the future

[7Phoenix7]

Makes sense!

[AydenHazor]

I don't know. For most of my life I've been taught and considered marriage to be the penultimate goal of dating. Now I'm getting to the point where I'm ok with dating for the sake of dating, but also I'm ok being single and just having friendships as well. I'm not going to seek out a dating relationship, but am open to one. I'm not sure how I feel about dating sometime who doesn't believe in marriage, but I also doubt I'll be in a situation to make that choice anytime soon lol

[nastyb]

let me tell you what I have noticed through the years:

Usually only people who grew up in broken homes tend to not believe in marriage

[7Phoenix7]

You might be right about that lol I haven't researched.

I do believe in marriage and I grew with both of my parents in my life.

[Crimsyjo]

I would now because I don't need marriage for love and commitment. Back when I was young I needed marriage for having a family. So marriage is not about love it's about legal documentation and that's why it isn't important relationship wise.

[dragoblack]

Yep. Marriage doesn't really give any benefit nowadays. Marriage used to just be a romantic binding ritual of promise... nowadays it's just an expensive ritual to flaunt cash like one is rich (usuallyaround the price for a cheap house or decent brand new vehicle), and a combining tax contract, that fucks the guy over, should either party decide to cancel the marriage contract.
If i was just a romance ritual, without the expensive theatrics, then I'd be fine with it.

[exitseven]

Yes, Enjoying somebody's company without it having to result in a life long commitment can be nice.

[7Phoenix7]

That's true

[PeachyPie93]

Maybe it depends why he was against marriage if it was just that he is scared to lose half. I wouldn't because it shows he doesn't trust me all, so why even date at that point.

[Jove79]

I don’t even like the thought of marriage, so I wouldn’t mind at all.

[7Phoenix7]

Why don't you like the thought of marriage

[Jove79]

Because I know dudes who got married, and it was such a beautiful thing, “In sickness and in health, till death do us part” you promise your partner that they’re yours and you are theirs. It’s beautiful right? Meanwhile the wife was bend over arched all the way for another man and on her knees. It’s sickening, and traumatized me. I’m good. I’ll be 10000000% faithful and everything else, I just won’t marry anyone

[7Phoenix7]

You shouldn't make those types of decisions based on your friends experiences. Not all women are like your friends' girls.

[Jove79]

After seeing nice families torn apart, and being cheated on in the past, on top of countless stories I’ve read and videos I’ve seen.. I won’t ever get married. Are you married?

[7Phoenix7]

I understand what you're saying, but you should try not to focus on the negatives. There are sooo many successful marriages and couples that have grown old together. I have seen them.

Yes, I was married before. I met my ex in high-school when I was in 9th grade and we became a couple when I was in 12th grade. We got married 4 years later. We were married 10 years.

[Jove79]

You were married for 10 years, he’s now your ex. What happened

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Absolutely, it's a blessing 🙏🏼. Because I distrust some symbols embedded in marriage, so it makes our views more unified if she doesn't believe in it either

[clampfan101]

Dating to me is either a search for marriage or a celebration of one we currently have. Anything else would simply be hanging out.

[7Phoenix7]

Loll

[clampfan101]

What’s funny?

[7Phoenix7]

The part where you said, anything else would be simply hanging out. I don't know it made me giggle lol

[clampfan101]

It was just a way of saying I don’t do things like one night stands or friends with benefits.

[7Phoenix7]

I gotcha

[thegreenyogi]

Of course I would. What matters to me is finding love and happiness and not necessarily is marriage a precursor of that.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe. If I really liked them. I’m not wedded (excuse the pun lol) to the idea of marriage. Definitely not anytime soon.

[RedTiefling]

Yessss way less pressure. Some people seem to chase titles rather than love.

[Anonymous]

No. When I was dating it was on the promise of one day marrying.

[BDRick]

You just described Lzzy Hape to the T lol
And to answer said question, if she’s as attractive as Lzzy then yeah, I’d give it a whirl in hopes of changing her viewpoint

[Joshydavid25]

Maybe, if the vibe was right... JK.. Nah, I wanna get married one day..

[WonderingManII]

No because the point of dating is figure out who to get married too.

[Massageman]

No - my wife might have issues about that. ;- )

[Anonymous]

Not knowingly.

Just because we date doesn't mean we're ever getting married. But I would at least like to think that's always a possibility that it can get to that point.

[WhiteThought]

Yes, because I'm perfectly okay with not being married. Doesn't benefit men anyway.

[Stella1998_]

Sure I don't have a problem being long term relationship.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, since I am not inclined to marry under the current laws where I live.

[DannyUk2017]

Yes i would, been married and actually is worse...

[7Phoenix7]

Oh wow

[DannyUk2017]

@7Phoenix7... Yup! So that's why single, When both commit (at the start) is Beautiful, when othe fades away and turn its interest on to Material things, then you'll realise what a mistake was to get that deep...🤷‍♂️

[7Phoenix7]

I've been married as well. I know the good and the bad too 🫠

[DannyUk2017]

Fair enough. 👍

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Absofuckinglutely! Yes! 100%

[7Phoenix7]

I associate that word with you lol...

"Absofuckinglutely" 😆

[Static_In_The_Attic]

That is one of the many words people associate with me & I feel honored.

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

There is also Absofreakinglutely but I seem to use absofuckinglutely a lot.

[7Phoenix7]

I prefer fucking as well lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Me too! lol.

[7Phoenix7]

Absolutely 😋

[Professor-college]

Well that depends and what kind of a woman she is

[Phoenix98]

Hmm no probably not.

[7Phoenix7]

You wanna marry some day?

[Phoenix98]

Yup.

[7Phoenix7]

Alright then we will...

Lmao jk 😉 Happy Friday

[Phoenix98]

Lol thanks.

[loveslongnails]

I prefer it !!

[7Phoenix7]

Why lol

[DishLady]

Probably not.

[FenixG45]

Date? Yes. Marry? NO!

[7Phoenix7]

What? Lol

[FenixG45]

I dated my Ex girlfriend for 3 years. I would have married her, but She told me she DIDN'T want kids! We broke up, she married someone else!

[7Phoenix7]

Wow..

[alice55]

I wouldn't as I want to get married.

[itsannalee]

Nope, because my intention was to married.

[Godihateyou]

Nope. What's the point?

[7Phoenix7]

You are giving me inspiration for my next question lol...

[Godihateyou]

I like your questions.

[7Phoenix7]

I like your authenticity

[elizamichale1]

I wouldn't mind

[KittygosMeoWW]

Hell no

[7Phoenix7]

Loll

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes i dont want to get married

[AndrésC64]

Definitely. I don't.

[7Phoenix7]

And how come?

[AndrésC64]

Been there, done that. The marriage per se is pretty useless. People get married and divorced all the time. Signing a piece of paper doesn't make it any better when you're in a bad marriage. Saying that you're going to stay with each other forever in front of a bunch of people doesn't mean that it's true.

[7Phoenix7]

How long were you married?

[AndrésC64]

Married 9 years together 12. It was the longest 9 years of my life. I should have gotten out much sooner.

[Zoi2000]

Sure i’m down for cohabitating.

[Amur8711]

I don't think so, I want to be joined to be one.

[sage2021]

No I wouldn't

[Anonymous]

Nope I wouldn’t

[Anonymous]

I would, if she's my type of girl.

[MasterKS]

Yes because i also dont believe in marriage!

[loveyouoak]

I wouldn't.

[Miah06]

No...

[LilLesbLover]

Yeah

[In_Trance]

Absolutely

[eagle1951]

yes.