What is a dating double standard that you can't stand?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

All double standards are stupid but not everyone subscribes to the same double standards. Some people have double standards because they were taught it from a young age others are just at best narcissistic.

I think for women telling a man that he isn’t allowed to be emotional, must be so tall, earning so much money, etc. But for her she should be accepted for her body weight even if she’s overweight among other things. Women for instance who are super tall complaining how no men want her because of her height but then crying how she wants a man as tall or taller then her. So she can be picky but nobody else should be. Now, you’re attracted to who you’re attracted to male or female. That’s the way it is nobody’s entitled to anybody.

The next one applies to men or women whoever’s controlling. They need to know everything you’re doing, demand access to your phone, try to control what you do, when you do it, who you’re around, etc. But never them they will never give you a explanation to what they’re doing. Likely because they’re doing everything they are accusing you of.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I despise all double standards, but I think the one that annoys me the most is that women are allowed to have a whole list of requirements for any man she dates, but when a man asks what she brings to the table, he gets crucified for it.

If a guy fits all of her requirements, 6ft, 6 fugure salary, etc, and is expected to provide for her, take care of her, and pay all her bills; what the hell does she provide that makes her worth that? What will she do to justify being taken care of?

I don't give a crap about traditional gender roles in marriage, mind you: if she wants to work, split the bills, and the housework, fantastic. If she expects to be pampered, and financially provided for by her husband, then she damned well better cook, clean, and take care of the kids. It's only fair.

If he's paying for everything, has to cook his own food, and clean the house, too, then why have a wife at all? If you want a traditional husband, then be a traditional wife. I can't stand the entitlement of women that demand everything, but offer nothing.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

That is okay for a woman beat/slap a man but not okay when a man slap/beat a woman.

Like when a couple fights in public place and the man lost his temper and slap the woman, people will immediately help the woman no matter what. But if a woman slap a kan in public area, people won’t care and maybe there is some of them who say
“He deserves it”. Without knowing the problem.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Who pays for dates. Thats why my policy is this  You ask me on a date, you pay. I ask you on a date, i pay.  If we can't afford to do so, we split the bill or you pay me back.

Avicenna · Answer

Look, if a woman wants to know your height before you meet, you‘re getting the benefit of knowing something important about her beforehand. And if she rules out meeting you because of your height, you didn’t waste any money on her and less time.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Guys get angry if you reject them, but not immediately, after a period of time. They get angry you have standards when they also have standards.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

In my dating/relationship world I only ran across one double standard through an ex-fiancé. She would constantly eat off my plate (never once asked permission) to the point where I wasn’t eating enough. Purely out of curiosity I tried doing the same thing by eating off her plate. That woman stabbed me hard enough with her plastic fork that she drew a fair amount of blood from the back of my hand with the following words, “Only the Deserae can eat off your plate and you are never to eat off the Deserae’s plate.” Somewhere along the lines she started speaking in the third person. As odd as it was I never said anything about it as she was already growing more violent … small case in point my getting jousted by a plastic fork over attempting to try a potato from her plate. Mind you, I always paid for EVERYTHING! Even on my own birthday when we went out.

I never dated a woman remotely like her ever again. I can spell the type from miles away. That was my one and only experience with any form of double standard in my dating world. The rest have been quite civilized and amiable.

Jonasjonaitis · Answer

n dating, it’s so normalized for women to openly express feelings, fears, needs, and insecurities — and it’s even considered endearing or intimate. But when men do it, too often it gets labeled as “too much,” “needy,” or unattractive. It’s as if a man expressing his loneliness, anxiety, or affection is breaking some unspoken rule about masculinity being stoic and detached. And the irony? Everyone says they want honesty and openness in a partner. But when it arrives wrapped in male vulnerability, people don’t always know how to handle it. It holds people back, keeps them performing versions of themselves, and builds these weird emotional walls where they should be bridges. Dating would be so much healthier if we stopped categorizing emotions by gender and just let people be messy, complicated, honest humans.

DrPepper12 · Answer

The whole body count thing is the dumbest twisted sickness that has come to dating since hymen inspections.

It's irrelevant, in the past, unchangeable & NUNYA if he/she wants privacy about it. It simply doesn't matter.

LiamJHayden · Answer

When some girl who still lives with her parents expects the guy to  own  property. Even though I do, it seems a bit odd to me. She can be living in her parents' spare room, but if he is renting a house on the beach, that is not good enough.

Cormac995 · Answer

Men are supposed to pay. For gods sake just go dutch. The economy is shit and you're not even a couple until you're at least a few weeks in, in most cases. You wanted equal rights how about equal budgetary responsibility?

Anonymous · Answer

When a woman cheats it's a man's fault, when a man cheats it's a man's fault.

Or a man having standards and boundaries is insecure, a woman having standards and boundaries is empowered and feminist.

Or it's okay to use a man for his resources and money, but it's not okay for a man to use a woman for sex.

There are hundreds.

Anonymous · Answer

None really. And that's only because a person who propagates a double standard only makes it easy for me to rule them out. A relationship is a PARTNERSHIP. If she's not interested in being a partner than it's better that someone else deal with her.

Now that I've said that, I do think some are silly. And I do think women do themselves a great disservice by seeking many of them. But hey, it's thier life. It's thier choice to live it how they wish.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Ambiguity, unclear communication, not saying what you mean, trying to control what your partner does.

When men do it, it's profoundly abusive. When women do it, it's an expression of her love and all part of the courtship process.

DonaldDarko · Answer

All of them. They are rooted in evolution and immutable. That's why I don't date. I think this is why there have always been monks and hermits. People just catch on to how things are.

exitseven · Answer

If you want to pickup somebody for sex if you are a woman there is a 90%chance you can walk into a bar and go home with a guy. If you are a guy the odds are maybe 0.5%. It is just not fair.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I never faced any double standard in dating, or if I did, I didn't notice, so I can't find anything to hate here

Shy_Steve · Answer

The biggest double standard is that when a Shy Guy doesn’t make the first move, he’s seen as uninterested or weak, but when a Shy Girl does the same, people still expect Guys to pursue her and she’s praised for it.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Black women can date white dudes and other black broads will cheer, but a black chap who dates a white chick, no matter how hot, hates the "sistas," even those fatter than Lizzo !!!

TsundereMatrix · Answer

Body count. If you truly care about someone then that shouldn’t matter.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

women denying that they are whores after just exchanging five minutes of their vaginas for free food, gas rides and the list goes

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

In my prime I used to ask women to the gym on the first date. Bring clothes for pool or sauna.

msc545 · Answer

The one that says that men have to pay for everything every time and the other one that says that men have to do the asking and that women never can do it particularly initially.

straightmax12 · Answer

That women can tell men how to be a man and expect us not to be offended, but men can't tell women how to be women and they'll get offended.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Boobs weren't big enough on that redhead 😋😅

jahaims · Answer

A lot of females think the guy should always pay which means she thinks her time is more valuable than his.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

When a modern women expects traditional man and look down on modern men. They chose to be that strong independent women yet also expect their men to be the breadwinners.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Guys aren’t allowed to play the field, we have to wait for women to pick us. But women are allowed to play the field. Fuck that!

Sammygirl9287 · Answer

How he can have female friends but I can't have guy friends

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Women can be as flawed as they want but if a guy has one flaw she trows him away.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Nasty Gross Demons wanting an absolute angel of a woman

Demi00 · Answer

Cause a woman has many lovers, she took. But if a guy has many lovers often gets high fives.

Eempriyanka · Answer

That only women should look beautiful.. I like to date pretty handsome guys

zombiewoof · Answer

Studs are praised, sluts are shamed, but they are the same

Anonymous · Answer

Saying men should provide and protect is fine. Saying women should cook and clean is sexist.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't like any kind of double standards.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Any.

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