





All double standards are stupid but not everyone subscribes to the same double standards. Some people have double standards because they were taught it from a young age others are just at best narcissistic.
I think for women telling a man that he isn’t allowed to be emotional, must be so tall, earning so much money, etc. But for her she should be accepted for her body weight even if she’s overweight among other things. Women for instance who are super tall complaining how no men want her because of her height but then crying how she wants a man as tall or taller then her. So she can be picky but nobody else should be. Now, you’re attracted to who you’re attracted to male or female. That’s the way it is nobody’s entitled to anybody.
The next one applies to men or women whoever’s controlling. They need to know everything you’re doing, demand access to your phone, try to control what you do, when you do it, who you’re around, etc. But never them they will never give you a explanation to what they’re doing. Likely because they’re doing everything they are accusing you of.
I despise all double standards, but I think the one that annoys me the most is that women are allowed to have a whole list of requirements for any man she dates, but when a man asks what she brings to the table, he gets crucified for it.
If a guy fits all of her requirements, 6ft, 6 fugure salary, etc, and is expected to provide for her, take care of her, and pay all her bills; what the hell does she provide that makes her worth that? What will she do to justify being taken care of?
I don't give a crap about traditional gender roles in marriage, mind you: if she wants to work, split the bills, and the housework, fantastic. If she expects to be pampered, and financially provided for by her husband, then she damned well better cook, clean, and take care of the kids. It's only fair.
If he's paying for everything, has to cook his own food, and clean the house, too, then why have a wife at all? If you want a traditional husband, then be a traditional wife. I can't stand the entitlement of women that demand everything, but offer nothing.
“ If a guy fits all of her requirements, 6ft, 6 fugure salary, etc, and is expected to provide for her, take care of her, and pay all her bills; what the hell does she provide that makes her worth that? What will she do to justify being taken care of?”
I honestly hate to say this because I hate putting anyone down let alone my own fellow women, but usually those such women really only offer their vagina and boobs (and often no morals or class). Honestly the men these women pick are better off just going to a brothel or prostitute for a night. Unfortunately those ladies are an embarrassment to the entire gender.
@silvermoon84 It's refreshing to see a woman say that, because it's unfortunately true. I don't even believe in "renting" a woman, but I agree; for the money, a brothel would be a better investment than those women.
It's a sad state of affairs, because it's obviously not all women that are like that, but they are becoming increasingly more common, and they are very bad representatives for the rest of you.
That is okay for a woman beat/slap a man but not okay when a man slap/beat a woman.
Like when a couple fights in public place and the man lost his temper and slap the woman, people will immediately help the woman no matter what. But if a woman slap a kan in public area, people won’t care and maybe there is some of them who say
“He deserves it”. Without knowing the problem.
Or if a man has high body count, they will think that cool. But if a woman has high body counts, they call her bitch.
I can still remember when, “body count” stood for verified kills on the field of belligerence. Once upon a time we just asked, “How many people have you slept with?” Body count sounds down right tawdry.
It's really hard for a man to have a high body count. That's why it's praised. It's extremely easy for a woman to have a high body count. That is one reason why. Men and women are not the same.
I think the body kind of thing is about nature. Men were physically mentally designed to plant their seeds and go to the next woman. It's a survival of the species mechanism.
*the body count thing
@WhiteThought I don't think Wilt Chamberlain thought so.
@WhiteThought That it's hard to have a high body count
Who pays for dates. Thats why my policy is this
You ask me on a date, you pay.
I ask you on a date, i pay.
If we can't afford to do so, we split the bill or you pay me back.
1. Those are your rules, not mine. I establish my rules well in advance so if you can't adhere, then the first date won't even happen.
2. I have asked guys out, and have taken guys and girls out before plenty of times, and I pay each time. So unless you know wtf you're talking about, kick bricks
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Look, if a woman wants to know your height before you meet, you‘re getting the benefit of knowing something important about her beforehand. And if she rules out meeting you because of your height, you didn’t waste any money on her and less time.
Guys get angry if you reject them, but not immediately, after a period of time. They get angry you have standards when they also have standards.
Guys don't generally get mad at women's standards. It is more than likely the standards they have, which are often unrealistic or high.
In my dating/relationship world I only ran across one double standard through an ex-fiancé. She would constantly eat off my plate (never once asked permission) to the point where I wasn’t eating enough. Purely out of curiosity I tried doing the same thing by eating off her plate. That woman stabbed me hard enough with her plastic fork that she drew a fair amount of blood from the back of my hand with the following words, “Only the Deserae can eat off your plate and you are never to eat off the Deserae’s plate.” Somewhere along the lines she started speaking in the third person. As odd as it was I never said anything about it as she was already growing more violent … small case in point my getting jousted by a plastic fork over attempting to try a potato from her plate. Mind you, I always paid for EVERYTHING! Even on my own birthday when we went out.
I never dated a woman remotely like her ever again. I can spell the type from miles away. That was my one and only experience with any form of double standard in my dating world. The rest have been quite civilized and amiable.
Oh that would have been a dump of her plate across her pretty little head. Class is now in session bitch. You don't stab people with eating utensils and expect no consequences. By the way, you can either walk home or call an uber. Here, take my napkin. I'm gonna go pay for my meal and get going.
n dating, it’s so normalized for women to openly express feelings, fears, needs, and insecurities — and it’s even considered endearing or intimate. But when men do it, too often it gets labeled as “too much,” “needy,” or unattractive. It’s as if a man expressing his loneliness, anxiety, or affection is breaking some unspoken rule about masculinity being stoic and detached. And the irony? Everyone says they want honesty and openness in a partner. But when it arrives wrapped in male vulnerability, people don’t always know how to handle it. It holds people back, keeps them performing versions of themselves, and builds these weird emotional walls where they should be bridges. Dating would be so much healthier if we stopped categorizing emotions by gender and just let people be messy, complicated, honest humans.
The whole body count thing is the dumbest twisted sickness that has come to dating since hymen inspections.
It's irrelevant, in the past, unchangeable & NUNYA if he/she wants privacy about it. It simply doesn't matter.
When some girl who still lives with her parents expects the guy to own property. Even though I do, it seems a bit odd to me. She can be living in her parents' spare room, but if he is renting a house on the beach, that is not good enough.
Men are supposed to pay. For gods sake just go dutch. The economy is shit and you're not even a couple until you're at least a few weeks in, in most cases. You wanted equal rights how about equal budgetary responsibility?
When a woman cheats it's a man's fault, when a man cheats it's a man's fault.
Or a man having standards and boundaries is insecure, a woman having standards and boundaries is empowered and feminist.
Or it's okay to use a man for his resources and money, but it's not okay for a man to use a woman for sex.
There are hundreds.
None really. And that's only because a person who propagates a double standard only makes it easy for me to rule them out. A relationship is a PARTNERSHIP. If she's not interested in being a partner than it's better that someone else deal with her.
Now that I've said that, I do think some are silly. And I do think women do themselves a great disservice by seeking many of them. But hey, it's thier life. It's thier choice to live it how they wish.
Ambiguity, unclear communication, not saying what you mean, trying to control what your partner does.
When men do it, it's profoundly abusive. When women do it, it's an expression of her love and all part of the courtship process.
All of them. They are rooted in evolution and immutable. That's why I don't date. I think this is why there have always been monks and hermits. People just catch on to how things are.
If you want to pickup somebody for sex if you are a woman there is a 90%chance you can walk into a bar and go home with a guy. If you are a guy the odds are maybe 0.5%. It is just not fair.
A 1 for 200 dating average? Even the least desirable slob does better than that!!! I figured you for a 1:8 kinda guy in your yourh...
*batting but dating works too!
@DrPepper12 I wish 😊😊😊😊
I never faced any double standard in dating, or if I did, I didn't notice, so I can't find anything to hate here
The biggest double standard is that when a Shy Guy doesn’t make the first move, he’s seen as uninterested or weak, but when a Shy Girl does the same, people still expect Guys to pursue her and she’s praised for it.
Black women can date white dudes and other black broads will cheer, but a black chap who dates a white chick, no matter how hot, hates the "sistas," even those fatter than Lizzo !!!
This is a FACT!! Seen it countless times!! It's truly unfortunate and wrong!!
What you’re identifying is the result of a shortage of dateable black men for black women, so it’s not completely illogical. And who says people are always logical about their expectations for a potential partner.
Younger black women are more likely to date outside their race so this is less of an issue for black women than it used to be.
Body count. If you truly care about someone then that shouldn’t matter.
Many guys care about body count because it affects how they view emotional connection, trust, and long-term commitment. If a woman has had many partners, some men see it as a sign she may not value sex as something meaningful or exclusive, which can make it harder for them to feel secure in the relationship. Just like women often judge men based on status or success, men often look at sexual history as a sign of relationship stability. It's not about control or shame, It’s about what feels emotionally safe to them.
women denying that they are whores after just exchanging five minutes of their vaginas for free food, gas rides and the list goes
In my prime I used to ask women to the gym on the first date. Bring clothes for pool or sauna.
The one that says that men have to pay for everything every time and the other one that says that men have to do the asking and that women never can do it particularly initially.
That women can tell men how to be a man and expect us not to be offended, but men can't tell women how to be women and they'll get offended.
Boobs weren't big enough on that redhead 😋😅
A lot of females think the guy should always pay which means she thinks her time is more valuable than his.
When a modern women expects traditional man and look down on modern men. They chose to be that strong independent women yet also expect their men to be the breadwinners.
Guys aren’t allowed to play the field, we have to wait for women to pick us. But women are allowed to play the field. Fuck that!
How he can have female friends but I can't have guy friends
Many grow out of that. Problem is they're double your age when n if it happens... Hang in there!!
*triple!
WTF? How does S-T-T get that?
Women can be as flawed as they want but if a guy has one flaw she trows him away.
Nasty Gross Demons wanting an absolute angel of a woman
Cause a woman has many lovers, she took. But if a guy has many lovers often gets high fives.
That only women should look beautiful.. I like to date pretty handsome guys
Studs are praised, sluts are shamed, but they are the same
But... Jim Jefferies has a great bit on this issue.
https://youtu.be/b3YqC87eQNg?si=O8Ilcxsfdr6GyzsE
Saying men should provide and protect is fine. Saying women should cook and clean is sexist.
I don't like any kind of double standards.
Any.
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