Male friend is sabotaging my relationships?

[Anonymous]

I have a male friend, that I'm good friends with for the last few years. He messaged me on instagram one day & we basically have carried on conversation since that day. He never asked me out or anything, but he did ask for my Snapchat, I gave it to him & we also have exchanged phone numbers, we text all the time. He's dated a couple people while being friends & he would text me like normal when he was dating someone, the last person he was with, cheated on him & he confided in me about it. He has always remained friendly with me, but he has texted me drunk before, at 1-2 in the morning while I'm sleeping just randomly out of the blue. He has sent me paragraphs while intoxicated, about how amazing I am, how I deserve someone so great, I'm beautiful, this & that, just going on & on. He never did this sober. His behavior was completely different when sober, like almost awkward. I even confronted him at one point asking if he had feelings, he denied it & got super defensive, like weirdly defensive.

Anytime, I date someone & if I were to become upset over them, he would tell me that they didn't deserve me & would convince me to break up with them every single time, I would get defensive about breaking up with the other person & then he would still try to convince me to dump them. This has been an ongoing thing with every relationship.

I would like to know what's going on, I'm curious as to what other people think. I don't feel like he's telling me the truth about how he feels & I know he'll never admit it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

He wants you. He's following the code given to him by the likes of Disney, that if he's just nice and supportive enough, you will eventually realize he's the one and you will throw yourself at him.

Normally early on, you can test a guy if he has what radical feminist have 100% correctly identified as "nice guy syndrome" (Which is where he expects sex to happen because he is nice to you), by claiming you want to practice blow jobs and ask him if you can practice on him. It might still work... but if not and he's doesn't run away, the nice guy act might have gone on so long that he's just torturing himself. That's him though in this interaction. What about you...

Biologically he's driven by sexual desire first and attention second, but you are primarily driven by attention first and sexual desire second. Admit it, you enjoy the so called 'friendship' and the attention it provides, and you probably have enough hints that he wants your panties to drop for him... the drunk texts for instance when he almost has enough liquid courage to shoot his shot.

To hurry up and sum this up, he wants to fuck... deep down inside he hates it everytime you hook up with someone else. He is not happy for you when you do that, he hates it and wishes it was him that you hooked up with.

That's what I think, and if you disagree and think he's just a platonic friend that has no interest in you... do the test. Tell him you need to practice blow jobs and ask if he will help you. I know I know he's going to want that. You're lying to yourself about reality if you don't know that.

[Babebytheshore85]

He's not sabotaging anything. These guys just don't like you lol.

[Asker]

Your reply makes 0 sense

[Babebytheshore85]

It makes plenty sense. These men don't like you. The friend isn't sabotaging anything

[Asker]

The other men have nothing to do with it, once again this makes no sense. I was dating these people.

[Babebytheshore85]

You thought you were dating them lol they weren't dating you

[Asker]

Okay, you're really stupid.😂

[Babebytheshore85]

Nah ur just slow and can't take rejection. None of them found u attractive

[spartan55]

Is this an online only thing?

[Asker]

We've hung out a few times in person, when I have been single, but not recently we mostly text.

[spartan55]

Sounds like he just hits you up when he is drunk and horny.

[WhitneySnow]

He definitely has feelings for you

[Anonymous]

He’s jealous