Do you judge people in their 40s who prefer to date people in their 20s?

[marish01]

I noticed that many women on social media applauded older women who date or eant to date younger men and I also noticed how women insult older men who date or want to date younger women.

I guess it is because insecure old women can't compare their looks with young men as they are not the same gender. Young women are the threat. It hurts insecure old women to know men prefer younger women because those insecure women do agree that women look better in their 20s.

Yes I am 33 and yes I am a realistic person. It is totally fine for me to be regarded as lrss attractive because of the number 33. Age is not just a number. Even if I don't look my age stillthat number is not attractive.

[Finchie40]

No I don’t judge other peoples’ relationships , but I know a lot of people that do , and sadly it’s pathetic , and yes it comes from jealousy and insecurities , low self esteem and lack of confidence within themselves. Someone else’s’ relationship should have nothing to do with anyone else period unless one of them is being harmed or forced and crying for help, if that’s the case , , then the right thing to do is step in and try to help them out, but if they are both happy with each other , that’s all that matters , so leave them the fuck alone. I can’t stand judgmental hypocritical people , your shit smells just as bad as everyone else’s’ shit , so keep things to yourself and stop trying to rain on other peoples’ parades’ Every time I dated a younger girl , there would always be some asshole or assholes’ that try to rub their 2 cents together , and talk shit , I usually just ignore them and laugh and think awww are you jealous that she is coming home to me and going to be rolling around in bed with me? Awww sucks to be you. Now if they get up in my face about it , I will knock them the fuck out. Most people like to talk shit , but when it comes to being hit , they split lol I know so many happy couples that have age gaps and they are happy as can be , so why rain on someone else’s’ happiness? I know why , it’s because they are jealous and insecure about themselves. It’s so pathetic , there are plenty of fish on the sea , go find your own and leave everyone else alone , that couple doesn’t give 2 shits about what you think or say about them behind their back , say it to their face and don’t be surprised when you wake up off the ground

[Kingofkings1992]

Ok tough guy 😆. Would love to that same energy from you in a real life situation that’s NOT on the internet. Anyone who talks about knocking anyone out on the internet is just that, all talk. 🤣

[nastyb]

research has shown that large age gap marriages are more prone to divorce and bigger decrease in satisfaction.

[Finchie40]

Not all talk , if someone gets up in my face for no reason at all , I will defend myself immediately. I have worked as a bouncer and in the security field for a lot of years , I had my fair share of taking assholes down trust me, @nastyb research means absolutely nothing, I don’t base my happiness off of research, if that was the case nobody would be getting into relationships or marriages anymore considering research says 73 percent of women are the reason for divorce. So why even get married and take that chance if research shows women are the primary reason for divorce , Just live your life happy , if your relationship fails with someone , oh well, move on to the next , all we can do

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

The bigger the age gap, the shorter the marriage

nypost.com/.../

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

most people tend to marry someone close to their own age. Because people who are similar in age tend to have more things in common.

If people with small age gaps, have high divorce rates.

This means couples with large age gaps, even have HIGHER divorces rates than couples with small age gaps.

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

Couples with large age gaps are less likely to be satisfied, finds study

www.the-independent.com/.../...unger-a7877161.html

www.colorado.edu/.../spousal-age-gap-affects-marriage-satisfaction-over-time

Men and women both report greater marital satisfaction with younger spouses, but that satisfaction fades over time in marriages with a significant age gap between the partners, new CU Boulder research finds.

Though couples with an age gap start out more satisfied, their satisfaction drops more dramatically over time.

www.psychologytoday.com/.../can-couples-with-major-age-differences-stay-together

[Finchie40]

I understand that can happen but it still doesn’t mean it’s going to happen to everyone , I know some age gap couples that have been happily married now for more than 20 years and still going happy , , so I just live life best I can and as happy as I can , I dated younger and older and her age didn’t determine my attraction and chemistry and connection with her whatsoever, as long as she is mature and is of legal age of consent that’s all that matters to me , I just met a 26 year old girl that I have a great connection with and if things keep going the way they are between us , I will definitely consider being with her in a long term relationship,

[nastyb]

@finchie

you are much more likely to experience connection with someone closer to your age than someone around your daughter's age.

I wouldn't want to be with a guy who only wants to be with me because I'm 22.

Stop being so shallow and date someone you can actually connect with EMOTIONALLY, not just physically.

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

there is a reason why most people marry those around their own age. because people are able to RELATE to and UNDERSTAND each other way more due to similarities in maturity and life experiences and life stages.

The only reason why a old man would go for someone 20-30 years younger is almost never because he is in love. It is because he is just a sexual predator who wants a tight hole and perky tits.

[Finchie40]

That’s the misunderstanding that most males and females’ assume , and that’s not always the case , Yes there are guys’ that just want sex and nothing else , but there are also guys’ that want more than just sex with a girl , I am one of those guys’ , I don’t just have sex with a girl just to get off on her and use her , I have sex with a girl to be closer to her and to express my feelings to her hoping she feels the same way about me, and sadly that isn’t always the case either , if she just automatically assumes I am only having sex with her to get off. i’m not that kind of guy that runs around sticking my penis in multiple girls’ , to me that is dirty and degrading , and not very wise to do , especially with STD’s etc. For me to even have sex with a girl , I have to feel a connection with her and chemistry with her , it’s just the way I am , and I know i am not the only guy that thinks this way , there are a lot of guys’ that want more than just sex with a girl and yes sadly there are guys’ that just use girls’ as well, But the same thing goes for us guys’ as well with girls’ , and unfortunately that’s the chances we take when meeting someone new and interesting to us. We aren’t mind readers so it’s always a 50/50 chance on whether or not a guy and a girl are on the same page with things. A few of my girlfriends’ through the years just assumed I just wanted them for sex and nothing more until I showed up the next day bringing her flowers hoping to see her again and go on another date with her , they were shocked that I wanted to see them again, because unfortunately they were with guys’ prior to me that just wanted sex with them and nothing more. Most of us guys’ express our love to a girl through intimacy and affection , it’s are way of wanting to be closer to her. If a guy consistently wants intimacy and affection with you , he
More than likely has feelings for you because he loves being closer to you

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

I didn't read most of what you wrote.

but you're not looking to marry for love, you're just looking to marry for sex.

A lot of men do not care about emotional connection, they don't care about marrying someone who can relate or understand them. The only thing they care about is who can tickle their penis the best.

There is no other reason why old man your age would want to date someone around your daughter's age. You will not be able to emotionally connect with someone around your daughter's age, better than someone around your age.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

I'm in my 40's and also shoot for the 20's and yes, I've ran into that double standard you mentioned a whole lot.

I break it down like this... jealous women of other women, hate, and I mean they really hate, competition that removes them as the only available or sought after option. Even if they show no interest in the man, they'll hate him for not choosing her as something to chase as well.

For another clear example of the same behavior, look at the women that freak the fuck out about the so called "passport bros." In one breath they'll claim they want nothing to do with those guys and also denigrate the women those men value more than herself at the same time.

It makes me feel like "What the fuck is her problem?" I mean she rejects me and will reject me to begin with, so why does she care so damn much if I don't even try with her, and just move onto other options that are more accepting of my old ass self?

I think a huge factor is those women doing the complaining, didn't even try the older men in her 20's. She stuck with her own age and ended up dealing with young guy stuff, is now single af and now she's just mad and jealous at the men and the women that found something that works for them.

Male equivalent would me talking shit about a buff dude getting all the women just because I didn't put in the gym effort like he did... if that makes sense. Oh and also hating on the women that go for the stud muffins instead of me and my beer belly with arms that don't even fill out a t-shirt sleeve. (Not how I really look, I'm just making an example).

[nastyb]

there are plenty of men who would judge you for large age gaps as well. Because they know exactly how sexually predatorial you are. Lets face it, if you're a 45 yr old man, you would have little to nothing in common with a 22 yr old.

its not

[nastyb]

Saying older women are jealous or acting like the world doesn't know what you are up to. We all know what you are up to.

But most women in their 20s aren't interested in men in their 40s-50s anyways.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@nastyb You're saying this as a 20 something that has no interest in older men and you don't suspect you may have a bias? I for one think women tend to mature faster in certain departments unless they're a dancing queen or a bar star or something. The difference in age makes sense to some of us without the same bias as say... a woman that values very teenager like things all the way up into her 30's.

[Avicenna]

LOL, who knew some women want to be controlling of other adult women?

[nastyb]

@14gurlz2gagonit

women tend to mature faster by 3-4 years than men. There is no 22 yr old girl who would be able to match up to the maturity of a 40 yr old. Plus, its not only a maturity problem... its the fact that she is clueless like a big kid, trying to relate to a fully grown wise man who is experienced and seen and done everything in the world already. He has enormous power over her due to her relative cluelessness. She is more so like his child than his peer. They would have nothing in common

A lot of men dont care if she has nothing in common with him. The only thing these perverts care about is how perky her tits are and if her hole is still tight.

If you are wondering why society doesn't respect large age gaps? this is the reason.

[You're saying this as a 20 something that has no interest in older men and you don't suspect you may have a bias?]

vast majority of 20 something yr olds have no interest in men in their 40s. They like boys that are a few years older, not someone around their father's age. Know the difference.

[nastyb]

@Avicenna

its not about control. As experienced women, we have seen sexual predators. And we just want to warn the naive young kids coming out into the real world for the first time, about sexual predator old men like you.

I personally would not be comfortable with an old man who is only dating me because I'm 20 years old.

There is reason why society looks down on large age gaps. Its sexually predatorial. Young women are TARGETED way too much

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@nastyb Now you're really ranting about me instead of the argument. You are the example I spoke of from the start. Welcome yourself and show them all how you're so much smarter than every one else... especially your fellow women that just don't think like you do.

[Apple1996]

@14gurlz2gagonit men like you just say stuff about liking younger women. The passport bro shit, all other redpill nonsense that isn't acutally reality because it gets y'all a emotional reaction from women and y'all go and use that as beat off material or a ego builder. There is no truth to men saying this shit its just to get attention from women even if that's bad attention 😒

[nastyb]

@14gurlz2gagonit

Its not a rant, dude.

I'm trying to keep girls safe from being manipulated by perverts.

these young kids come out into the real world for the FIRST TIME, never having seen a sexual predator. Most of them never had any prior experience with men.

I'm just trying to keep girls safe.

If this offends your perverted self, so be it.

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

there is no problem with liking younger women. Liking "younger " women is not the problem.

The problem is when you like women that are young enough to be your DAUGHTER. Someone you have nothing in common with, cannot understand or relate to. Its like dating a clueless child. Yet these perverts want to convince the world about how madly in love he is with his big kid. Trust me, he is not with her because he loves her. He is just with her because he makes his penis happiest.

By the time she hits 40, he will trade her for an even younger woman. I have seen this happen over and over again throughout my years.

No marriage will last if looks and youth are the primary attraction.

[Apple1996]

@nastyb yep very true its weird when she's young enough to be his kids age

[14gurlz2gagonit]

So apple and nasty, perverted guys that are just taking advantage and bla bla bla aside...

What about the women that are actively seeking out the older men instead of parroting what you two are saying?

I mean I was young once, and I'm sure other guys have also had that experience where the girl was their age/their peer and they got tossed to the side for an older man as if it was nothing. What made that 15-year-old girl that begged to be my girlfriend (I was either 14 or 15), instantly break up with me just a few days later because now she has a man that's almost 50? What's with the women that have that preference?

The answers I got with those same questions when I was a young man was this. -->That guy can provide her with all sorts of things that I cannot. That guy probably isn't going to be as immature as I. That guy already knows how to fuck.

That's what I was told way back then, but what opinions would you two have told me and would your opinions matter at fucking all and kept that girl from ditching me for a guy that's almost 50 years old?

The hard truth pill both of you should swallow is these women make their own choices and think for themselves. They're not being manipulated as much as you assume and in fact are probably manipulating that older man with their firm perky titts and tight vaginas.

[Apple1996]

I've never acutally known any women in real life going after older men. I love provider men but its easy enough to find a young one who can do it. And younger men are better at sex than older men so I don't know why men say this stuff. I think y'all low key just want a old grandpa with money and a broken dick. Some form of projection

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@Apple1996 Hey I'm just a dude that has a far different experience. I mean I was pissed off when I came back to America after living in Japan for years... I was mid 20's... and all the chicks my age wouldn't even talk to me and spent all their time chasing old dudes with beer guts.

I'm fucking rich, and I look like a damn fitness model... in America I was straight up obsolete or not old enough and I was in my mid-20's. So I don't know where you lived, but fuck America. The only women that would give me play looked like fucking trash and the decent looking ones would judge me by my age in a negative way.

For instance... I'm right now 40-somthing or early 40's and staying with my father-in-law. He's like 60 and can get women hella faster than me... and I mean women my age. I blame it on the fact that I still look too young. I'm like a Brad Pitt look a like from fight club too, so I don't think it's that.

I don't know if older guys look safer or something... but I know for a fact that the women will jump on that opportunity. They do it by choice and are not manipulated by much more than getting flirted with.

[Diӏdophobe]

@Apple1996 has a breeding fetish. Whereas most women would rather burn in hell than become mothers. So, subconsciously those American whores are like searching out the least fertile men to "stay safe", while others like @Apple1996 chase the most fertile sperm.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@Diӏdophobe Finally someone says something that equals or is equivalent to what I see in front of me IRL here in America. I mean I expect nasty B's response because she's exactly what I would expect to run into here, on X, or on reddit. Basically, a radical feminist that objects to anything where it looks like men are winning... even though it's other women themselves that are jumping into those situations with older men.

I mean for reals, nasty B is the perfect example of the women I was talking about with my original answer.

@Apple1996 on the other hand is a wildcard to what I expect to see. A breeding fetish makes it all make sense.

[Apple1996]

@Diӏdophobe haha breeding fetish 🤣 nah dude I just like having a big family

[Apple1996]

@14gurlz2gagonit I'm from the us

[Apple1996]

@Diӏdophobe my husband is younger than me so maybe I am going after the more fertile men. I don't have any interest in grandpas

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@Apple1996 That's what I like about you, you're honest about it and can even reach a greater conclusion. You as an individual not wanting the grandpas makes 100% sense, but doesn't define what the bulk of women are opting into. And when stepping into a society where the bulk of the women are opting for what you opt for, we have a clear reason as to why they are doing so.

You're not seeking a non-fertile yet well-funded existence that is far more mellow and mundane than what a younger male is more likely to provide. Simple as that.

Nasty B on the other hand is just itching to call people names or resort to ad hominem... so by her own actions I can't take her too seriously. She already has myopic conclusions and isn't open to greater conclusions, in my opinion.

[marish01]

@Apple1996 there are more men who find younger women more attractive than there are women who find younger men more attractive.
Young women are more fertile and way more beautiful than old women.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

100% statistical facts right there marish01. The simple fact that the majority of women are not seeking out younger men should say a lot in and of itself.

[Apple1996]

Most women are not seeking granpas. They are still looking for men close to their own age. And fertility for women is more about genetics, hormones, when they started their cycle. It's not about age

[Apple1996]

I have no idea what world y'all are living in but plenty of women go for younger men. Cougars and milfs are crazy popular for a reason. There is no male equivalent to those things

[Apple1996]

As a woman who went through infertility in my early 20s its acutally just offensive to me when people say that fertility is about youth

[Diӏdophobe]

@Apple1996 everything you always say is so hilarious. But I'll keep it at that in order not to offend due to whatever causes you to say such contradictions.

"I have no idea what world y'all are living in... there's no male equivalent to cougars."

If i try to understand you, i have to believe you're speaking about the world of porn terminology, where are no male equivalents of cougars.

Or you really think that gathering the statistic across the entire world, you'll find the average relationship has an older woman and younger man, and so do hookups?

[Apple1996]

@Diӏdophobe I'm saying in general it is more common irl. I've never met a 40 year old man and 20 year old woman relationship that's worked out. My neighbors for example the woman almost 40 while the man is in his 20s. I see those working out long term a lot more than the other way around. Lonely men online are living in some fantasy world thinking just because they paid a 18 year old stripper to dance on them now they think that younger women acutally want them

[Apple1996]

@Diӏdophobe a lot of men have even admitted that older man/younger woman relationships are just for money. They aren't a real relationship that's long lasting

[14gurlz2gagonit]

@Apple1996 You went full retard. I am no longer a part of this conversation.

[Apple1996]

@14gurlz2gagonit 🤣🤣🤣

[Hghhhhhhhhhh]

Absolutely. Imagine trying to form a mature and mutual relationship with someone half your age. There’s a reason the 40 yo can’t get any with people their own age. You’re not mature or special they’re a bum. That type of relationship is inherently unequal and the perfect situation for abuse or grooming to take place. The 20 yo might be naive enough to think it’s a healthy relationship, but the 40 yo knows they shouldn’t be messing with someone young enough to be their child. I know a lot of people were raised to believe this is normal, but pursuing someone significantly younger than you is suspicious at best

[nastyb]

A 40 yr old would have nothing in common with a 20 yr old. Just use some common sense.

[Apple1996]

It has nothing to do with older women being insecure or bitter. They are trying to stop younger women from suffering and going through abuse. I definitely judge men who do this because they are predators who just want to destroy a young girls life. The older women who do it aren't as dangerous. They can't impregnate the boys or get them trapped in bad situations where they can't escape. Rarely are they doing it for predatory reasons. Obviously there's a few rare exceptions but I'm not talking about those

[marish01]

It is about looks not ruining a woman's life

[marish01]

"It has nothing to do with older women being insecure or bitter. They are trying to stop younger women from suffering and going through abuse. "

Oh how sweet of oldies. Wow.
They are bitter that men find young women beautiful. What 40 year old woman wouldn't wish to be in her 20s or to look like in her 20s.
Look at how many oldies spend money on cosmetic surgeries and procedures to look younger.

[Apple1996]

I personally would never want to go back to looking in my teens or early 20s. Most women aren't developed at those ages. 30s-40s is when women peak. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just into how childern look which is weird af

[marish01]

Teens maybe. But I did mention 20s.
40s? Lol
You wish.
You are insecure about your looks. You do know you are going to be more unattractive as you age. So you fight against that distress by deluding yourself into thinking you will look good in your future

[marish01]

20s are not what kids look like

[marish01]

Calling people pedophiles for thinking women look the best in their 20s exposes your insane bitterness and jealousy

[Apple1996]

Under 25 is still a kid

[Apple1996]

Nope I'm getting better as I age. I already know what I'll look like in older age because of looking like my mom. She looked her very best from 35-45

[Apple1996]

It's pedo to think youth is what beauty is. Youth fades. Beauty stays. If someone is only beautiful in their youth they were never beautiful in general

[Apple1996]

Also I'm in my 20s? Why would I be bitter or jealous?

[marish01]

I explained. Now that you know you are not beautiful even in yoir 20s where you are at your best, you delude yourself thinking your ugliness will fade once you get older when in fact you will get even uglier in the future.
You are jealous of really beautiful women who are in your age group but are beautiful unlike you.
You are not jealous of their age but their beauty.

[marish01]

Prove a 25 year old man and a woman are kids.
Not even teens but kids. Calling them teens would still be ridiculous but not as ridiculous as calling them kids.

[marish01]

How can an old woman look better. Your delusion is schizophrenic.
Pigmentation, wrinkles, dull tired face, saggy skin, thin skin, dark circles, uneven tone.
These are all flaws not advantages.

[Apple1996]

The brain and body of a woman aren't fully developed until 25

[Apple1996]

Girls have all those things you listed while in their youth and fix them as they age. Some even grow out of things like wrinkles. At least that's what happened to me

[Apple1996]

I've been getting significantly better looking every year that I age so sorry that's not how it is for me. I'm growing my way into being a 10. Beauty has nothing to do with youth. It's more of a genetic/environment thing

[marish01]

What about a 25 year old man? Is his brain more developed.
Haha you refer all aging changes to young women. So young women look older than old women. 🤣 You think Brad Pitt's movie is women's reality.
Lol see you agree that the age related changes are negative. You want to fix them. Lol so women who look in their 20s are more beautiful than those who look older.

[Apple1996]

I think aging makes women even more beautiful and same for men after 25 is fully developed

[marish01]

You think? I doubt. That opinion feeds your insecurity.
Which gender matures faster according to you?

[ohsheeT]

I learned a long time ago that I like my life who I grew up to be and I like myself and what I do. .
And I believe everyone on this planet should feel the same way and if I was to see you walking down the street with anyone.

I wouldn't judge you if I did I think about as far as I would go is to say wow she's beautiful when I look at people I look in to there eyes to see if they are happy

I don't look at them an think what are they doing that I don't like because I'm bored so I need to make someone's. Business mine

[Simslover92]

I don't really care. As long as they are consenting adults, it shouldn't matter.

[Avicenna]

The main issue isn’t looks, TBH, at least in Western countries. A younger woman is less likely to have kids and to be bitter after a divorce. I’ve always found women in their 30s to be the most attractive, even when I was a young adult.

[HawkPerception]

Age is a non factor. As long as there's mutual attraction and consent, it's fine to date whoever. Only bitter sheep will say anything against it.

[LiaRaven]

I don’t judge people in general

[molonski2]

Womens in 40s trying to date mens in their 20s are simply fighting impending menopause , you cannot fight menopause , all that will happen with these " boys " looking for a mother figure ( bcoz they are incapable of looking after themselves ) , these guys at some point will grow up.

The man needs to lead , he needs to be a man , not some soft Trott , the man should always be older , not some using boy... this sht has been happening forever , nothing has changed , when you have a Cougar , sure use her for a couple of years until you find something real.

It is , what it always was.

[Screenwriter]

It's those peoples' choice to date who they please. You don't know why they're doing so, and if they're finding younger people to date, they must have something going on that attracts these younger folks.

It might be money, personality, mutual interests, intelligence, career focus, education...

Some younger folk are more attracted to older partners because they grew up with exceptional parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents. So, their good experience with older adults means they're more flexible about such relationships and don't only recognize the pretty surfaces of young faces and bodies, but the content of older characters.

I wish them good luck.

[4ngelic]

depends what part of the 20s they like and if that's exclusively what they want or it's part of a wider age range they date. like if they all date different ages and they happen to have at some point a 21yo girlfriend, or lets say they mainly date 27yos, it's totally fine. it's only bad to me if it's more like they almost exclusively want to date 20-21yos, and they think 23 is too old.

[Anonymous]

lol people who say they don't judge others are lying for sure. of course i will judge a grown ass adult in their 40's who chooses to date people in their 20's (and vice versa), most of which are in college or are still developing the front of their brain. would love to know both of their intentions, because it's obviously not for long term. there will always be a bridge that cannot be filled because of the generation gap.

[FunkyMonkee]

I was on my way home after a gig, I was walking and was 2 miles away from home by then and some guy pulls up beside me and acted like we knew each other. I have loads of local fans so, I thought it was another of those. He was offering me a ride the rest of the way home which would've cut about half an hour from my travel time so, I got in and he started driving me home. We get about half way there and he starts rubbing my leg!! After a moment or two I said, "I'm not that kinda girl!". I didn't want him going psycho on me and I was almost home so, I just let him have a bit of fun but I think he took his hand away after I said that and I had no more shit out of him.

[Anonymous]

I generally don't pay attention and couldn't care less about what others do in their private affairs, as long as they're both over 18 and neither of them is being coerced or held against their will. I believe the world has more serious problems, wars, climate crisis, unemployment, poverty, the threat of Ai etc. that we need to deal with at the moment and also I already have several issues myself, so I can't afford wasting mental energy over this.

But I don't necessarily agree that women are or are regarded as more attractive in their 20's. For example, I've heard people say Monica Bellucci was considered to be more attractive in the movie Malena, when she was in her 30's. Also, depending on their genetics, background and ethnicity you've got women, who look way younger than their actual age

[WonderingManII]

I think it was back in 2012 I ran into this. I was on a social anxiety site, and I was complaining about dating sites. I always set my age range 18 to my Current Age. I did this because I thought that keeping a good range of ages would better my chances at finding love. But one woman saw me doing this and told me it was gross for someone my age. At the time I would of been 33 years old and single. So I listened to her, and set that age range up. But I can't remember how far into into the 20's I set it. The thing is Women tend to get taken quicker than guys do.

[Kelley1]

Men of all ages believe women age 20 are the most beautiful.

Unless she is fat, 20-year-old girls are not sexually attracted to 40-year-old men. If a pretty 20-year-old girl is with a 40-year-old men is because his a billionaire, a movie star, a CEO of a large corporation or otherwise someone that can offer her, money, status, or position that young men cannot provide.

[DrPepper12]

So I'm not the erudite, wealthy, age defying stud I think I am? Shit. What a downer!!

[Kelley1]

@DrPepper12 You had your share of fun fucking young pretty girls 30-plus years ago. Now it is the current generation of your men who have fun fucking young women. Women are young, juicy, pretty, and sexy for a few years, so the supply is limited. It is not a downer that you are not receiving more than your fair share of fun; you are selfish and greedy. Whenever old men have fun with young women, young men have to do without. and that is not right.

[marish01]

I agree that women have few years of looking beautiful lol.
Although cosmetic procedures help

[DrPepper12]

Too young to get my killer wit... 😉

[yipperoc]

I think trying to date someone in their early 20s when you're in your 40s can be problematic. You're still figuring out who you are in your early 20s and you are more vulnerable (for lack of a better word?) a that age. The power balance is more likely to be lopsided in favor of the older partner. But I think it becomes less problematic if they're in their late 20s.

[slatyb]

In their 20's? Do you mean 21 or 25? It makes a big difference. When an older man hits on a woman barely out of high school, it's a sign of immaturity. They hit on inexperienced young women because older women can immediately see their immaturity and won't date them.

[nastyb]

not a sign of immaturity, its a sign of pervertedness. Realize that some men out there are only concerned about physical attraction, not emotional connection. What would a 40 yr old man have in common with a 22 yr old?

[slatyb]

@nastyb I've known two women who married an older man when they were younger than 21. They quickly had a baby, then realized that they didn't have one baby, they had two.

[nastyb]

@slatyb

he married a baby then had two more babies. Now he has 3 daughters to raise.

[slatyb]

The young women were far more mature than the older men they married. They took their duty to their children seriously. Their partners just continued as they had before.

[nastyb]

@slatyb

there are no 19 yr old girls with the maturity of a 45 yr old.

you're just saying this type of crap cuz you're perverted as hell.

she was groomed and sexually taken advantage of. there is no way in hell a 40 yr old man could be in love with a big kid at 19, with absolutely no prior life experience.

I know 26 yr olds who would consider a 19 yr old to be too young.

[slatyb]

@nastyb I was divorced in my 30's, dating online with women close to my age. I was personally acquainted with two women who married at 19 to men around 30. They had a child and found that their husband had no interest in being a father. The women were lovely but were raised without much affection, so when someone pretended to love them, they jumped. One divorced and remarried well.

[hahahmm]

if the younger person isn't my family I probably won't waste energy thinking about it. If they are my family, and I think the older person is up to something it's going to be a problem. But I will talk directly to the older person. I haven't needed to do it yet tho.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

When that is a preference yes, I'd instantly find this preference shady, then I'd listen, if there is something to listen. I have listened to many guys by now, explaining how they focus on youth hoping for controlling a malleable material. But if they get what they hoped for, I wonder how they couldn't feel lonely, ultimately, when they become in control but unable to relate to their partner

[nastyb]

they're perverted. Being able to control and manipulate her is a bonus

[SotiCoto]

If both parties want it and can do it then why shouldn't they?
Still, I'm not fool enough to believe it a realistic goal in most cases. As far as I'm concerned, I've been "expired goods" since I was 30... and have abstained from further relationships on purpose.

[NordicInScandinavia]

Absolutely, especially when they claim it's because they're a "young soul" while having they're whole friend group is their own age.

I look way better mid 30s than I ever gave.

[RavVid]

I just found out last night that the pelvic canal for babies is at it's widest at peak fertility at about 25.

So men are right to shoot for 25 yo girls.

[nastyb]

most 25 yr olds aren't having babies.

[RavVid]

@nastyb Yes but that is not relevant since 50 years of birth control is not going to impact instinctive urges formed over a million years.

Evolution rewards good choices. Guys who liked 25 yo's would have had more off spring than the granny fanciers. So in a short space of time granny fanciers would disappear from the population leaving only 25 yo loving guys.

When preferred female age is plotted against male age, it is very impressive that it is a straight vertical bar at 25.

[nastyb]

@RavVid

We don't marry for instinct, we marry for love.

Just because you are sexually attracted to a big kid, it does not mean you should marry them. A 60 yr old man is attracted to an 18 yr old, should be date her? NO! What would he have in common with an 18 yr old?

Emotional connection over a physical connection

Just the same way that being sexually attracted to a female, does not mean you can rape her. It does not matter what your instinct is.

[RavVid]

@nastyb That's away from the question however good the points are. From 8 to 80, male preference is for the 20-25 female cohort and this is strongly instinctive and decided in the primitive cerebellum.

It is not saying anything about love, marrying, raping or even if a 40 yo can get off with 20-25 yo. It is just saying what it said, there is a strong male preference for 20 to 25 yo females and some 40's males will succeed in their quest..

[standardguy]

I can understand that men want younger females as partners. And if there are women who agree to this arrangement it's not on me to criticize. But if he tries to flirt with too young women who feel sort of harrased he can get a painful feedback. But again it's not on me to criticize.

[nastyb]

realize that a lot of men out there don't date due to emotional connection, they just only want the physical attraction.

[standardguy]

Hopefully they feel emotional connection after physical attraction. Females do it the other way round. Important that in the end both feel the same, that's the game!

[nastyb]

@standardguy

just think about it. what would a 45 yr old man have in common with a 22 yr old girl? little to nothing! other than sex.

there are plenty of perverted old guys out there who would marry a 22 yr old, just because she is 22.

[standardguy]

It can be true that this is weird. But a 22 year old woman knows what she does. She can do what she wants.

[nastyb]

@standardguy

these kids at 22, are coming out to see the real world for the FIRST TIME. Many of the kids have never encountered a sexual predator or a bad experience with men.

Its not ok to just assume they know what they are doing. Remember, they only came out into the real world for just a few years, less than a handful of years. They are still in the process of learning and getting accustomed to the real world.

[nastyb]

@standardguy

young women dont tend to want to date guys for sex. Frequently what usually happens is the old perverted fart, somehow convinces or sweet talks her into fall in love with him by telling her she is amazing. These old farts have been playing the field since before she was born, he is skilled at what he does.

She gives him sex because she just naively assumes he loves her. He marries her for sex. Then by the time she loses her looks at 40, his eyes start straying then he dumps her for another 18 yr old.

I have seen this happen over and over again. Its terrible to marry a sexual predator.

[marish01]

@nastyb you will be an old fart one day too unless you die young lol

[nastyb]

@marish01

There is nothing wrong with being an old fart. But I really dont want to be one of those perverted ill valued old farts out there. I want to be a role model for the young when I get old, not some sexual predator who waits for underage girls to turn 18 so that I can finally "date" them

[marish01]

@nastyb that is good you are not like them.

[Anonymous]

there are plenty of perverted men in their 40s who ONLY date women in their 20s. These pervs, I do judge. This alone says a lot about a man.

[RingOfFire]

So you think that your judgment that they are pervs is better than the judgment of the woman they are dating? You think that you know better than they do?

That seems pretty arrogant to me.

[Opinion Owner]

@RingOfFire

lets face it... the only reason why a 40 yr old would ever be interested in dating someone under the age of 25 is because of physical attraction, both individuals likely would have nothing in common. A lotta these girls are naive and are easy to manipulate... most of them dont know what they are doing. They don't have enough life experience to know who is good and who is bad.

[Opinion Owner]

@RingOfFire

you won't believe how many perverted old men as old as 60 would try to date an 18 yr old. They don't care about mental connection, physical attraction is all that matters.
Then once she hits 40, he will try to get another 18 yr old girl to replace her.

[Opinion Owner]

@marish01

[Opinion Owner]

From what I have seen through the years, the top sign of a pervert is a man who is obsessed with large age gaps. He only does an age gap of at least 10+ years. He talks down on older women, has no respect for older women. He bases a woman's value off her age. If a guy is willing to talk shit about older women, you should be very afraid by the time you get old.

[marish01]

I agree. That is disgusting

[DJB72]

I'm in my 50s and although I'm not looking to date yet since my wife died I'm sure when I reach that point I'll look at women in their 30s - although at 53 the 20s would be too young in most cases.

[nastyb]

Not many women in 30s would be interested in a man in his 50s , unless if she were looking to settle.

[DJB72]

You'd be surprised. If I wasn't being approached by women that age I'd have agreed with you.

By the end of the year I'll be debt free and own my own home outright. Apparently financial security is something attractive...

[nastyb]

@DJB72

take a look at marriage data and statistics, the average age gap is just 2-3 years. Not 20-30 years. You might just be the rare exception

[DJB72]

To quote the Prophet: Never tell me the odds 😉

[Anonymous]

If someone exclusively dates people a lot younger than they are then I do think they’re a bit weird. It doesn’t matter if it is a man or woman doing it. If they can’t attract people in their own age group there is usually something wrong with them that someone a lot younger might be blind to. If you just happen to end up in an age gap relationship then that’s different and all the power to it

[nastyb]

yes, smartest answer here. Most people would want someone who can relate to themselves mentally.

[QuestionObsession]

Most of such women are those who have fucked around with older guys when they were young and have picked up all kinds of trauma from them. That is why they are bitter and criticise older men who are with younger women or younger women who are with older guys.

They are just hypocritical twats.

[itsannalee]

No i don’t just sometimes feel like eww, when see an ugly 40 yo man with no money but says only want to date young women.

[marish01]

I understand you

[Jennz6]

@itsannalee if you have been sex trafficked, you don’t have any control whatsoever

[RingOfFire]

But as long as the ugly old guy has money that makes it okay? 🤣🤣🤣

[itsannalee]

@RingOfFire u have to be at least 1 of those things. Handsome, Rich, Young.

If you don’t have 1 of those things, just know your place.

[RingOfFire]

🤣🤣🤣

Luckily I'm all three! 👍

[itsannalee]

70 yo is fossil 🥱

[RingOfFire]

Jealousy will get you nowhere. 😉

[itsannalee]

Saying people jealous of you doesn’t make you younger 😉

[marish01]

Itsannalee Insults won't make you rich.

[Jennz6]

@RingOfFire
I do as I’m told

[itsannalee]

@marish01 I didn’t even say i am rich 😉 try again 🥱

[marish01]

You don't even understand what you meant when you said an old man he wouldn't get young.
My point was you are NOT rich.
Insults won't make you rich. Means you are not rich now.
Got it?
Once again.
Make you be something means you ARE NOT THAT SOMETHING

[itsannalee]

Nice try😉

[marish01]

It is nice if only I could help you understand that very basic thing

[itsannalee]

Anything works for you marish😉

[RingOfFire]

@marish01

There is no hope of convincing this person. Anyone who would make such obnoxious remarks is beyond convincing. Debate over and you won. 👍

[itsannalee]

Yeah like no hope when you said you have 3 of the things, handsome, rich and young in your 70 years young guy 👴🏼

[marish01]

Why does it bother you that he says he is those things. Do you bother when fat women say they are beautiful

[katiesmuff]

No I do not as it is none of my business! Social media is the fucking downfall of the last several generations and getting worse.

[MemeSupreme]

yes MAN OR WOMAN, if you PREFER you're old enough to be the parent of, then im going to judge you. that is fucking weird and gross to me

but if they just met someone and they happen to be in their 20's idc as much

[MemeSupreme]

PREFER someone*

[PeachyPie93]

I think it is weird for both genders to deliberately chose to date much younger people and I usually think less of them. Do I actually give a shit if they do? No not really..

[BadApple69]

It is just a number. I’ve seen very attractive and sexy 50 year olds and very old and unattractive 20 somethings. Everyone is different. Yes if a 40+ wants to date a 20+ who cares. That’s their business.

[nastyb]

they're likely not dating for love, hun. don't be naive. I can't imagine what a 50 yr old would have in common with a 22 yr old. other than sex.

[BadApple69]

You said 40s and 20s… 20 year difference. Now you say almost 30 year difference. I have dated someone 20 years younger and actually we had a lot in common. Music, travel, camping, fishing…. Many outdoors events. Of course sex too 😀

[nastyb]

@BadApple69

A child can also love music, travel, camping and fishing, sex but it in no way means you both have anything in common MENTALLY.

you can have hobbies in common but emotionally, she is like a big child. she knows nothing and is clueless, looking for a daddy to explain things. You try to talk to her about things and she has no idea how to relate to you. you ask her a question for her input and advice, but has nothing to offer you.

[nastyb]

@BadApple69

there is a reason why most people marry those around their own age. because people are able to RELATE to and UNDERSTAND each other way more due to similarities in maturity and life experiences and life stages.

The only reason why a old man would go for someone 20-30 years younger is almost never because he is in love. It is because he is just a sexual predator who wants a tight hole and perky tits.

[BadApple69]

You don’t give much credit to 20 something year olds. You say they are just big children? Maybe you were. Me? I was 22 with a house, my own business, married and had a child. Some people are more mature than others.

[nastyb]

@BadApple69

yea... just exactly how many 22 yr olds have a house, business, married and with a child?

most 22 yr old are still in college, with mommy and daddy feeding them, dressing them, paying their college tuition.

PERVERT

[nastyb]

And even if the 22 yr old had a house and child, it in no way shape or form means they have the maturity or life experience to be able to relate to you. Its only been a few years since they stopped being a kid.

[BadApple69]

@nastyb you know it all so honestly there is no reason to discuss this with you. By my 22 years I experienced more life and more death then many 50 or 60 year olds. You judge everyone based on your limited knowledge and limited experiences… stop pretending you know it all… you don’t.

[nastyb]

@BadApple69

nobody would believe what you just said except for a naive 22 yr old.

nobody is ever going to believe a 22 yr old can have more life experience than many 50-60 yr olds. you're just saying this because you're a sexual predator.

the truth is... men, like you, are not looking to marry for love. you're just looking to marry for sex. You will date her until her looks fade at 40, then replace her with another 18 yr old.

you're not looking for love, i can guarantee you that.

[Miristheiss]

I don't get it?

That would mean that at the exact same time someone in their 20's is choosing to date someone in their 40's?

So, do you mean, do I judge people who date with a 20 year age gap?

[Smegskull]

I don't.
I also don't think older women are being insecure, it looks more like a disgust response. I don't think it is cross cultural though so I don't think it's an evolved behavior. There is probably a poorly controlled social studies research paper on the subject somewhere.

[nastyb]

its perverted.

[nastyb]

I would not be interested in dating an old man who only wants to date me because I'm in my 20s, its disgusting.

[Smegskull]

So you agree it is a disgust response...

[nastyb]

@Smegskull

its really crazy how old guys on here are trying to convince how a 50 yr old could be in love with an 18 yr old girl. If you have any life experience whatsoever, you know there is no way in hell a 50 yr old man would have anything in common with a big kid at 18 with absolutely no prior life experience.

They're not actually dating, just a young girl being preyed upon by a sexual predator.

[Smegskull]

I don't understand your argument...
Who is trying to convince who of what?

Most men have nothing in common with the women they date. That's why it's dating, not a friendship.

I think that calling it quite so aggressively is a bit unfair.
Young women aren't such agentless victims, that's why they deserve equal rights remember.
From that logic all relationships involve a sexual predator, surely a young and fit sexual predator is more dangerous than an old feeble one.

[MikeTheBartender]

Nope, I've dated lots of girls in their 20s.

[Kelley1]

Of course, you dated many girls in their 20s, but that was 20 years ago. Now that you are an old man, without enough money to buy her, it is not possible for you to fuck a girl in her twenties unless she is fat or has mental problems.

[soe11]

• some occasion age is a numbers nothing more then that.
• Every individual cases are different.
• I'm not going to judge others.
• In relationship chemistry is the vital.
• It's my personal philosophy.

[loveslongnails]

How are you still 33? You were 34 last year when you were posting, and 33 when I starting answering your posts 2 years ago. Even your profile says you are 35. LOL

[marish01]

Time is the biggest mystery

[loveslongnails]

"What a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive"

[Anonymous]

No, of course not but i dont understand them why... since people as they age they are more beautiful actually. As for you, you look truly amazing, your beauty is art, such lovely lines and a gorgeous face, love you and adore you, your beauty is true inspiration ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[DrPepper12]

Both chase & prize youth! It's an evolutionary default! This is ridiculous. How about everyone MYOB & STFU about what other people legally, safely & consensually desire?

[nastyb]

no, its not evolution. Thats why marriage data shows that the average age gap in marriages in the US is 2-3 years.

[Quigly]

I wouldn't care. Age disparity Seems like the least of the issues when it comes to relationships.

As long as a person is of the age that can make decisions for themselves. They should be able to be with the person of their choosing.

[Kelly6]

@marish01 well I also date young guys, it doesn't mean that I'm unsure. To me its just preference I guess

[exitseven]

if they are not married it is all good unless it is with my daughter.

[RingOfFire]

Amen to THAT! 🙏

[beenherebefore]

Hmmm yea. I mean I wouldn’t verbally share my opinion with them but in my head I’m judging.

[Anonymous]

I do think they must have a screw loose. Most men don't really become adults until they reach 30, if you are lucky. It would be like dating big children.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes, there's a reason they couldnt get someone their own age

[Grond21]

Not immediately, no. I totally get the physical attraction aspect. It entirely depends on if they want a hot body or if they want a life partner

[Twalli]

If you look younger than your age, looks can be a good thing. Obviously, for anyone looking to procreate, you are less attractive, but otherwise you looking like you're younger is a good thing.

[LiamJHayden]

It is not my concern whom consenting adults date.

[shortster]

Nope. If everyone is an adult I have no problem with people dating way outside of their own age group.

[AviatorTom]

Nope! Why should I?

[Kingofkings1992]

Honestly, yes. If you are in your 40’s, someone in their 20’s is too young for you. Barring a few exceptions. A 40 year old and 29 year old is fine, but generally it’s cringe.

[AngryCarl2]

If a guy in his 40s can date girls in their 20s I'd take my cap off to him.

[Staximus]

I don't think anybody is going to care if you're 33 crazy lady

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'm SEVENTY-ONE and would date a 20-year-old.

[zagor]

I don't care what other people do in their private lives.

[motownplayer2000]

Nope. I take it’s none of my business after they are of age literally. It’s none of my business

[nawtee_me]

What about a guy in his late 60’s and a girl in her 20’s? Or 30’s?

[Sparklight]

@nawtee_me I know somebody like this. It might be right for some, but not for others.

[nastyb]

pervert

[Sparklight]

@nastyb and we just keep getting ages further apart. LOL!

[nastyb]

@Sparklight

Its hilarious how these perverts think people would believe a senior citizen would be in love with an 18 yr old.

[msg321]

As long as the both sides are happy about that, it is ok. The older one may be make or female it doesn't matter.

[msg321]

*male

[Guanfei]

Nah idc, people do whatever they want as long as they're consenting adults.

[Yellovv]

Everyone free about whatever they do, you can't blame them about it..

[Valdemort]

What's it got to do with me, anyway?

[lyrem04]

More like 50’s + and 20’s yea that’s sick to me