Should gurls chase after a guy or will he only play her?

[Anonymous]

I understand this may go for both guys and girls but either way is it safe? I never found anything good coming out of chasing a guy. Once I see im chasing I fall back. I dont like it

[alice55]

I'm not so sure it's a good idea to do it there's many reasons hwy a guy won't chase you either he's not really interested by you (and if you pursue him either he ll be ok having sex but not more or he'll reject you or he'll date you if he feel like he got no other option but would cheat or leave you when it better option come) and if not if he's really into you but don't try to approach it mean he's insecure or fear rejection / have social anxiety and he would surely be very hard to date (so the best option would be for him to get out of his fear and actually make the move himself so he's more confident) you making the first move is not gonna help his self worth or anxiety and it usually always end up in jealousy and horrible relationship so in both option it's usually not the best idea for women to do the approaching.

[Asker]

Makes a lot of sense
Should I just move on if he's hesitant? Now I don't know if he likes me or not. I think he's someone with a lot or other options. It'll suck if I have to move on

[alice55]

I think it's better to move on if he don't ask you out he's either insecure or not interested in both case it's not a good idea, either he'll be with you but not serious either he'll surely end up like an avoidant lover or over jealous so not good.

I'm kinda in the same case except I know the guy likes me but he just won't ask me out, someday he's more bold and other he just look at me when I'm not looking, I thought about approaching him but then I decided it's not worth the trouble if he can't find the courage to do it how will we be able to get anything done after? Like the texting? The whole dating phase? I'm not gonna be the one to make every signle move if he's so unsure it's better he either get secure or just move on.
Personally I decided to move on but I'm still open if he ask me out but as of right now I'm moving on.

I'll say keep your option open, don't forget him completely but still move on for your own good.

The guy I like is in league below me so it's surely why he's unsure to pursue but if the one you like have lots of option then he would have asked you out if he was truly interested.

In those option it's either the guy is insecure (if league below becuase of appearance / low wage job) or lack of interest (if he's actually attractive with many option).

I would say in both case moving on is the best course of action but not comptely closing the option if it happen one day.

[Asker]

You have to smile at him. Give him the green light it's okay to talk to you. Congrats🥲

[Asker]

And thank you for your help!

[KateCrombie]

U never know... sometimes it can bring positive results

[ohsheeT]

Never chase after a guy. Make an attempt to let him know that you are interested and then walk away if he doesn't come around and that means he's not interested or if he plays the game. I'm trying to pull you back in trying to pull you back in. So you are chasing after him, walk away?

You don't want a guy like that anyway

If a guy is into games you don't want him

Because any game playing is a manipulation , so that's all he's going to do threw out Your relationship

[Shiprex]

If you want something then you can go try to encourage it to get you but there's always a risk. You may miss out and at the same time come across as desperate and giving them some ego boost they don't deserve

[BonzoInBitburg]

If you chase, that likely means someone is running away. But there's nothing wrong with shooting your shot.

[slatyb]

No one should chase. Ask someone out. If that decline, move on.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy you chase after. Most women do not make very good choices when it comes to men.

[Asker]

Im afraid I might be one of those women. Like when I see i have to chase i don't. BUT... that has literally been every single man I've delt with... they are all playing some game. It's like they need to see how much I need them.

[Asker]

I'm starting to believe all men are like this

[Opinion Owner]

Just curious, how many of these guys did you ask out. And when I say ask out. I mean literally said, "hey would you like to go out some time"?

[Asker]

I honestly stopped doing that after getting rejected in high school a bunch so maybe 2.. but I always thought the guy was supposed to ask the girl out

[Opinion Owner]

Well this is WHY I asked. Because yes, traditionally the guy is SUPPOSED to ask the woman out. But also the women actually supposed to be interested. I think you'd be moon eyed to know what percentage of your gender will actually approach a guy, chat him up, the guy ask her out, and she rejects him. Guys have seen this game time and time again. I'm NOT saying this is the guys you've pursued. But I am guaranteeing you they seen a fair number of them women.
It's a 💩ty deal all around. And it's only getting worse.

[MannMitAntworten]

What all goes into chasing someone?

[DannyUk2017]

There is a saying