Is it normal to developed feelings for someone you didn’t have feelings for?

[Anonymous]

I can’t stop thinking about my guy friend. I don’t a relationship romantically but lately I’ve been thinking about him every damn day. I’ve rejected him so many times when he asked he out on a date. I told him I have no feelings for him but he said one day I’ll realize he’s the man for me and he’ll ware me down. He hated the guys I’m interested in or tells them I’m his girl and they leave me alone.
I went to the dance with him twice but just as FRIENDS. He ALWAYS asked me to prom or school dances so I would have to quickly ask another guy because I knew he was going to ask me. As a tall, heavy (260lbs, 5’11) girl, guys wouldn’t give me the time of day. They always liked my petite or slim or fit girls. My guy friend is a big boy too, also heavy and 6’1”. He was never into the hot or cute girls. Wasn’t into slim girls either. He always chased me. Ge admitted that he’s liked me since 8th grade. We’ve known each other since 4th grade and he would ALWAYS follow me around and I got irritated. My crush was so mean to me and insulted my weight. He was a joke. He dated me for a couple weeks but I broke up with him. He only likes me because I looked thin (I’m 176lbs now.)
My sister had to knock some sense into me a few months ago to realize that my guy friend was always the man for me since day one and just call him or see him. Open my eyes and she wasn’t going to let me let a guy like him go. My guy friend told me he always found someone and he doesn’t want it be turned down again. I’m very happy for him but I’m starting to feel…. jealous. I developed feelings before he got with her but I didn’t want to admit it. I keep fighting it. He’s been with his girl for two months.
I think I’m in love with my guy him.

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1 y

My own father said one time, if my mom was very overweight like I was (260lbs) she’s 5’5, he wouldn’t even talk to her or date her. Wow….. that hurt so mad. Wow dad really?
He said I’m a lucky girl to have a guy that likes me even at my heaviest. My mom was always a slim fit woman. My dad is too. He’s 6’3.

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1 y

My mistake he’s been with his girl for three months

[OneViewpoint]

You fucked up. You didn't want him until someone else had him. Now you're thinking about messing up his life after he's moved on from 15 years of you ignoring him and disrespecting him. Leave the guy alone. You did this to yourself. He's probably changed the way he sees you. Woulda could've shoulda. You can't go back in time.

Good luck finding another guy to dote on you at 5'11" and 260 lbs as you approach 30.

[Asker]

Okay you didn’t have to be this harsh but you’re right. I did fuck up. I’ve ignored his feelings for years. I didn’t ignore him as a person but he needed to understand that I didn’t have feelings back then. I don’t know why I’m having feelings for him now. I’m glad he’s happy I’m the relationship. Why would you think I want to mess things up for him.

[Asker]

I didn’t disrespect him!

[Anonymous]

Feelings do not follow logical patterns. There's no such thing as "normal" when it comes to feelings. But a person's feelings are permeated by thier experiences (both good and bad). I think you just like this guys attention on some level. And the only reason you have feelings for him now is you say the potential for his attention no longer being there for you.

[Asker]

I did not enjoy his attention when he keeps asking me out.

[Opinion Owner]

I said on some level. I don't enjoy the attention from FAT women but on some level it is still a compliment.
I'm not saying you enjoy his continued asking you out. But you do enjoy the validation you get from it, and now know you won't get otherwise.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Of course it's normal. Perhaps it's not too common, but it happens.

[Asker]

Yeah. I don’t know why I am. I don’t want a relationship with him but my heart says go after him. He has a girlfriend now and I want him to be happy.

[exitseven]

I had a female friend that I sometimes would get confused about