What would make you actually get up and leave on a first date?

[Anonymous]

What is the number 1 thing that would make you actually get up and leave on a first date?

[Finchie40]

Asking me for money when she was the one that planned the date to the casino , I met her there and the first thing we did was get a drink at the bar that I paid for , she then put her hand out to me and said give me money to gamble , i said you did t bring any money to gamble with? And she said No, I thought you would spot me , I told her I have to hit the ATM and I will be right back , I left

[Chazmatazz269]

There are lots of things. Just generally being a jerk in any way guarantees i leave. I used to sit politely through dates during which it became clear we were not a match. Depending on how i picked up on that sense, i might leave because of that too. There are a lot of people out there wasting other people’s time and, especially as a man, money. I put an end to that toward the end, thus effectively put an end to my dating. Ell oh ell!

[DishLady]

Oh. I did that once bc the guy nearly flipped the table when he realized I did better than him on some random placement test. Ridiculous guy yelled, "Who do you think you are? you think you're better than me?" (which was idiotic bc we were meeting up to celebrate my good news, which was my results...). Smart gals finish last...

[HappyToday]

Sounds like you were actually objectively too good for him!!

[DishLady]

@HappyToday He had an inferiority complex I was too young to understand at the time. We were at my family's favorite restaurant, though, so I got up, paid the owner for everything, apologized on behalf of myself, my family and all our ancestors (a Greek thing) and left the guy to stew in his own dimension of insanity.

[Simslover92]

Talking about their ex the whole time or themselves.

[Billybob46]

I've been there with the talking about themselves the whole time.

[Simslover92]

Dang that sucks. Sorry.

[MrOracle]

Entitlement. Someone who thinks they are owed whatever they want at my expense simply because we are on a date. I've never really had that happen to me (one time was a bit of a grey area but we weren't going to work out anyway), but I have actually seen it happen to other guys.

I do my best to vet women before asking them out, which allows me to avoid most of that foolishness, but most people do almost no vetting, and when they do, it's usually for the wrong things.

[AviatorTom]

I've told this story before.

After my divorce, I met this woman on a dating site. We agreed to meet for our first date for dinner at a Chinese restaurant. She was 20 minutes late, was obese (nothing like her pictures), wearing a skimpy pink bra and shorts outfit. Her first words were "My pussy is so wet." I didn't stay for dinner.

[red-lipstick-girl]

🤣🤣 this is really funny I think her pussy was wet from sweating

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Technically, I never had any first date, all my relationships have started organically. So by the time we're sitting together, face to face, in a public setting then I know her thoughts and behavior enough to ensure that nothing weird will happen. In that context, I cannot answer the question. Or I can say, I would get up and leave, quickly...

If she carried... a rocket launcher?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hmmm if the rocket launcher is a tattoo, it's okay though !

[Zack-Bann]

If it’s a dude
(Or was a dude or thought it was a dude or any other variation)


Also if she smells very bad


Most things I can get past and let the date happen
But if I have to hold my breath there’s no chance

[Anonymous]

Basically, if I ran into the type of women you see online.

Dating is hard for both genders. We've all had our bad experiences. But if a woman comes into a date popping off about how all men are dogs, that guys just want to sleep with her, use her for money, etc. Then I'd probably think up and excuse to leave.

We've all had bad dates (I think my lucks been pretty good). But being an adult and being polite should be expected for both genders.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I'm not a disrespectful person so I don't get up and leave the table, I just keep the conversation short. He once kept me waiting for an hour at a meeting and he came in like a skunk.

[exitseven]

I think if she screwed around with her cell phone the whole time I would get up and say that I had to go to the bathroom and never come back. Especially bad if she was talking to other guys.

[Nikki1989]

[Tarifa]

When the person you're dating is only talking about herself and shows no interest in getting to know you.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Probably just saying something disrespectful or treating people disrespectfully

[Bricealan]

Her being a horses ass and talking on her cell,

[beenherebefore]

Bad manners. Sexual conversations. Too many compliments. Thirsty behavior.

[MrChinaski]

Short of verbal or physical violence, I wouldn't leave. Maybe as a man I feel safer than some women feel.

[Cormac995]

I found out they were pro Trump or Anti Ukraine. Insta dead date.

[Cormac995]

Edit: Also if they are part of this pro Palestine crowd. I understand Isreal has committed illegal acts of expansion but this issue is far more complex than "Isreal bad, Palestine oppressed." Isreal the state has a right to exist but it's expanded boarders are not legal. That said we're also living in a world with the Taliban, Hezbollah, Hamas and the Huthies and they are a threat to the entire world and need to be dealt with one way or another. There is no perfect solution here but if you side with the terrorists you've lost the plot.

[red-lipstick-girl]

Israel is evil and oppresses Palestine

[Cormac995]

@red-lipstick-girl So Isreal is evil but when Hamas feeds cooked baby meat to 11 year old and rape them for six months, do what they did on October 7th and drive nails into womans vagina's to close them for being heretics, stone people and parade around baby corpses as trophy's of war they're the victims? Get the fuck out of here with this bullshit. I only sympathies with non savages.

[Cormac995]

@red-lipstick-girl This isn't a genocide like people keep claiming. Isreal is bombing apartment blocks because HAMAS use them as sniper nests. They bomb schools and hospitals because they build supply caches and bases under them. They with hold aid because the moment it's delivered Hamas steals it at gun point to maintain control and it doesn't go to the people it's meant too who are savages in their own right even if they hate HAMAS which most Palestinians see as a problem yet morons seem to think HAMAS is fighting for the people who hate them like that retard Hasan Piker. The sooner HAMAS is gone the soone4r this shit stops.

[Joshydavid25]

Something extreme like finding out they aren't single, or if they are rudely seeming uninterested..

[Shiprex]

Telling me they have another date after this one

[RHK36]

Entitled or really any major red flag questioning their character or personality. Like if you're already insufferable on the first date then I'm out.

[Geo1970]

Nothing as I am a curious person and fascinated with people due to their individual characteristics.

[Anonymous]

I'm very curious, and it constantly draws my attention. I wonder why there are always white women and black men on the covers of all the questions. Are white men extinct? 😂

[MannMitAntworten]

Don’t know. I have never been on a date with someone who remotely gave me the desire to up and bail.

[Twalli]

She's married or has a penis. I don't care if she used to be a guy, as long as she has female parts now.

[Hellraiser1984]

Being asked how much money I make. Or to see my car.

[Alexa1999_]

I’ve done it they didn’t even notice until bill came she was on her phone the whole time.

[Godihateyou]

Mistreating the waiter or anyone, being rude, answering questions with one word, being fat.

[Cynthia79]

They're on their phone the whole time. I left once didn't notice til 6 hours later.

[WhitneySnow]

The person being rude to the wait staff

[Sammygirl9287]

Feeling ignored

[Cuminginside]

Even though you're cute Yeah that's definitely something wrong with them Maybe sit next to them and get their attention

[RavVid]

An uppity attitude.

[slatyb]

Mistreating the staff.

[blackeagle007]

If she wanted to get in bed with me

[SotiCoto]

If she ordered chicken.

[RedInnocent69]

Um, as opposed to steak and lobster? 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

if he is not well dressed i would leave

[Anonymous]

Obnoxious behavior. That is earned.

[lorenzomichael]

If she started hating on things that I enjoy.

[BarryLiverstone]

If they got arrested or killed someone.

[scott04sa22]

It depends on the situation.

[dougeats]

If she chews with her mouth open

[shortster]

The end of the date 🤷

[Bklynbadboy12]

If she has a shifty attitude

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I never had a date :(

[sage2021]

If he insulted me.

[Daphne98]

Her coming with her husband which has happened.

[virgo2267]

Bad breath

[Anonymous]

My legs

[beefcakebradybatson]

F_U_N_K !!!

[Anonymous]

Being rude