How long can you date an unemployed person?

Question

I am doing sports and learning a language these days, so I am not thinking about working for a while, maybe I will go to a course and improve myself in sports, then I will start working, I am not seeing anyone during this time. I still wonder if someone would say anything about my unemployment if it was there

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A majority of men don’t care about that, especially if they can provide for both. Women on the other hand tend to care about that. That’s why you have all these women who complain that they can’t find a man who say things like I make a lot of money, I have my own place, my own car, etc. But the thing about that is her money isn’t going to benefit him because most women want a man to pay for a majority of things. So why would that interest him? Most tomes it doesn’t. Most men have been conditioned to take care of women. So long as you’re not a pain in the ass, you’re nice, cute, pleasant, he’s going to be ok w it. The one time men may be concerted about finances if she’s thousands of dollars in debt. Even if you weren’t going to school, so long as you took care of him, the house, cooking, cleaning, he’d be ok w it. My girl has t worked for 17 years but she does all of that which I just mentioned. Some women say they’d do it, yes for a few months, maybe even a year but when they realize they have to pay for everything the rest of their lives they don’t like it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends on thier financial situation as well as thier plans. I've technically been unemployed for the past three years. But I worked my ass off in the previous 30 years. So while it's not an ideal situation, and it was certainly not planned. Financially I've been able to swing it. In the interim I've taken the steps to go into business for myself. I'm far from getting rich, but I am supplementing my situation atm. I'm either going to make a go of it on my own or I'll eventually land a job working for another firm.

The point I'm making is I've always viewed an occupation as one's personal business. I may work for a firm or may work for myself, but either way I'm always in the business of furthering MY brand. To date it's always worked out.

I guess what I'm saying is I've always taken care of myself. And I could do the same thing for my partner provided I feel the have a similar mindset to mine. Honestly if we didn't have similar view on money it would never work to begin with.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

It's fine if they don't become like the guy I was talking to who didn't have a job and had no issue "borrowing" money like a $100 here and $80 there.. Then asking me to rent a hotel room "for us" and buy him a gift for his birthday when I only knew him for 2 months lol. I bought him a necklace for his birthday but never met up or gave it to him, since he never paid me back and was clearly using me.. at the time I didn't really care because I had money to blow but I'm only actually attracted to serious guys who can take care of themselves.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I tried that earlier this year and that was a big mistake. Never again unless I've been with the person for a while and they lost their job all of a sudden. Then I would try to support them as best as I can for a while. But just starting out dating someone and they are unemployed... nope.

HawkPerception · Answer

Couldn't care less about their financial situation. As long as they're happy. And I'd prefer a partner that felt the same as me in that regard.

Avicenna · Answer

That could depend on how much financial support, if any, they’d have to provide you. Will you feel like you’re seeing enough of that employed person?

ohsheeT · Answer

When im dating I'm asking the girl out so I'm paying.. so I'm not worried about that

Tarifa · Answer

Jobs come and go. It's never been a problem being with someone who is temporarily unemployed, by choice or otherwise. Another thing alltogether is that the person would relax and take advantage of the situation to his or her own benefit.

What language are you currently learning?

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Unemployment means everything and nothing . There are many ways to look at unemployment, depending on where one lives, depending on how they look at themselves, socially: Unemployed in a country where collective support isn't in any dictionary? Well, that smells like depression, in general, and despair. Hard to carry someone like that, but not infeasible, for a time. Unemployed in a country where there is community support? Smells like better times, money flowing reasonably, and better morale, so, easier relationships. Unemployed while it contradicts expectations in life? Whether or not there is external, financial support, again, it smells like depression... With the consequences associated on themselves and in turn on the relationship Unemployed and feeling well about it? Then it's cool, anyone feeling well with themselves, whatever their status, is evidently cool to live with, and to love.

DJB72 · Answer

There's a difference between unemployment and where you are - assuming you're actually 21.

Unemployed puts a picture of someone sitting home - probably in their parent's basement - doing nothing to improve their situation.

What you're doing is developing skills that will allow you to be more marketable when you enter the job market.

My current situation is similar, albeit 30 years older. I'm not employed, but I'm working to fix my home for sale and studying homesteading skills for my next step. I'm building a future to raise a son in that will help him heal after losing his mum last year. That means changing things up so I can be more present and hands-on for a few years so he never doubts how much his mum and I love him.

So to your question

RHK36 · Answer

If it happens while we are together and you're trying then no worries. But if you are jobless before dating then hell to the no stay single. I've gone to uni and worked. There's no excuse to not being able to do both. If you don't have the time then how the hell you gonna have time for a relationship. Literally just using people because you're broke is what I'd be thinking. That was my rule when I was younger. I couldn't or didn't think about dating anyone if I was between jobs. It signals that you don't have enough care, drive or time to manage a relationship.

Likes2drive · Answer

Well she’s not unemployed, but she’s working part time now and not making much money and it’s becoming a burden on me now after all these months so I try to help her out while trying to pay my own bills so it’s not working out so well after so long but maybe a couple of months is no big deal But I know most women are not going to date a guy that doesn’t have a job

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I think I would just be friends with someone unemployed.

Shiprex · Answer

If they're doing something like making a career of it, then as long as they need and want to make the effort though at some point I am certain they'd realise I hope that they will make it or not.

ItsJill · Answer

I don’t date unemployed guys, I learned my lesson.

FreyaRed · Answer

I date the guy not his job nor lack of it. As long a guy is financially self sufficient and doesn't beg for money I don't really care.

MemeSupreme · Answer

how does being unemployed not stress you out lol you're better than i am and maybe if they're in school. really depends on the reasoning

lilBigPotato · Answer

It depends. If I have the feeling that the guy is smart and working on changing the status quo, then it's not an automatic red flag.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Frankly I don’t care if someone i am seeing is employed or not. As long as she is happy in her current place good enough. I have been involved with both the employed and unemployed.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

not at all, im not gonna pay for someone else to live

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Unemployed or not only meets my focus when I'm asked to compensate for it. In all other cases it's not relevant.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

You're a woman.. You'll be fine.. I wouldn't mind at all.. Especially if we don't live together..

dinojames22 · Answer

During covid I dated a girl who was technically unemployed (her work got shut down). we dated for about 6 months.

Miah06 · Answer

Law says 3 months 24 days 52 minutes and 31 seconds

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

Never when I was single I was very honest that my goal was to be a trophy wife and I am now one lol

jamesgoldman · Answer

Both my exes were working Probably not long if they're doing nothing because I do 70 hour weeks

slatyb · Answer

What will you live on? Do what you please, it should not affect your dating prospects unless you are looking for a man to support you.

exitseven · Answer

/their employment status is bot consideration.

Grond21 · Answer

Men value a woman's career choices far less than women value men's career choices. So you are good

lorenzomichael · Answer

It would’ve mattered to me if she ever worked. I don’t need her money.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

Men used to do this for their entire lives. I am no exception.

LiamJHayden · Answer

As long as she is not lazy I do not care whether she works or not.

Amur8711 · Answer

If I am making enough, indefinitely as long as they bring to the table other things that I can't do because I am working.

Anonymous · Answer

How long does their unemployment check last? 🤔

fivebyfour · Answer

I don't know, try asking the British royal family lol,,,

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It wouldn't be too much of an issue for me. Just so long as she's staying productive in other ways.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

A long time I make good money more than enough to take care of me and my girl

nawtee_me · Answer

Being unemployed does not take you off of the dating list. In my opinion. If someone wants to be in a relationship with you then being unemployed shouldn’t matter. It wouldn’t to me….

KostasKouvalis · Answer

That's great! More free time to go on dates! What sports are you playing?

shortster · Answer

If I am not supporting her, until we get married. At that point we are no longer dating.

MrZameer · Answer

tbh, I don't care if my partner is working or unemployed, I do care how she is with me,

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I'm not going to be your ATM I'll just put it like that

Anonymous · Answer

As long as possible, if she's my type of girl.

Jennz6 · Answer

It doesn’t matter because I work

Geo1970 · Answer

As long as the attraction and love are prevailing.

eagle1951 · Answer

if i love them , forever

Dongie · Answer

As long as they'll let you.

Godihateyou · Answer

19.9 years and counting

curiousguy99999 · Answer

Forever

dudeinohio · Answer

Indefinitely

PaleDale · Answer

Forever

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