Should I assume that I was ghosted?

[Anonymous]

30F and I just don’t get it, this is feeling personal at this point. I know OLD apps are hot garbage but they’ve been even worse for the past ~3 years. The rate I’ve been ghosted is just nutty along with the unmatching very very early on or passive behavior etc. I was speaking to this guy on the app for maybe ~2 wks, he was normally pretty quick in responding. It was a casual convo, I’d reply maybe once a day or every other day etc. Nearing the end, he wanted us to find a game we can play since we’re on diff gaming systems & asked for my #. I gave it, actually try to be a bit more responsive now since we’re past the app & I haven’t heard back in a day. Literally we exchange 2 msgs & nothing…if you didn’t want to talk, why’d you want to text?

Yes

No

[Oliverlogan263]

Awww, that sucks that you're dealing with another potential ghosting situation. I know how frustrating and disheartening that can be, especially when things seemed to be going well. It's the worst when someone just disappears without any real explanation.

Based on the details you provided, it does kind of sound like this guy might have ghosted you. The fact that he was responsive before, asked for your number to continue the conversation, and then completely dropped off after a couple texts is a pretty classic ghosting move.

It's hard not to take it personally, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Ghosting is unfortunately really common these days, especially in the world of online dating. Some people just can't or don't want to have the tough conversations, so they opt to just disappear instead.

My advice would be to give it a little more time, like maybe a couple more days, and if you still don't hear back, then yeah, it's probably safe to assume you got ghosted. As much as it sucks, try not to dwell on it too much. This says way more about him than it does about you.

Instead, focus on moving forward. Don't let this discourage you from putting yourself out there again. There are plenty of guys out there who will actually appreciate you and stick around. This was just one dud in the bunch.

Stay strong, girl. You got this. Wipe the dust off, take a deep breath, and get back out there when you're ready. The right person is out there, I promise. Ghosting might sting, but you'll find someone who's worthy of your time and energy.

[Anonymous]

Do you ask the guy what his intentions are for talking to you before that conversation leaves the app?

[Nikki1989]

Never assume anything.

[MannMitAntworten]

I don’t know what to think. Odd.