What’s the worst rejection you ever had?

[Summeroflove]

[Anonymous]

I woman I'd known for about a decade started clearly coming on to me signaling she wanted to elevate the friendship. I'd always found her attractive and I had strong feelings towards her so I took the initiative and asked her out. She smiled, and said she go out with me as a friend. And then later backed out completely. This confused the hell out of me. I thought to myself she showed very clear signs she wanted to be more than friends. How could I have misjudged this so badly. But I have to accept it and move on. Nothing more was said about it by me. But then weeks later she started coming on to me again. Eventually I started connecting the dots and figured out that I was her ego boost, nothing more.

Now the only reason I consider this the worst rejection was two reason. 1. I had known her as long as I did. And 2. I was naive not only about her but women in general.

Asking her out was the equivalent to putting all my chips on one number on the roulette table and going bust. It f***ed me up for over a year. At the time I doubted myself, my worth, and felt like I lost a friend of 10 years. But the REALITY was that she was NEVER my friend. And I had gotten a harsh lesson from and opportunistic woman.

Today I have mixed feelings about it. I'm completely passed it. I'm smarter and more woman weary. But there's a part of me that regrets that I'll never trust as completely and wholey as I did before. A part of my innocence died in the wake of her.

[Summeroflove]

Some people aren’t worth wasting time on. Maybe she was interested and was playing hard to get. Maybe she pretended to like you more for certain reasons to get things from you.

It’s best to leave people behind even if it hurts.

[Zack-Bann]

Senior year, high school
Asked a girl I was head over heels for to prom


She was dating an older guy
we had a rule that prom dates should all be students


It took me the whole year to come up with the courage to ask because we were good friends at the time and I didn’t wanna end up going alone.


But she knew everyone in school already assumed we were an item (we did have chemistry)
And she didn’t want her boyfriend to get jealous
So she turned me down and went with another good friend of ours


I was devastated.
And I think so was she. She actually skipped school for 2 days after turning me down because she didn’t wanna face me.


The only silver lining of that whole ordeal was that I was voted prom king in the end
But it still hurt like a motherfucker that I didn’t have my queen


9 years later she’s now married to that dipshit boyfriend.
And I went on to travel have a career, got to, and still get to be with women


But part of my inner child still wonders what it might have been like if I was the one she went for back then.
(Because I have no doubt she wanted to and had to suppress it to honor her commitment)

[Summeroflove]

Damn she probably would have cheated with you… but honestly I’d that’s the case I wouldn’t trust her either

[Zack-Bann]

You’re probably right
Besides I never wanted her to “cheat”

But selfishly I wanted her to break up with her boyfriend and after a few months of self reflection chose me

It’s not perfect but it’s better than cheating and lying about it

[Rei13]

The worst was probably when a guy told me he liked everything about me personality-wise and then made it a point to tell me exactly what all of my ‘good’ and ‘bad’ physical features were in excruciating detail and how he couldn’t get past how part of me looked. When I asked for space and actually went through putting distance between us he started blowing my phone up like I rejected him and when that wasn’t working made it a point to tell me how he told all our friends about how I was acting and they thought I was overreacting/handling it poorly. Needless to say the mutual friends we had together either don’t talk to him anymore (either because of how he treated me or because of something else) or maintained relationships with both of us separately.

[Summeroflove]

Peoppe can be weird. Seems like there was some personal obsession on his part I don’t know. Some people feel as if they must reject you before you reject them.

They for some reason also think you’re going to waste your time chasing them…

[Rei13]

He knew I liked him a lot at that point in time and I think he just liked that I liked him. He probably wanted to keep me as a backup if things didn’t work out with the next one and when I basically stopped talking to him he didn’t handle it well. I just feel bad because he ended up losing one of his best friends over it (well two if you count me) They spent a lot of time together too and the best friend ended up cutting him off over it because he witnessed a lot of it

[DishLady]

The fake rejection (followed by an attempted "pull back"). I don't like games so I ended up having to walk away. Very dragged out, annoying issue.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah games aren’t worth it

[jazzy34]

I don’t want to get into the whole story because it was traumatic for me. Basically, the guy I liked went from being nice to being cold towards me. Granted, there are some things I could’ve done differently, but he ended up being very rude towards me.

[NathanDavis]

I've never had any

but... I've literally only asked one person, and I already knew she was into me as well, so... no big deal there, lol

[Nikki1989]

I have never let rejections bother me, so I can't say anything negative here.

[Summeroflove]

Plus you’re married so your days of putting yourself out there are kinda over

[MemeSupreme]

i've never been rejected before, BUT i dont really approach guys either

i'm way too awkward for that

[bddddd]

It's like a muscle. You have to train it. What's the worst that can happen? They say no and you are in precisely the same place you were before approaching them. Just one person's opinion

[Anonymous]

My husband rejected dating me because I was too young. I litteraly had to wait until I was 16 before he would even date me and then I had to watch him date various other women knowing he was sleeping with them. But I got him in the end.

[Summeroflove]

That’s sound pedophelic and creepy

[Opinion Owner]

I don't see how. I really had to chase him. He only saw me like that when one year i grew boobs and I was in my swimsuit

[DangerouslyCute]

if you don't know why they reject you

[ambitious_male]

Being ghosted after expressing every word you feel and write.

[Anonymous]

Being rejected by my parents from birth.

[Summeroflove]

Ouch

[Anonymous]

All of my loves were unrequited, but I never even tried anything, so I was technically never rejected.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

never been rejected