What's the worst way you've been rejected?

[YourFutureEx]

I have heard people saying that some girls say "eww", "can't a girl have a drink peacefully?" & some girls even started crying because they couldn't believe that such an ugly man would believe that he has a chance with her.

The w̶o̶r̶s̶t̶ best she can say is "no".

[Genie23]

I haven't been rejected yet as I never really approached and asked out/confessed my feelings to someone because I've always been shy and nervous when it comes to guys I like.

It's embarassing to admit that I've been one of those girls who started crying though but in my defence, I was very young back then. I was in school. In schools and college whenever a guy would approach and confess their feelings, I'd freak out and ran. Yes, literally ran away after looking at them as if I've seen a ghost and avoided them not because they were hideous or anything. I was just too immature and scared. I wasn't ready for boys, dating and relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️ So, at times I did cry because they came off as pushy/intimidating or did put me in a spot so I freaked out.

One of the worst things I've done (not counting the guys who stalked and harassed) is showing up for a date and I had NO idea it was a date until I saw him dressed so well and the table decorated. He bought me flowers... He was that friend who liked me from the first time we met and was quite open about his fondness for me so when he asked me to meet somewhere outside. I showed up thinking it was just friends hanging out. So, when he proposed and seem very confident that I feel the same way about him. I was shocked and confused. My mum was very sick back then so I had a lot of things in my mind. I paused and stared at the table and when he asked me to say something, I whispered "Umm.. can I think about it and answer later please?" He said sure. I avoided him after that. I realised later that I did like him but wasn't ready for dating and things were not well in my life. That's why avoiding him seem like the right thing to do. I was stupid when I was younger. Now I know how to gently say no.

[YourFutureEx]

I wish I could also just flick my hair and get my crushes to ask me out just like that.

Those poor guys have been scarred for life lol. I mean you have brothers, right? Why were boys intimidating to you? Also how did boys stopped feeling intimidating?

Poor guy must have felt like it's a done deal as you're so comfortable with him already that you're coming up in hoodies and slippers xD
Jokes aside, but if any girl says "Umm.. can I think about it and answer later please?", even I would feel like it's a done deal lmao because that's what girls always say before saying yes. Like that's double damage.
Now you are mature enough and know how to say "no"? Lmao a better question would be, do you now know how to say "yes", as you liked that boy.

Please please please send me his outfit or something like that for inspiration. I want all the girls I meet tell their friends that "although I destroyed his confidence with mixed signals, that boy did look so sharp af!"

[Genie23]

LMAO! Trust me, you wouldn't say that if you were a girl as everytime you say no... you'd feel sudden guilt even though you did the right thing by saying no as they deserve someone better and someone who like them back. I never did flicking my hair thing with my crushes. I did "aankhon ki gustaakhiyan maaf ho" unknowingly as a shy girl 🤣

Yeah, I have 3 older brothers but they weren't in the same school/college after a certain point. When I said intimidating means them showing up everywhere I go, getting too close to me when they'd find me alone, doing some stupid things before they confessed and when they did confess, they wouldn't say it gently. The way they said it sounded more like in a "I have feelings for you. You must have feelings for me too, right?" I do not like crowds. I've been proposed more than few times when we were surrounded by people. I felt pressured and they looked like they wouldn't take "no" very kindly. They were aggressive sort of guys if you know what I mean. Now boys have turned into men so most of them know how to approach and confess without making her feel pressured. Also, I've changed too. I've grown and know how to handle such situations now thanks to guys in my life who told me how to.

I wasn't exactly a hoodie and slippery sort of person, lol. But yeah, I was very casually dressed than him. He didn't lose faith as he was the one who initiated talking and initiated friendship and I was this timid girl who would like something but wouldn't say yes directly, lol. He assumed since we are talking so much everyday and would hangout often after few weeks of not seeing each other because of vacation, she came to meet me. She must liked me.

As I said my mum was VERY sick, so I wouldn't have said yes to him even now if my loved one isn't doing well healthwise. But yeah, I can say Yes now that I'm mature otherwise I wouldn't have been in relationships, lol

Hey, that's mean...

[Genie23]

I didn't mean to scar anyone or break anyone's confidence. I wasn't mean. Thought you'd understand that by now

[YourFutureEx]

If you're not in your hoodie, slippers and that sort of dress, I think most guys would believe that you have actually dressed up. We don't really notice that much about your dress or makeup or your luxury bag etc. It's more about the gesture that gets noticed. That you kept your word.

I didn't mean that you intentionally scarred those kids. Kids can get hurt easily, over anything really. You were a kid too and you were not capable of making the best decisions (as everyone of that age) and in addition to that, you have right to have your say and your reaction is justified. I was not pointing fingers at you, I was just empathising with those little boys because I can understand how they must have felt. I didn't know you would take it personally.

And my last comment was, again, not pointed at you, it was self-depreciating humour that I admit even if I dress sharp, I cannot expect to change women's opinions on me over this. If they're gonna say no, they will say no whatsoever, but I want to lose in style. I did mean that he deserved to be treated better because he put in efforts or you refused to his advances just to break him. You did what was best for you and justified with what your life demanded. I liked the way you complimented his attire and wanted to see if I can do better like him but apparently my choice of words wasn't best and I apologise if I didn't convey my messages correctly. Sorry.

[Genie23]

I understand.

True, I do feel bad about my reaction but like I said I was stupid, immature, scared and confused. If I could turn back time and fix it, I would. I do agree that the guy (whom I went out with but didn't know I was on a date,) deserved to be treated better. He was a really nice guy. Honest. Upfront. If I was bit matured and knew how to handle difficult situations, I'd have told him about whatever I was going through in life including hinting him at my mum's serious health issues but I didn't know how to express tough things back then. It was hard enough to process it. That being said, if that guy ever came across me, I'd be too mortified to look into his eyes even if he's completely moved on because I still feel guilt whenever I get reminded of him

It's okay! I'm a bad texter. Sometimes I misunderstand things as I don't always get the tone in which people are speaking as it's in the form of text. That's why people in love calls me directly so I don't get annoyed or upset because of misunderstanding. 😬 You're all good! I'm sorry about earlier.

[YourFutureEx]

Come on dude, I fucked up again and made you remember your ill mom again...
No. Not true. I made a typo. I mistakenly typed "I did mean that he deserved to be treated better", when I actually meant "I did NOT mean that he deserved to be treated better only because he put in efforts". You and every single person deserves the freedom to reject anyone. Why should you feel guilt for their own false assumptions? You're good.

Fuck me it's not my day I guess. I made the worst possible typo in my long ass reply. Please don't be sorry. I appreciate you communicating what you feel.

[Genie23]

LOL! It's all good. I made a typo 3 times in a row today when I was joking with someone that I'd rather be a mime. Everytime I tried to correct it. I didn't realise much later that I was typing "Mine" over and over again. It happens, lol. I appreciate you understanding how I felt and what was I going through buttttt don't feel bad for me. I saw a miracle not too long after that incident. She survived. So, cheers 😊

So, you're good!

[Nikki1989]

I have never seen OR heard of these things happening, ever!

[ThisDudeHere]

Leave it to the women in the opinion comments to vehemently deny anything that would put them in a negative light lol

[YourFutureEx]

They must have done way worse

[WonderingManII]

I was rejected from people since the day I was born.

[YourFutureEx]

Were you asking for money?

[WonderingManII]

I don't have any friends because society rejects me for my mind, and body.

[YourFutureEx]

Why do you think so?

[WonderingManII]

Very painful childhood, and when I got older things didn't get better.

[YourFutureEx]

Do you think you are at fault (for not improving yourself) or you're just unlucky?

[WonderingManII]

I'm unlucky.

[YourFutureEx]

Why do people avoid you? Are you suffering from any illness or deformity?

[WonderingManII]

I can't answer those questions. Why do some people like the color blue? My point is people like what they like and they hate what they hate. There doesn't need to be a logical reason for it.

[YourFutureEx]

There has to be because everyone is capable of making friends unless there's something wrong with themselves. It doesn't happen "by-chance" or "luck".

[WonderingManII]

I have ADHD, and no matter how kind I tried to be, people preferred to just kick and hit me, and ignore me. Nothing I can do about it. Medication doesn't work on me, cause I have another health people with that.

[YourFutureEx]

That's unfortunate. I cannot comment any further because I'm not fully informed about the deep details of your conditions but I know a lot of people that put in efforts to identify and fix their problems. But that also requires some help from other people and it's unfortunate that ALL of the people around you are bad.

[WonderingManII]

@YourFutureEx
When I was in school, the special teachers kinda helped. No body helped me deal with the abuse. Now days trying to get help, is like pulling teeth. So I'm on my own doing searches and watching videos about it. But it just adds knowledge, but most of the time, the suggestions isn't something I can do. Because the resources needed to do that stuff is not available to me.

[YourFutureEx]

I'd recommend you to watch HealthyGamerGG on YouTube. He talks a lot about ADHD and he's a brilliant psychiatrist. He is very understanding and even makes others understanding people.

youtube.com/@healthygamergg?si=6-PAozcVqh0EWRKe

[YourFutureEx]

The ADHD playlist

youtube.com/playlist

[WonderingManII]

@YourFutureEx
Thank you but I already got a long ADHD playlist. And It has taken me days to get through just half of it.

[YourFutureEx]

You don't have to binge it all. It would have been great if you watched only a couple of his videos just to see whether his content suits you.

But that's only a suggestion and you should do what's best for you at your own pace.

Good luck ✌️

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Honestly, the worst rejection wasn’t even what was said, it was how it was done.

Someone ghosted me after acting super interested.

No explanation, no closure.

It wasn’t the rejection that stung, it was the disrespect.

A simple “hey, I’m not feeling the same way” would’ve been enough.

[YourFutureEx]

It's not a typical male behaviour (assuming you're straight)
Maybe your proposal was pretty bizarre?

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Maybe, but even so, respect and clarity aren’t bizarre.

Everyone deserves a straightforward answer, regardless of how the approach looks.

Ghosting just leaves unnecessary confusion and hurt.

[YourFutureEx]

Why do you have answers to everything? Are you AI? 😭

[Bitter_Sweet94]

No, I’m just someone who thinks a lot before I speak.

If that makes my answers sound put together, I’ll take the compliment.

[YourFutureEx]

No shot! You think and reply within seconds. You an AI!

But it's better to have sound minded bots over here than this horde of dim wit people.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I’ll take “AI level clarity” as a compliment too.

Thinking fast doesn’t mean I’m not human, it just means I pay attention.

[Anonymous]

All of my loves were unrequited, but I was never actually rejected, because I never asked a girl out, I'm just too shy.

[YourFutureEx]

Why didn't you realise that being shy is holding you back and stopped being shy?

I had the same problem and I made a conscious choice to make myself better. Worked.

[Opinion Owner]

When I was in primary school.

[YourFutureEx]

So, now you're more confident?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, still very shy.

[Darkest-Knight]

Once I asked a girl out and she literally laughed. It was the last time I ever tried.

[YourFutureEx]

Gave up too early my friend.

[EmmaMary]

What a load of Bollox. lol

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

This is why ill never ask someone out

[YourFutureEx]

Girls have a way lesser rejection rate.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

with my luck id still get rejected

[YourFutureEx]

With your determination, you'll succeed :-)

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

ill skip