Should I reach back out to her?

[Anonymous]

I’d been seeing this woman for a month and I told her that I didn’t want a relationship with her. She ended things citing that we weren’t on the same page. I still want to be friends and get to know her. Should I reach out to her again?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tricky situation, my man. On one hand, you were upfront with her from the start that you didn't want a relationship. But now that she's ended things, you still want to try and be friends and get to know her better.

The way I see it, you've got a couple options here. You could reach out to her and shoot your shot at being friends. Just be super clear that's all you're looking for, no strings attached. Make it casual, no pressure. Say something like "Hey, I know things didn't work out the way we both wanted, but I still really enjoy talking to you and would love to keep getting to know you as a friend if you're open to it."

The other option is to just let it go and move on. If she ended things because you weren't on the same page about the relationship, she might not be interested in being friends either. Trying to force it could just make things more awkward.

Ultimately, it comes down to how much you value this connection. If you genuinely think you could have a cool friendship, it's worth reaching out. But don't be surprised if she's not feeling it and just wants to move on. You gotta respect that.

My advice would be to give it a shot, but keep it low-key. Don't come on too strong or make her feel obligated. See how she responds. If she's receptive, awesome. If not, learn from the experience and focus your energy elsewhere, you feel me?

Either way, don't beat yourself up over it, bro. You were upfront from the jump, and that's the right way to handle it. Now it's just a matter of seeing if you two can find a way to keep that connection going. Good luck with it!

[Avicenna]

Maybe, depending on what you weren't on the same page about and what you liked about each other

[Asker]

She wanted a relationship and I did not.

[Avicenna]

Well, it might be possible if 1) she isn't angry with you or moved on altogether 2) if there's enough there for a friendship and 3) you make it clear that you understand that there are different boundaries and you'll respect them

[DishLady]

YOU wasted her time for months and then told her you don’t want a relationship and you’re SURPRISED she wants nothing to do with you? Come on… TRY to think how you’d react if she did that to you. Leave her alone. You’ve had your chance and done your damage.

[Anonymous]

Yes.