Is it wrong of me to be upset?

[Anonymous]

As the title states above, Is it wrong of me to be upset? Any advice.

I found that my boyfriend has been liking pictures of online models (similar to the ones below) on instagram. Some of the pictures he liked are much more provocative in clothes/positions. There is nothing wrong with these women, they're all beautiful. And he has followed these types of accounts before we even started to date (before he asked me to be his girlfriend).

Though we haven't been together long, I kind of feel hurt when I see the his likes on the posts that were made after we started dating (after he had asked me to be his girlfriend). I don't have much thoughts on his likes from before we started dating.

(A little background: He and I have been friends for two years, but only recently started talking more in a romantic sense in the past 6 months).

Maybe asking advice is the wrong word to say... but I don't know if I have the right to feel this way because we only started dating and he's followed these models for a long time.

(I'm also right now on my period and I don't know if that's making me moodier than usual).

Example Images below:

[alli-112]

It's not something that I think I would be overly bothered by, but to each their own yeah? Maybe just try to have a respectful conversation with him to let him know that it makes you uncomfortable? Like you can't control him or anything, but it's ok to express your opinion once and he'll do whatever he'll do in response.

My stance is more just like, being with someone doesn't make you blind to the fact that other attractive people exist in the world, so as long as my person isn't actually like pursing someone else or comparing me to other people all the time, then it's fine. I've also never been in a proper relationship though, so maybe take that with a grain of salt.

Point being, it's not necessarily a sin on his part, but that doesn't mean you can't be uncomfortable with it. This sort of stuff tends to be a grey area for a lot of people.

[DannyUk2017]

Well sounds like he was just "enjoying" the Online/Virtual View... but now he has you to "empty his sack", but he's mind is "still out there", so maybe just try to dress the same, and send him a picture from time to time, make his blood boil, and then all the "focus" should Shift on You! 🤷‍♂️

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

So, a return of the Yellow Peril?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Anyhow, I think you are more than justified feeling like that.

[Asker]

I appreciate your input :)
I just... wasn't sure if these emotions I am experiencing are valid/justified. Or if I'm just being hyper emotional because I'm on my period right now... or both

[Anonymous]

No, he should be focused on you

[Asker]

Thank you, I appreciate your input :)

[RHK36]

You're being a bit too sensitive and have too much free time to be tracking data on him like you're a scout. Are you Asian?

[Asker]

Ok, if you even potentially have a significant other, how would you feel about them liking more provocative photos of men (or women)? And yes I am Asian, thanks for asking.

[RHK36]

I've never once looked at what anyone else is looking at. You do you, why would I pay attention. I'm not her parent so why do I police her like I am. If she cheats then she cheats and I'll move on. I ask if you're Asian because they are all Asian girls he's liking. Homie has a Asian fetish. You should be more worried if he's with you because he likes you or is it because you are Asian.

[Asker]

I appreciate your input

I only just merely ask the question because and odd sense of me was thinking the exact thing as your last statement (s), "Homie has a Asian fetish.", "You should be more worried if he's with you because he likes you or is it because you are Asian." when I learned/found his likes.

And it was more of an incidental find. Some of these woman do just cosplays but other posts are different.

[Anonymous]

Or is you it really you are doing the looking dude.

Why post the photos on here?

[Asker]

"Or is you it really you are doing the looking dude." Um, English? What the heck does that even mean?

I only used the pictures as an example of what he has been liking. In no way or form am I insulting/criticizing these models. They are beautiful.