So my fiance cheated on me with a coworker a year or 2 ago well today he went to another town for work ( Walmart inventory he's a apparel manager) he was only gone for the day and I knew that other coworkers were going and that they would probably all use the same car or something but I was unaware that they would drive 2 or 3 cars back and that he'd be alone in his car with a female coworker for the drive back to town because there is only those two in that car and I'm sitting here nashin my teeth about it am I wrong to feel threatened about it
Can we not resort to my past choices especially since I don't really want to go into detail let's just say I made choices off my own situation that were best at the time. It's not particularly hard to tell if he's been cheating because he's a bad a liar
And if I ever catch him cheating again I am done because I don't have time for this shit you only get one second chance from me
But my past decision is not the important part of the question what's done is done you can't change the past I want to know if I'm wrong about feeling angry about the work trip
I'm More annoyed because it's a violation of the boundaries we set up after he cheated on me I agreed to stay together under certain conditions one of which was neither one of us is to be alone in a private space with a member of the opposite sex without a third party don't matter if the 3rd person is the same gender. And yes I have subjected myself to the same rule even though I didn't do anything because it only seems fair that the same rules apply to me. So I'm not mad because I think he's being unloyal again. He couldn't hid that from me he's like a puppy when he cheats he starts talking about the other girl a lot like how funny she is coming home later going out without me gets giggly and excited when he sees them when you have shared a home and bed with someone for 5 year's you notice a behavior change
Never said I was getting married just that I'm engaged and I can stay engaged as long as I want I'm just waiting to see if he'll ever do it again. And unfortunately what you're calling a nightmare is a dream compared to the rest of my life. Because he may have cheated on me but he's never beat me raped me yelled at me or made me feel as though I was lesser to anyone else unlike the rest of the people in my life. And like I said if it happens again I'm breaking up with him
Like all I can say is if he cheats again I'm done no ifs and or butt's about it. I'm only saying he doesn't mistreat me the way everyone else in my life has and unfortunately not everyone is a princess and not everyone gets a prince charming
well yeah, that is good thing for you to be determined about, no more cheating
as for the fact that he's still getting into situations with women that you do not like at all and he agreed to NOT do again, well... just talk about it with him, if he doesn't mean it when he says he will stop that, then should do more than getting upset about it
you should just reconsider your entire relationship with him
Oh I'm talking to him about it when he gets home the rules were made and they will be fallowed.
If do break up with him I'm straight up done. With everything no more dating no more trying to socialize I'm only interacting enough with people long enough for basic survival
Nah world has fucked me over so many times alcoholic parents emotionally manipulative grandparents physically abusive cousin. I have been sexually assaulted physically abused emotionally abused mentally abused from varying degrees from just being used for my money or as a stepping stone achieve a gole I am never once had somebody be in my life who legitimately just wanted to be my friend and I'm over it
It's less about the fact he cheated, which is already bad enough. But then he kept it from you thinking you would never find out. Yes you have every right to be upset.
Of course not. He's a jerk for cheating on you and you deserve better.
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Pfft haha nah I really don't sweetie not going to lie he May have cheated on me but he's still the person who treated me the best in my entire life treat's me like I actually have a choice in life and like I'm actually a person not a disappointment
Don't get me wrong if he cheats again I'm done but I don't deserve a bloody thing but I won't be looking for a partner again if this relationship fails I have goles in life and ain't got anymore time for backstabbing
I forgave the cheating a long time ago he cheated on me 2 year's ago. I'm annoyed because he's alone in a car with a girl i know of her and she doesn't seem like a person who would hook up with him but I said I forgave him not that I trust him I forgive him because I can kinda understand why he did it
Not really just my mom's an alcoholic so I've learned not to hold on to anger and resentment. But I can also see why he did it my mom puts a lot of stress on me so at the time I wasn't really spending that much time with him other than going to bed and he certainly wasn't getting what he needed sexually from me because I was to busy being my mother's servant. But I won't forgive the whore he slept with because I let her in my home when she had nowhere to turn because her husband was abusing her and the first thing she did was FUCK my boyfriend one hell of a thank you
Wow what an ungrateful snob. Even if you are used to holding back negative feelings towards people, it's healthier to leave them. You can find someone even better than your boyfriend who WON'T cheat on you regardless of the excuse.
Little late to back out of my decision now that was 2 year's ago. And trust me I'm not dating anyone else if this doesn't work out because I just can't handle that kind of hurt again. Besides I'm not someone who goes on date's or really attracts men at all it was surprising to everyone that I had a boyfriend at all because I waited till I was 18 and the guy I'm with currently is my first boyfriend been together for 5 year's
And trust me I was so mad I had let her stay in my house and was helping her find a new place to live even let her have her own little apartment thing downstairs and got her dishes and got her some clothes and stuff to get her started and the first thing she did was sleep with my boyfriend in my car it took everything I had not to drag her out of my house by her nose ring
I promised him if he cheated on me again to not bother coming home because if he did I would sew his balls to his thigh and hang him naked by his ankles outside Walmart with a tag saying cheating scumbag
But yes I will break up with him because I'm not taking anyone else's shit not even his. I think I scared the whore though I told her to get the fuck out of my house and if I ever seen her again I'd cut out her tongue and sew her cunt shut she quit her job the next day and left town
OMG the methods of torture are so spot on. The girl actually left town? LMAO. Glad to hear you won't be taking that kind of crap anymore if it happens again.
Yah learned she left town because I went to a Walmart an hour away from my house and she was stocking shelves should have seen her face when she seen me I just smiled like a Cheshire cat I actually still have her nudes she sent him saved on my computer along with the text's she had sent him for blackmail purposes Incase she was ever foolish enough to fuck with me again. And the text's are also for if my fiance cheats again so i have proof to drag his name through the mud and part of my forgiveness was because I scrolled the text and the cheating had continued because she threatened him she had stated unless he kept sleeping with her she would claim he raped her and get him fired and arrested. I don't really know what her end game was but knowing I ran her sorry ass out of town gives me a little joy
Yah but she really was a disgrace she slept with and black mailed my boyfriend then slept with 2 of my cousins and thair husband and the other one which even 18 yet then tried to sleep with me
When I found out what she was doing she actually had the nerve to suggest that we have one of those Polly relationships the only thing was thinking was yah let's talk about it at the river so I have a place to hide your corpse
Don't get me wrong I'm not really a attractive person I'm not what comes to mind when someone thinks pretty but she looked like one of those naked troll dolls and after I was done being mad about him cheating I yelled at him saying damn if you were going to make me feel like shit you could have at least picked someone pretty not that moldy potato. Also after I learned he cheated on me I made him go get tested frankly when we first got together in general I made him go get tested I'm not here to be diseased
Why are you with him since you clearly don't trust him.
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Look it's easy to judge someones choice from the outside looking in but unless you were in my situation with my feelings and struggles to understand my choices even if you wouldn't choose the same you would at least understand why I made the choice I did but ultimately if I just explained it wouldn't aline with what you think regardless. It's also just a long complicated story
Trying to make a long story shorter we have been together about 3 year's then some girl he worked with needed a place to stay to get away from her abusive k fine she can stay and got her set up they ended up sleeping together and then she texted him saying if he told anyone or if he stopped sleeping with her whever she wants she would file a rape charge against him. When I found out we were supposed to get engaged in a week I wasn't supposed to know about that. My whole family and his whole family was going to be there and to be continued got to clock in
She slept with 2 of my cousins and tried to sleep with me after I found out and before. Ultimately everyone in my family was showing up spicific to see the perposle and I was very angry about it very but I could also understand a little bit as to why he did what he did I had been pretty distant and shrugging off his needs or wants for a long time because I was to busy trying to deal with the stress of my mom ( abusive alcoholic) and I do love him rather I'm right to or not and ultimately even if we did break up were still each other's best chance of getting away from our toxic families. along with I really can't deal with pitty and the pitty that comes from a toxic family feels like your trying to breathe through tar along with some other reasons keep in mind this is the simplicity version
Not so much that I except it or that's the path I'd choose or justifying it's more a understanding kinda like someone can understand why someone comitted a crime so no I don't feel it's justified or that I would do the same I just have a understanding of the situation
He not only cheated, but hid it for years. He’s trash
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What nah he cheated on me 2 years ago I found that s*** out 3 days after it happened he's a bad liar can smell fishy behavior across America because my whole family is toxic if you were raised in sludge it's easy to spot. I'm saying I stayed with him after that and he went on a work trip and learned that he was with a girl didn't cheat on me with her but was alone in a car with her and that annoys me
Lol even if I broke up with him I would still be surrounded by trash because everyone in my life is toxic from parents and grandparents all the way down to distant cousins don't even have friends because everyone stabbed me in the back. He may have cheated on me but other than that he never treated poorly unfortunately good people can do bad things just like bad people can do good things
Oh I don't really care anymore I have one gole in life establish a homestead ( farm) as far away from people as I can get and tell everyone to fuck off to be a hermit the rest of my life
Not really he works in apparel and I work in the bakery as a cake decorator my only job is literally to decorate the cakes so I'm not on the sales floor I'm just in the building
Umm we didn't meet at Walmart. Neither one of us worked at Walmart when we met we met online when I was 14; and we were friends until I was 18 then we started dating and currently we have lived together for 4 year's
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