Am I wrong for being annoyed/ angry?

[soulbabe]

I was all excited to go home and make a nice dinner and play Minecraft with M ( my fiance) it's all I wanted to do all week ( he's been working out of town and I only see him 2 days out of the week) but all M wants to do is play the new video game he got that he can play while he's in the hotel. so instead of spending time with me he'd rather play a video game by himself even though he was alone half the day anyway because I had to work. I'm I wrong for being upset.

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Ps PLAYING THE GAME TOGETHER IS NOT A OPTION ITS ONE PLAYER

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People seem to be missing the main point. It's not even about the damn game its i only get to see him 2 days out of the week and he chose to spend zero time with me at all

[Horror_lover92]

It's okay to be upset just don't get angry or annoyed by it. My boyfriend I always played a game together, it's like everytime our bond and relationship makes us closer and stronger. Now he's playing solo games, was I upset? Yes, but then I just found games that I started to like, he even decided to let me gameshare with him when I started to enjoy more solo games.
But trust me I still miss playing video games with him though haha.

[soulbabe]

It's not even about the damn game is I only get to see him 2 days out of the week and he chose to spend zero time with me if he wasn't going to spend time with me then why bother coming home

[KatieB713]

I can understand why it is annoying, but maybe he needs that time to relax?
Even when I've been busy at work and having seen my boyfriend, some nights I want to be left alone to do what I want for a bit, same goes for him...

I do understand the upset, after all I've also been in the situation where you wanted to spend time together and he hasn't however if this has made you unhappy, have you spoken with him about it?

[soulbabe]

He had all day to himself yesterday because I worked all day he had half the day to himself today we'll all day because all I did was fed him he leaves fucking tomorrow and I won't see him again for a week if he wanted to spend the whole weekend pretending I don't exist then why bother coming home.

[KatieB713]

Have you spoken to him about how you are feeling?

[soulbabe]

Well yah it wouldn't do me any good to just sit there and pout about it but he clearly didn't give a fuck that it bothers me. I said " honey I'd really like to spend time with you because I don't get to see you very often and it bothers me that you would rather play the game could you play it later "

[KatieB713]

OK, now you have the right to be pissy XD
So many people don't say anything, but if you have and he has ignored it then this really isn't on you here

[soulbabe]

Like we didn't even have to play Minecraft I just wanted him to spend time with me since I'm used to seeing him every day but now I only see him 2 days a week and spend the rest of the week alone

[KatieB713]

I'm really sorry you are dealing with this, it can be tough but hopefully it was a one off and he wasn't thinking

[soulbabe]

I wouldn't have been so mad if he wasn't being a ass all day he didn't help do a bloody thing just played that game like a zombie I came home and the dogs didn't have water or food he didn't help carry the groceries in that he insisted I go get in the first place. I did all the cooking today I made his breakfast lunch and dinner I made the bed and did his laundry and then had the nerve to bitch at me. For whatever reason he decided he was going to be a useless angry potato today and I have no idea why he's been playing that game for 10 hours now and it doesn't help that I'm on my period so my tolerance for people being an ass is very low especially since he has no reason to be pissy today I woke him up with breakfast in bed ( homemade waffles and strawberrys) got home from work and gave him a present ( a new gaming chair because his old one broke) and made him ( pork chops green beans and mashed potatoes) for dinner like I don't understand why he's being a dick

[thomas472]

It sound like he is quite ungrateful. I think you two should really talk about it and you should tell him your feelings in a neutral (no angry) way. – Sometimes it's just not enough to be nice and wait till the other person reciprocate.

[jshm2]

Yes. You sound fucking nutty as squirrel shit, and have a personality to match,

He wasn't playing a game in the hotel. He was getting the fuck away from you for a bit of mental respite. The poor bastard didn't learn the lesson of "never date crazy".

Learn to read the room, kid.

[soulbabe]

Um he stays in the motel because he's doing a store remodel. It also wouldn't make any sense for him to try and convince me to stay a few days in the hotel with him if he was trying to get away.

Hate to be the on to tell yah but if someone wants to leave a relationship it isn't hard nobody is holding hostage.

I never once claimed I wasn't clinically insine.

I may be insine But you are rude and disrespectful everyone always talks about how my generation has no respect for anyone well take a look in the mirror because ware do you think we learned it

[spartan55]

I'm sure there are things about you that annoy him too. So what do you do? Just try to send messages using that hinting crap women love, or talk about it?

[soulbabe]

It's not even about the damn game I only get to see him 2 days out of the week and he chose to spend zero time with me the whole 2 days. if he wasn't going to spend time with me then why bother coming home he could have just hung out in that motels if he was going to pretend I don't exist.

And I straight up told him it was bothering me and that I wanted to spend time together but he didn't seem to give a shit

[dreamstar72]

No, try karmic cut the power when he gets really involved. Then say “damn power must be that breaker again”

[soulbabe]

Um he lives here he knows the breaker's are fine and he'd throw a fit cuz it could have corrupted his data

[dreamstar72]

If he care more for his d.. game, maybe it’s time to tell him since you love game so much you can start jerking off to it because I’m going to find someone else.

[soulbabe]

He apologized today and spent the rest of the time he was here trying to make up for it. it didn't take him long to realize I was angry ( I don't yell or get lippy I don't even give the silent treatment I just stop talking and only respond if directly spoken to ) he can't stand when I'm quite I didn't want to talk to him while I was angry and he was angry so I tried to explain why I was upset in the morning.

[Northernlights25]

That sounds like a classic case of "haven't fully matured yet". They act as if they're still single, but a relationship is supposed to be a comittment of mutual love and desire to spend time together.

[soulbabe]

We've been together for 6 years and lived together for 5 so I think that phase should have worn off by now

[Northernlights25]

Yeah, you'd think that wouldn't you.

[soulbabe]

Did apologize this morning but he can get some real shitty modes for no reason

[Northernlights25]

So just tell him it's time for a serious talk.

[Sevenpointfive]

he already won you. some games don't have any replay value

[driven159]

I wonder how my people would be happier if there were no games to play

[soulbabe]

Well I actually like game's and don't mind if he plays them

[3LVS1RK]

Yeah you're wrong. I don't think you're capable of being right.

[Lynx122]

Couldn't you guys play the new game together?

[soulbabe]

No it one player

[IMuser]

Did you talk to him?

[soulbabe]

Of course I'm not just going to pout in a corner and except I'm to figure it out

[IMuser]

What was his response?

[soulbabe]

Pretty much just shrugged it off

[IMuser]

Oof. Maybe you need a Minecraft partner

(Send him an email/text, writing whatever you feel, like getting hurt because of prioritising a video game over you. If no response/discussion, then your relationship is pretty much moving down as communication is breaking)

[JohnQue74]

Yes you are entitled to be peeved

[888theGreat]

ratty outrageous