My boyfriend has a female friend (actually he has a few) that he has known for 20 years almost. She has a very bitchy rude personality in my opinion. I know they had been intimate once before several years ago. Now he says he is more like his bitchy older sister. When I first started dating him she stayed overnight a few times at his house because she would bring him home after work due to him not driving. This stopped and didn’t occur again for a few months. I didn’t not like this arrangement at all and told him my discomfort with it and didn’t think a girl should be spending the night on a guys couch who was in a relationship. He said he understood my discomfort and I made a request for it not to occur in the future. A few months to by and then I get a text from him on my way to pick him up for work that she came by again to visit. Started drinking and stayed the night on the couch. To say the least I was very upset with this and let him know it. He said I didn't want anything to happen since she had been drinking. I told him he should have already mentioned her not to stay overnight before that happened. I told him I feel like he disregarded my feelings cause he even stated he knew I would be upset. He assured me there was nothing between them and apologized for upsetting me. I however am still hurt and mad over it. I already struggle daily with believing his feelings for me and him not taking a stand on something he knew would upset has made me doubt it even more now. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do? He is good to me in every other way but this stunt really took a blow to my feelings of trust. He says he doesn’t want to ever hurt me but he really make me upset over his friend staying than making his friend upset by telling she not to.
Am I wrong for being upset for him ignoring my discomfort?
