Am I wrong for being upset about my mother leaving me yet again?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Tonight she confirmed what I was suspecting for a while now, that she intends to move out of my and my wife's home.

She's been staying with us on and off since we got married and moved in last year. Her reasoning for moving out is that with the twins being due in September we'll need more space and that she too needs a place of her own especially since she's started dating a guy (which whom I have a great rapport) and all the nights together were at his place for obvious reasons.

I understand her reasons and I absolutely approve of them, but it still felt like a gut punch and honestly I feel like a man who's been served divorce papers. I didn't make a scene or anything and supported her choice, but after dinner I made an excuse to go out and just drive around until I stopped in a parking lot to do burnouts and overall just run around with the car.

She said she intends to move less than 10km away from us and she'll keep visiting us, but I still feel betrayed in a sense, every time ends like this and she goes away after promising she'd stay for good.

[OlderAndWiser]

You thought you were giving your mother everything she could ever want?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I think I did, both materially and emotionally.
She said it's not because I did something wrong or lacked something, but because she needs her spaces.
She also said I'm taking it too badly and that she's just moving in the next town over and we'll be in touch every day.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you need your rnother more than she needs you. Is that troublesome to you?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

On some measure it is.
I got told that she's doing the right thing and moving on into a new phase of her life, while I'm being static despite all the recent changes in my life.

[Fireguy17]

At some point you need to cut the cord and stand on your own 2 feet.
You are married, you are going to be a father so that makes you an adult, so it is time to grow up and act like one.
She isn't moving to another country, just 15 minutes away.

[Flower7]

You should let her know that you’d prefer for her to stay instead of holding in your feelings about it. Maybe she thought she was being a burden to you. It would be good for her to know that’s not the case.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you for your answer.
I said similar things but she said she needs a place of her own and her own autonomy.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry, man. I think this is normal, though. I think you will be fine, too, my friend. Let her have her space. I know it will be different with her not living with you. But you will still see her.
I think everything is going to be okay. 🧡