so i work and i live with my mother to help her with the bills. me plus my sister are capable to pay for the house and utilities but each other by ourselves probably wouldn’t so we live with my mother.
ever since i remember my mother enjoyed going through my things when im not home. i’ll ask her to not do it and she denies ever doing it although when i get back from work i can tell she went through stuff. she’ll take change from me if she finds it, reads my journals, and wears my clothes. i’m a size xs/s my mom is a m/l and whenever i tell her that it makes me upset NOT BECAUSE she's WEARING MY SHIT BUT BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE doesn't RESPECT MY BOUNDARIES she’ll make a scene and we’ll argue and won’t talk for days.
now, like i said she wearing my stuff doesn’t bother me but she’s not careful. i have a few designers bags that i let her use and she broke two and after just said “it’s just a bag”. i got a new jacket that i was excited to style she took it and said it’s just “a piece of trash” and that as a family we should share because i have so many clothes that i won't ever wear but even if that was the case wouldn’t it be my place to decide that? i’ll ask her if she wants whatever i buy myself she says no and goes right behind my back using it and going in my space knowing it makes me mad.
so my question is am i overreacting? they are clothes but i work so hard and value them so much because i never had much growing up and i feel like she’s always dismissing my feelings so she can fit in the victim role and act as if i was being a bad person
ever since i remember my mother enjoyed going through my things when im not home. i’ll ask her to not do it and she denies ever doing it although when i get back from work i can tell she went through stuff. she’ll take change from me if she finds it, reads my journals, and wears my clothes. i’m a size xs/s my mom is a m/l and whenever i tell her that it makes me upset NOT BECAUSE she's WEARING MY SHIT BUT BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE doesn't RESPECT MY BOUNDARIES she’ll make a scene and we’ll argue and won’t talk for days.
now, like i said she wearing my stuff doesn’t bother me but she’s not careful. i have a few designers bags that i let her use and she broke two and after just said “it’s just a bag”. i got a new jacket that i was excited to style she took it and said it’s just “a piece of trash” and that as a family we should share because i have so many clothes that i won't ever wear but even if that was the case wouldn’t it be my place to decide that? i’ll ask her if she wants whatever i buy myself she says no and goes right behind my back using it and going in my space knowing it makes me mad.
so my question is am i overreacting? they are clothes but i work so hard and value them so much because i never had much growing up and i feel like she’s always dismissing my feelings so she can fit in the victim role and act as if i was being a bad person
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