Am I wrong for cutting my mother out of my life?

[Anonymous]

I feel that my mom is abuser. She was for as long as I remember. She always made sure that her kids would feel worthless. To the point where she said to my brother - you will end up in jail, and to both of us - I don’t have children. Everyone else’s kids were angels. It got to the point where we just blocked her on social media. But not on phone since maybe there would be an emergency. She kept on sending aggressive messages once in a while so I blocked her number as well.

I love my grandma dearly because she played mothers’ role since we were babies. However, for the last few months she keeps on pushing my limits to bring my mother into my life because “she is so hurt and she need help for certain things”. I don’t want to hurt my grandma, but I don’t want to see or hear my mother. And it makes my grandma extremely upset.

Am I really wrong here?

P. S. mother found herself a boyfriend with 2 adult kids (about the same age as me and my brother) that she adores :). Whenever she asked my to help her with something, I declined and pointed to her “angel” kids in law.

[FifiJones]

You lrobably are not. You might have been adopted/fostered. The trouble is this overpopulated world is full of criminals praying on the weak, and having no parental support makes one feel vulnerable. Also, no one really wants to help (unless you are black or LGBT, which is trendy for the helping types right now).
If you are white, no matter how difficult you have it, the 'disadvantaged' black/LGBT criminals will hate you and they'll try to backstab or sabotage you (as well as oblige you to give them foreign aid help).

[Apulu_Imback]

No you're not wrong, it's only so much that a person can tolerate. Your grandma should understand this and point out your mom's new kids when your grandma says that she's miserable and alone.

[WonderBell99]

A lot of parents refuse to see their children for who they really are, so it is understandable that the OP's grandmother cannot stomach her daughter being estranged from her kids. Looks like the mom has some issues that need to be addressed. I would recommend therapy, but if the mom is oblivious and refuses to seek help, we cannot do anything about it.

[Apulu_Imback]

@WonderBell99 I know right, parents should start accepting their children's real side.

[WonderBell99]

100% agreed.

[Mynameisbobby]

You're definitely not wrong! My mother and sister both were abusive to me both verbally and physically. My sister is 5 years older than me she beat me everyday and my mother did nothing. My mother hated boys and said my sister was basically a queen because she's a girl. I was adopted by my uncle at 13 and have no contact with either of them. Your grandmother should respect how you feel 💯 You've done nothing wrong.

[slatyb]

No, you are not.

[In_Trance]

nope