So he didn’t invite you to go to his mom’s for his “birthday dinner?” If he didn’t I can see why you’d be upset, I mean 5 years isn’t long but at the same time that’s a lot longer than most people’s relationships. Now if he invited you but you’re more so upset that he’s willing to entertain the birthday party w his family, but not you at home, that sounds more like it’s for his mom. To please her. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. I get it, I get it you’re thinking but he’s hurting my feelings. She’s been there all his life, big difference. W you I’m assuming he thinks you’ll be more understanding about this than his mom will. Maybe he doesn’t even really want that but again she’s his mom. Maybe she wants all the family together. Or could just be the excitement of everyone being together especially if it’s something big, once a year. I know I don’t like having a big birthday. I’m good w dinner at home, cake, a few gifts if they prefer to give me gifts.
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Yes you are wrong. His family is going to be around far shorter than you are likely to be around and you should be thrilled he had a relationship with his family provided the relationship is healthy
If he wants to have dinner with his family, no problem. The part that I can’t seem to get over is that you’ve been together for 5 years and are living together… when is he going to make you a part of his family? Does he consider you his family? Are you ever included in these dinners?
Maybe he's doing it more for his mom then himself
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Oh, the classic birthday dilemma! You're not alone in feeling a tad upset, love. It’s all about blending expectations and feelings like a master chef. Your beau might not be into birthday hoopla, but it seems like he’s got a soft spot for mama’s traditions. It's like saying no to cake but yes to grandma's homemade pie - hard to resist, right?
Here's a pro tip: chat with your honey about creating a special tradition that's just for the two of you. Think of it as adding a secret ingredient to your relationship recipe. It doesn’t have to be a big bang celebration; maybe a quiet evening with a movie, or a simple act of love that says, "Hey, I’m glad you were born." 🎂💑
And remember, sweet conversations are key. No need for a lovebomb, just a heart-to-heart to smooth over those birthday bumps. Now, who's got their own 'birthday wishes vs. reality' story to share? Dive in, the water's warm! 😏🌊
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Why doesn't he invite you to join them? You are right to be upset. He's showing you that he's not really taking you seriously. You are a diversion on his way to whatever he thinks he should do.
Lots of people have close families. My wife does but I come from a totally dysfunctional family. It is something you have to live with.
No, I'd be upset too if I were you. I'd like to invite you to follow me if you want.
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