Recently my fiancé and I found out I'm pregnant. My tubes are tied (for 3 years), so this is coming as a shock and it's causing some unnecessary stress. We already have 3 kids and we were done. But.. we discussed it. We are keeping the baby, because he didn't want an abortion (he said he would never forgive himself). We are just moving our lives around to accommodate.
Well, we have been getting in to really petty disagreements lately. Nothing unmanageable up until recently, when he really started jumping down my throat about everything. I know it's coming from a place of stress but it's going on a month now of nonstop complaints and passive aggressive comments. So I arranged for the kids to go to my mother's for the weekend so him and I could communicate and work this out. He knew my plan and helped with arrangements. I had told him that I was feeling really alone, trapped and was getting overwhelmed with having to be emotionally available 120% of the time, when I myself don't really have the same emotional support (he's typically emotionally unavailable because he doesn't know how to support people emotionally). So I told him I wanted to speak to him about this tonight and find a way to resolve it.
He texted me back like 4 hours later and said "I can't do this today, emotionally. I'm going to give us space. I will be at a buddies house." So, basically.. I told him I was feeling alone and upset that he was never emotionally available and then he responds with him not being emotionally available and was giving us space. The opposite of what I need right now. So I said "thanks for listening 🙄 going to a hotel to consider what I need to do moving forward because once again I'm alone and unheard". He said I'm being dramatic and that he just needs space. Am I wrong?
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