For the guys: If you have a crush on a girl would you reach out? Or would you rather have her reach out?

I know it depends on the type of guy but what do you think?

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For the guys: If you have a crush on a girl would you reach out? Or would you rather have her reach out? I know it depends on the type of guy but what do you think?

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

As for me if someone means enough to me I’ll reach out I appreciate someone whose receptive and show interest back if she’s interested. But absolutely if someone likes me by all means. It can be awkward depending on how she goes about it, if it’s a bad time, if I have someone, if I’m not that into her etc, but I’m respectful about it.

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

I’d reach out. If you wait on someone else, it may never happen

Finchie40 · Answer

I will reach out first , with the intentions of hoping she does the same in return.

Zack-Bann · Answer

99% of guys who don’t reach out end up alone
It’s just how the game is

The other 1% are usually lucky enough to meet a proactive woman but these women aren’t always a catch either

Just last week I was chilling with some friends and they brought a girl I didn’t know as a subtle way to “set me up”

She was beyond into me
And I played along even though I wasn’t completely feeling her.

But now that it’s over the chances of her reaching out to me are 0
Unless I chose to make a move it doesn’t matter how into me she was

That’s the average male experience

Anonymous · Answer

Probably the 100th time this question has been asked on here. Here's the repeat 100th answer.

It doesn't matter whether she reaches out to me, or I to her. If she wants to take the initiative that's fine. Just know, just like guys to women. Just because you ask, doesn't mean the answer will be yes. So do your homework an make sure he truly interested before asking.

Now te second part of this. If she wants me to reach out to me then she's gotta show interest. I cannot stress this enough!! This is where MOST women go wrong. The simply do not do enough to garner a man's attention. Or they do and it's the WRONG kind of attention. Add to this the X factor of there are PLENTY of your gender who just flirt with guys just for the attention. With no intent of anything else.

rtj1211 · Answer

My feeling these days is that if you're not comfortable reaching out, there must be question marks as to whether this crush is a healthy one, or just one of those silly unrealistic ones which were never going to pan out in reality.

Obviously, if you're young, you've never experienced this before, then shyness, insecurity and still being unsure of your place in the world will make you feel differently...

Tarifa · Answer

I have always reached out, though hesitantly at first. It's kind of what's expected from us. But girls are the ones in charge, and if they're not receptive, you might as well withdraw your cards from the table. Persisting is an error we have all made at some point. It's like banging your head on a wall.

Shiprex · Answer

I've got no problem speaking with a girl but these days I would say there are too many things that I find annoying about people in general that it would take very little for me to give up. She would have to be exceptionally triggered into being around me (not overwhelmingly clingy though) but interested and interesting at the same time for me to continue

Purpleronnie · Answer

I don’t recall having a “crush” on a girl since I was 13. As an adult , assuming I know her well enough to appraise her fully then i tell her. That’s also with the assumption I’m single which I haven’t been for 14 years.

Prin97 · Answer

I will always be the one who deals in first because a lot of people will always view me as being a rather gregarious person. So backing off is not one of my traits

Anonymous · Answer

I 100% would rather have her reach out. Most of the time I just don't act on it. Between how common fake sexual harassment claims are now and frankly how mean most woman are I've pretty much given up as have many men.

tfan1 · Answer

Well when I met my girlfriend now my wife, I was so nervous and scared and when she flashed that beautiful smile, all fear, nervousness, anxiety, all instantly disappeared.

WonderingManII · Answer

I would rather her reach out, cause I've done plenty of reaching out. Girls I reach out too, don't last as long as the girls who reach out to me first.

tzdc21 · Answer

If I think I've got a shot ill reach out. But if she reaches out first, I will not complain about it.

molonski2 · Answer

Well of course I'd reach out , but even better if she does for sure.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I would eat her out... oh... ops! My bad.. ermm i means i would reach out to her...🤭😅

serious · Answer

I would have the woman reach out to me. Even if she does not then also it is fine. Simple.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd significantly prefer her to reach out to me. I have only really reached out to one girl, because I was over the moon for her.

BeechImFabulous · Answer

It takes the pressure off you when somebody else makes the first move. I wouldn't mind her expressing interest first, but if I liked her enough, then I would do so too.

SotiCoto · Answer

Neither. I dismantle the feelings until they're gone.

Pohjolan · Answer

Depends on the context like in my last case I was her superior so it wouldn't have been appropriate for me to try something.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I am interested and we are both single, I approach.

Fftggg · Answer

You better get up your ass babe... cuz ain't nobody will be looking out for ya

Ragmann · Answer

It depends. If I really like them I’ll reach out, but I usually screw it up and embarrass myself so I usually wait for them to reach out.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll wait MeToo statutes with the life in prison and the executions makes the other way not worth it

Anonymous · Answer

I would rather have her reach out, because I'm too shy, and I like dominant girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Rather her reach out. I know guys are suppose to make the first move but i rather her reach out

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Either is fine.

soe11 · Answer

I will move first.

Notherndude84 · Answer

I want the thrill of the chase

LiamS95 · Answer

Either or. I have no particular preference

Shy_Steve · Answer

Definitely rather have her reach out.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Np. O would date anyone that has an ex

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'd definitely reach out

cavedweller1973 · Answer

I’d reach out

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