What’s the difference between being liked vs intentionally pursued by a guy?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, I’m sure you would have experienced at least one or both. What differences did you observe in the way you felt or were treated? How did it make you feel?

[DishLady]

A guy will pursue you if he likes you however a guy who likes you might not pursue you.

There's a guy who makes a very big deal out of chasing me at least once every few months. It's part of some weird cycle he goes through bc once he has my attention he doesn't really do anything with it. He likes me and has made that clear to several people through his actions and words, however he then also claims he doesn't want a relationship... so then why is he bugging me? He doesn't know, and yet he keeps trying. 🤷🏻‍♀️

For my part I don't like being kept on the hook that way, so I've moved on from it.

[Asker]

I think most guys are just confused about what they want or just like the idea of you but don’t have what it takes to keep you or provide for you. Good on you for moving on.

[DishLady]

I won't throw it at "most guys" but yes, many many guys are very confused and immature and just don't care whether they affect a gal with their confusion bc their focus is on having a "right now" gal to make them feel good about themselves and also to impress their circle of friends. (It's not even about providing... it's about being scared to grow up or "level up" in their lives.)

[Asker]

You’re right, I’m beginning to understand that. And yes, I meant the provider mindset as a partner, not just financially, but yes the immaturity is pretty apparent nowadays.

[DishLady]

Wanna laugh? I saw this precise guy at the event I was at this evening. Insane.

[Asker]

That’s hilarious! Bet he’s still undecided

[Anonymous]

I act more nonchalant if I just find a girl attractive. Once I realize I want her, my behavior goes haywire.

[Asker]

That’s kind of cute but can be very confusing for the girl so make sure you tell her directly or show it via your actions.

[Opinion Owner]

I couldn't control it, and eventually she found out how I feel.

[Asker]

How did she react when she found out you like her?

[Opinion Owner]

It wasn't my desired outcome. I would guess justified but also overwhelmed.