Difference between a natural flirt or a guy actually interested in you.

[Wallflower21]

So there's this guy that I sit next to in class. Every so often he will tap my knee or sit so close that we are shoulder to shoulder. My friend thinks he is flirting with me because he is interested in me, I think he is just a natural flirt. How can I tell the difference?

[ironlion365]

Well that's a good question. As I am wondering the same about girls, I can give you the guy version, because I'm one. The rule of thumb here, is if the guy CONTINUES to show his flirty intentions over time. A guy naturally interested in you, will usually keep at it, until he feels safe to seal the deal and tell you he likes you. BUT, there is a BIG BIG debate you have to rule out. The big debate here that you need to figure out is "playing hard to get" flirting VS "not wanting to get intimate" flirting. Think about it for a second. What you need to rule out is if the guy is either putting on a show to COVER the fact that he's flirting ("playing hard to get") or if he flirting for fun, as a natural flirt by not WANTING to get intimate. Look for the signs of both. From my experience, girls are quick to see if a guy wants to get intimate but its harder to decode for them how men play "the bad boy" which is how men "play hard to get". One clue, is that body language doesn't lie for intimacy. If he wants to get intimate, your chick-receptors will tell you so, and he is flirting for real. If he's a NATURAL flirt, he'll strike then go away without wanting to get intimate. He might strike again soon after, but only looking for a compliment from you. If he compliments you, compliment him back on the same thing, see if he takes well (normal reaction) or SUPER well (abnornal reaction). The bad boy cover, is your typical "be into the girl but show her you're busy". All you have to do for that is call his bluff when you see him do it. When you're sure he's playing hard to get, and he goes "sorry I missed your text, I was busy", be inquisitive and ask what/where and how he was busy, see through the bullsh*t. Chances are he likes you, he just doesn't want to come across as needy. I know this is a LOT of info, but do you kinda follow? Don't hesitate to comment or message me, Cheers!

[Corentin]

In the words of John Green: Use your words. Talking is the best way to get answers. However, if you don't want to talk, I agree with Stiches, watch how he treats other people, especially other girls.

Good luck.

[BlackJoseph]

A natural flirt will just act friendly towards you and everyone else and not go any further from there.

However someone who is interested will let you know more so by actions not just words, invading your personal space, drop hints, stay stupid things, try to make you laugh, follow you around, linger around you, accidental touching, wants to get to know you more etc.

[WoIIie]

Observe how he treats other people. I've seen guys behave like this. There usually is a genuine interest for him to go balls deep and blast his seed deep inside you, but in terms of possibly going on a date or getting to know each other... nothing is guaranteed.

[SDj-9]

I will keep it simple. Does he do that with all girls,or just you? Does he do it often with you? If he is doing it only with you,then you have your answer :)