Am I the only one who feels invisible to men in your 20s?

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I'm 29 and I feel invisible to men. Mostly always have been. Maybe throughout my life only a small handful of guys found me attractive enough to stare at. I literally get no attention. Guys never check me out. Young men never talk to me. The old men would be more social, but they never hit on me either. I've had random people call me beautiful (men, neighbors, patients, boss, parents), but it really doesn't feel like it. If I were truly beautiful, then why don't I ever get any attention from anyone?

Beauty is in eye of beholder. Not everyone will find me beautiful. But why wouldn't the ones who do find me beautiful, ever show any interest?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

If you think back on it. To all the guys or people you mentioned.
That said you were beautiful.. I mean i have said that to girls before to.

And when your saying it to someone you know or even don't know . somehow your in that conversation its kinda in a moment where your being serious and your trying to make a point and I flashed back on the times I've said it. And its hard in that moment to see myself take it even further.
And just walk up and kiss you lol. That would be so awkward and weird

It could be hot. But. What would you say or do then lol

I mean when you say these guys say this stuff to you but don't follow through. ..

It's one thing saying it to make a point. But its a whole other thing saying it and then acting on it. I would think the guy would have to know you pretty good. Wouldn't he..

I mean its just like right now if we were standing in front of each other and we were talking and I said what are you talking about. You are absolutely beautiful. When you say they don't act on it. Meaning in time I would guess. Or would you want to hear

What are you talking about? Your absolutely beautiful. This is how beautiful you are and then just walk lay a kiss on you like you've never had before. Or is that what you mean lol

HighValue · Accepted Answer

The older men that may be interested may not initiate with you because they want to avoid possible/likely problems so you would need to show interest/initiate with them first.

As long as you have been a morally good person, aren't really fat, don't have tattoos, nose rings, or short unnaturally colored hair, I am sure there are decent men interested, you may just need to take initiative at first due to all the false accusations men get.

genericname85 · Answer

what if i told you if you were a man, you'd get even less attention. even the most attractive man probably gets as much attention as the ugliest girl. how do men do it? they don't sit there, wait and complain. they proactively go talk to girls.

Anonymous · Answer

It could be worse. I'm very introverted, and I get shy when I like a girl. I constantly get attention from women, but I'm pretty sure I come as intimidating and more competent than I actually am.

Desi_Butcher · Answer

If you're 29 and you've had such an experience, it's difficult to say you're incorrect. Perhaps there is some reason why you didn't get what you wanted.. do you go gymming? Fit athletic body?

es20490446e · Answer

If you were highly attractive, you will realize something. That most people don't approach. At least not in a very straightforward way. People have their insecurities.

SotiCoto · Answer

"Small handful of guys" > "literally get no attention".  Get your story straight.

jahaims · Answer

Sounds like you are too passive and don't know how to communicate

Sam1133 · Answer

Beautiful its not just about face but depends on structure of body... I have to see ya pic

HawkPerception · Answer

First question

nl171 · Answer

Dm me? I’d love to help you out

LuXtreme · Answer

Care to share a pic?

MasterKS · Answer

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