How do you feel about single men 35+ year old?

[ltmcneill]

OK so people always look down on a single woman thinking she must be crazy or something. My boss constantly asks me why I am single, its quite annoying to hear this everyday. he even said he's trying to figure out "what 's wrong with me". I think its harder for a woman to settle down, most men don't want to . Its easier for a man to find a woman willing to settle down. Therefore it think the opposite of society, its weirder for a man to be single and 35+. I mean obviously nothing is stopping you, so something must be wrong with him. Any opinions?

[Yeahhbro]

W0oooooo you have quirt a lot of missconceptions. And to me it seems this question is loaded any ways. Probably some 35 year old guy who you liked, turned you down and didn't want to go out with you. Or maybe you are mad at him he is not in a relationship, because you are getting closer to that age as well and you are not married yet. This is simply just a reflection of your dating life.

"I think its harder for a woman to settle down, because meust men don't want to?'...Really? Just take an example from this website, I am sure must men here want a girlfriend.

"It's easier for a man to find a woman to settle down"...So what is the point here are you implying men are dogs and just want to have sex as much as possible? Jesus. Its hard for both of them, forget all that crap about its easier for men to settle down...women are too f***ing picky these days.

Seems to me you just want to play victim here anyways.

If you are 30 and still not married or haven't got married yet, something is wrong with you regardless wheter you are a man or a woman.

[islands7]

Your boss is very attracted to you but can't figure out if he wants to "figure it out" spending more time with you + the risk of all that or just be handed "the answer" on a silver plate. Some of this is just being curious but having the answer allows him & other potential suitors a clear map of the hurltes & consequences of attempting to travel a date path to you.

So consider this a complement and an innocent dating probe for the asker or his friends/family.

As for the lack of men trying to hook up, this is VERY common and simply speaks to the fact that most men are married, crippled, dull or dead. The best you can do is to increase your circle of activites so its large enough to perhaps overlap some of those attractive, single men circles - so they can be attracted!

At 35, men are still hit on by the 20-somethings but they long for something closer to their age/experience ... if they could find one.

[kitttykaaat69]

It's human to just think that something is wrong if the person is single at that age. But then I use myself has an example not to judge the person. There are a multitude of reason why you have single women and men in their 30s, not everybody its looking to settle down and get married in their 20s. In fact I think it's better to wait be young and single, enjoy life a bit, figure who you are before attaching yourself to someone. But society is making us feel it's so wrong and disgraceful to be single when all it is you're just looking for that right person to love and cherish you.

[jackflynn7]

Perhaps less common for women to remain single. Has to do with the schedule for having children, if you want them. Societal convention permits men to start later but women can't argue with biology. Women who date sexually in their 30s tend to be seen as being in it for sport just as single men often are. Girls who aren't necessarily sport dating but remain single may be looked at either as overly selective or not valuing relationships such as being keepers.

All of this may seem unfair to young women but, like gravity, politics will never permanently change it.

If that is you in the picture, you are lovely, by the way.

[mmike0]

agree

[Guysensei]

what is "wrong" and "right" ?

theres no such standard to generalize by besides your opinion. It's not weird for a guy to be over 35 and single, cause that's probably exactly what he wants. Something is weird about him to not want a family and kids? nah not everyone is into that. women also don't want kids sometimes, and that doesn't make them wierd, it just means they don't want kids.

dont be one of those people that judges differences like that, be more open to individual lifestyle choices.

[Anonymous]

35+ single men are either:

Long time bachelors that love to be single and have sex with different women

Shy guys or guys that have been rejected a lot

Guys that have been in long term relationship(s) and are much more careful about the kind of women they consider relationship material

[Hyrule]

"what's wrong with you" ? hm I'd put my money on the duckface... >.> single or not, don't judge anyone based on their relationship status.

[yopyopyop]

I'm definitely not interested in getting married or having children, so it's quite hard not to be single at this age of reproduction craziness ;)

[palek]

I got married at 21 and remained so for 26 years. I've not remarried since, and I don't ever feel at all out of place being single at my age.

[shumailkazimi]

they are liars men at this age are mostly committed or married but want some new excitement in their boring life this is what I think