I am terrified I will never get married and have children?

[Anonymous]

I am a 21 year old girl. I am at university amd study a lot. I dont really go out. I have never been out on a date with a guy and i have no idea where to meet guys and get in a realtionship. I dont even know how that feels like or how that is to have a partner. I consider myself average looking, funny and smart. I am not bad when it comes to talking to guys although i can be quite shy when i like one. I often wonder if i ever will get a boyfriend and someone who would propose to me. I know i have plenty time ahead but with each year passes i get more under pressure and stressed. Soon i am in my mid 20s and i am terrfied! I am a hoopless romantic and always wnated my own family. Also my family stresses me out so much about this as well. But i just dont know where and how to get a guy. There are many girls i know who are in a serious relationship and i am quite helaous of that. I really really fear ending up alone, as it seems so impossible to me (i can't imagien life treating me that well). Only thing i know that helps me to calm me down is telling myself that i wait till 30 amd live my life normally. When i stil be single at 30 i will go haunting man till 35. And when i am still single then and have no children i will end my life (sorry i know thats extreme to you but i can't imagien a life without kids and husband). I realyl really dont wnat to be a old lady without husband and children

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Also my family is teally terrible and dont help me at all. My dad left me. My grandparents tell me all the tike i shoudl he helding a boys hands at taht time other girls have 4-5 boys at that time.

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And i infe got into a terrible fight with my mom (now that we are only two toegther) and ahe told me she gets my ex bff (my best friend who broke up with me) and thatbi will never ever have friends neither boy or girl and children (when thats my biggest wish)! I can't forget her words

[Berethor]

It a legit fear, don't let childless feminists tell you otherwise, you saw what happen in Japan?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/06/03/japan-low-births-population-decline-2021/

[Asker]

How should i get pregnant without a man? I need my daddy!!!

[Asker]

Differnevevis childless feminists dont want to but I WANT TolO

[Berethor]

Chosen conception partner trope? well being single mom sucks so you need a man.

[Asker]

Thats what i am saying help me i need a daddy! I want a daddy so bad pls i am not a feminist i need me daddy

[Berethor]

What you mean by daddy? I'm daddy because of my age? have a daddy fetish? :)

[Asker]

Daddy (well for me)= a man who is my faithful husband and a great father to my children.

[Berethor]

And I was thinking that it BDSM thing, I think that you can find a man like that. :)

[Asker]

Well my daddy is ofcourse excellent in bad as well😈🍆

[Asker]

Why you think i can find a man like this

[Berethor]

Because you sounds enthusiastic and innocent at same time, men like that combo.

[Asker]

I dont knwo i never had a boyfriend i fear i dont get one
Dont know how to get one

[Berethor]

You virgin? you can look for boyfriend online when you are not anonymous of course.

[Asker]

Why does it matter if i am one or not
No online there are only perverse dudes

[Berethor]

It matter but you don't want to say, not all men online are bad, but it's your choice.

[Asker]

Well most of them
Why does it matter?

[Berethor]

Read the 'nature adores a virgin' trope, maybe most of them but it worth the risk no?

[richardcory]

College is a great place to meet people. Look for men who are also shy. You don't need to have a ROMANTIC DATE right away, just talk or a cup of coffee or whatever. Spend time meeting and being friends with guys - don't worry about romance, it will happen.

Also, be alert for signs that guys ARE interested in you. On looking back, when I was in college I missed a huge number of signs that girls were interested in me - I was just totally clueless.

[Izzy_3991]

Trust me. You will have children. I would truly wait till your brain has fully developed before even thinking about marriage and children.
Men don’t fully mature till they are 30-35, so there’s plenty of time! 😄


All the best 🥰

[Asker]

Thank you so much but why is sveryone so sure they just tell me you will trust me why?
Anyways thank you😍

[Asker]

Please read my update

[Izzy_3991]

What your mother said wasn’t very nice and it's untrue. You will have children and get married.

You are very young and have MANY years ahead of you. Is there any religious beliefs holding you back from finding a husband or having children?

[Asker]

No i am a christian but why would that held me back
I really dont want to be old lady alone

[Asker]

I can't get my moms words out of my head and i wa salways boy crazy and still never had a boyfriend and so many girls do in my environment

[Izzy_3991]

You are one better than me then 😂
Finding a Christian man is hard 😅

You won't be a lonely old lady.
Your mother said that because she knows you are boy crazy right now.

A word of advice. You may come across as desperate and that may scare away the boys. There are plenty of boys.

[Asker]

Yes i am indeed a little desperate. I dont know it was a terrible fight. My sad left us so it was all crazy

[Asker]

Dad*

[Izzy_3991]

I am sorry to hear that. My dad left my family too when I was 10 years old. So I can totally relate. It is a time of uncertainty.

I think your mother is hurting by your father leaving. She may be taking her hurt on you which isn't right.

My best advice, step back from the boys and they will come to you. Take things slow and always be aware of red flags within a future relationship.

[Asker]

Can w etalk in private i am danalegend please dm me

[Izzy_3991]

Message me 😃

[hsshannah96]

I’m 26 and still single no kids. We can be terrified together 😂😂😂

[Asker]

Szo scarring me i really worry

[Asker]

Stop*

[ohsheeT]

OK so if you have tome DM me please
Let me try to explain a few things to you that you might be missing

I was going to tell you a few things on here but 5 pages later it's just to much at one time there are a few thing that are right in front of you that you can do to change everything

[ohsheeT]

*Time*

[Drumlin2001]

You're 21. You have a whole life ahead of you. You don't need toxic people in your life, you can make friends.
I was 35, had never had relationship. By 40 I was engaged with 2 kids. If you put yourself out there and actively try to make changes you can have any life you want

[BarryLiverstone]

You are 21. Being terrified does seem extreme. Can you just take a step back and instead focus on studying and learning more about who you are. It matters when you meet someone and they will be curious how to work with you in a relationship

[Asker]

I see ans understand but time is running so is my biological clock
Soon i am in my mid 20s bet i will be single till then

[Asker]

Please read my updates

[Asker]

Can we talk in private

[Asker]

I am @danalegend please message me 😊

[MementoMori777]

you are quite young to be terrified at such things, you'll be fine, dont stress over problems that haven't formed yet.

[Asker]

What if i am 25 and still singel and than 30
After 30 fertility decreases

[MementoMori777]

are you 30 and having fertility decreases?

[Asker]

No but soon i am and will be single till than i have to be prepared

[MementoMori777]

so you are god now? you can tell the future? 😆

[Asker]

I dont know how to get a boyfriend where to neet guys what when no guys want to marry me? Olease read my update as well

[MementoMori777]

love is unpredictable, trust me that its not something you can just guess, there's guys out there that are attracted to different things in a woman, you are stressing too much about it for no reason.

[Asker]

But i need it befire 30 so i can get children kater its difficult

[MementoMori777]

everthing worth in life isn't easy

[Asker]

I know but i am scared i dont get that toe that most besutiful thing in life

[MementoMori777]

but the possibility is there, its not like you have no chances, you can't bash yourself if you dont know whats gonna happen

[DextroShade]

Are no guys approaching you? What is your height, weight, and dress size?

[Asker]

I look good its not my body

[Anonymous]

My sister didn't date anyone until she was 25. She's engaged to him now with a kid. You have plenty of time. Relax. You accidentally stumble on the best people.

[Asker]

I see and agree
But soon i am 25 as well and haven't foud anyone

[Jmmmfi4]

Finish college before you worry about the rest

[Asker]

I am i tell my family this
But then i have to hear you learn better witz a boyfriend (which I doubt)

[TrillXHippy]

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