I am a 21 year old girl. I am at university amd study a lot. I dont really go out. I have never been out on a date with a guy and i have no idea where to meet guys and get in a realtionship. I dont even know how that feels like or how that is to have a partner. I consider myself average looking, funny and smart. I am not bad when it comes to talking to guys although i can be quite shy when i like one. I often wonder if i ever will get a boyfriend and someone who would propose to me. I know i have plenty time ahead but with each year passes i get more under pressure and stressed. Soon i am in my mid 20s and i am terrfied! I am a hoopless romantic and always wnated my own family. Also my family stresses me out so much about this as well. But i just dont know where and how to get a guy. There are many girls i know who are in a serious relationship and i am quite helaous of that. I really really fear ending up alone, as it seems so impossible to me (i can't imagien life treating me that well). Only thing i know that helps me to calm me down is telling myself that i wait till 30 amd live my life normally. When i stil be single at 30 i will go haunting man till 35. And when i am still single then and have no children i will end my life (sorry i know thats extreme to you but i can't imagien a life without kids and husband). I realyl really dont wnat to be a old lady without husband and children
It a legit fear, don't let childless feminists tell you otherwise, you saw what happen in Japan?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2022/06/03/japan-low-births-population-decline-2021/
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College is a great place to meet people. Look for men who are also shy. You don't need to have a ROMANTIC DATE right away, just talk or a cup of coffee or whatever. Spend time meeting and being friends with guys - don't worry about romance, it will happen.
Also, be alert for signs that guys ARE interested in you. On looking back, when I was in college I missed a huge number of signs that girls were interested in me - I was just totally clueless.
Trust me. You will have children. I would truly wait till your brain has fully developed before even thinking about marriage and children.
Men donβt fully mature till they are 30-35, so thereβs plenty of time! 😄
All the best 🥰
Iβm 26 and still single no kids. We can be terrified together 😂😂😂
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Let me try to explain a few things to you that you might be missing
I was going to tell you a few things on here but 5 pages later it's just to much at one time there are a few thing that are right in front of you that you can do to change everythingYou're 21. You have a whole life ahead of you. You don't need toxic people in your life, you can make friends.
I was 35, had never had relationship. By 40 I was engaged with 2 kids. If you put yourself out there and actively try to make changes you can have any life you wantYou are 21. Being terrified does seem extreme. Can you just take a step back and instead focus on studying and learning more about who you are. It matters when you meet someone and they will be curious how to work with you in a relationship
you are quite young to be terrified at such things, you'll be fine, dont stress over problems that haven't formed yet.
My sister didn't date anyone until she was 25. She's engaged to him now with a kid. You have plenty of time. Relax. You accidentally stumble on the best people.
Are no guys approaching you? What is your height, weight, and dress size?
Finish college before you worry about the rest
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