I told my friend she has a lot of red flags about her because she’s older and single. Am I terrible because I don’t feel bad?

[Anonymous]

I’m a conservative woman from Georgia married to a man from NY for a little over 15 years. My husband has a friend who is also from NY who we’ve known for about as long as we’ve been dating. She’s a very nice girl, and she’s beautiful but doesn’t date. I think it’s her fault and my husband tells me I’m wrong. We are meant to be wives and mommies, nothing more. I believe if a woman is over the age of 35 and is still not AT LEAST a wife, she has massive red flags... no excuses. This woman is still pretty, but she’s 40 and still single so something is obviously wrong with her. She tried to justify it today by listing reasons a woman is still single at an advanced age and all of them were pro woman. My response: “honey, this is bs. It’s your fault you’re single at 40. Re-examine your red flags and fix them, although to be honest it’s too late for you”. She started crying and left. I feel like all of that was her trying to convince herself that it’s okay to be single and there’s nothing wrong with her, but it’s all bullshit. She’s a good person deep down, I just wanted to give her the bad tasting medicine to make her see the actual truth. It’s too late for her to find a good man and settle down, but she can serve a purpose as an example to up and coming young women not to become like her.

I know I hurt her feelings, but I’m not sorry. I don’t feel bad for telling her the truth, but my hubby is taking her side!

I know, I’m a pick me girl, but I love men and will defend them to my death, so calling me a “pick me” girl is a compliment.

Men, don’t worry. There are still traditional women out there who only want to love, serve, please and submit to you.

[docster]

I would say that you're in the wrong. Some people are very content being single and don't have an interest in being partnered. The Apostle Paul recommended that people stay single to avoid a lot of grief in life. If you had two kids and a friend of yours started shaming you for not having a lot more, you would tell them it's none of their business how many kids you and your husband have. I agree, but it's also none of YOUR business whether someone else dates or not. You may have taken a happy person and made her feel like crap. I agree with your husband.

[Asker]

She’s had several failed relationships and was dumped in all of them. I tend to look at the common factor (which is her). So obviously there’s a reason she can’t keep a man. Those who are truly happy to stay single don’t talk about how happy they are, and most of the single women I know hate being single.

[CalmUntilAbused]

@Asker

There is a slight chance she just met the wrong person each time, but given the data You have access to, Your reasoning is flawless.

[Anonymous]

Wow you are seriously one fucked up person. Being single over the age of 30 and not married is not a red flag at all. Also did it ever occur to you maybe she can't have kids because she may be infertile and this is a contributing factor for why she is single and not married.

Also you are fucking delusional if you think once you turn 40 it's too late to find a man. There are thousands of women in the world who found the love of their lives after they turned 40.

I seriously hope your husband looks deep inside of himself and see what a pos you really are. You should be ashamed of yourself

[Anonymous]

The fact that your husband doesn’t agree with you should tell you something.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... There is a slight chance You might be wrong, but Your reasoning given the data You have access to is flawless. Honestly, the world needs more women like You, even though being a little more subtle might make Your honest work more easy to be accepted by some people.

[Anonymous]

Wow, what a cow you are. Your husband is right and you're wrong. There's nothing wrong with her, but there's everything wrong with you. Take a look at what you did to your "friend" (who should cut you off if this is how you treat them; you don't deserve friends) & how many people disagree with you. Time to self-reflect. Maybe one day you'll even learn how to apologise, but like you said about your "friend", maybe you're too old to change, you fked up twat.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Ur traditional? Then submit to ur husband & apologize for hurting his friend.

[spartan55]

Wow, you are a real shitty person.

[BarryLiverstone]

Horrible