A little backstory. I found out a friend of mine has a crush on me. Me and my best friend met him through one of our mutual friends about 2 years ago. We would see him from time to time, and have always been cool with each other but there was a point where he thought my best friend was cute.
Granted, nothing ever came out of it. My best friend wasn’t into him that way, and he realized as time went on they weren’t as compatible so it sorta fizzled.
But this year we started to see him more and me and him have noticed we have a lot more in common than we thought. There’s an easiness and comfort between us. And just with little things I’ve been noticing there’s more flirtiness and interest on his end.
but when I told my girlfriends about it a lot of their responses have been “ooh idk” and if it were them they wouldn’t like the idea of knowing he liked their friend first.
to be honest, I noticed I don’t feel weird about it because 1) my best friend was the first to notice and said to me if anything came of it I should go for it. And 2) I could see the difference in how his energy is around her then vs now and it’s very plantonic. I feel like I would feel more iffy about it if it was clear he was still into her.
But I wanna make sure, am being oblivious and not seeing this as a red flag, or am I looking at this in a more secure way?
