I want connection and love but feel too insecure to meet people. I struggle with body image and mental health and need advice, not pity?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Ok so let play pretend for a min. get up walk to a mirror smile and say mmm. You look good you are hot you are sexy you are the person you have always wanted to be.

You go out to a club to dace meet people but not one guy ask you to dance.

How would you feel and what would you tell yourself

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Hit the gym consistently and watch your confidence skyrocket.

Then learn to be more receptive and approachable. Approach the people you want to. Talk and just be yourself. Don't use the excuse of shyness. Put on your big girl pants and just do it.

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

What I suggest is to confront your fears. Everyone has body image insecurities. However those things mean nothing in the grand scheme of life. Educate yourself and attain your goals. Along the road to attaining those things look the others that are on that road for companionship.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

You can't pour from an empty cup. Before you can build a healthy connection with someone else, you need to build a healthy relationship with yourself.

Zylos · Answer

You say you feel too insecure to meet people. Meet people anyway. Over time, the insecurity will fade.

The same goes for your body image. If you feel ashamed of what you look like, put yourself out there anyway. Over time, you will feel less self-conscious.

The psychology industry has sold people the idea that they need to listen to their feelings and change their thinking and stuff.

It is much more effective to change your behavior and then wait for your brain to catch up.

SotiCoto · Answer

Accept that you've failed. Regard failure as the only option. Then try to prove it.
Consider it a mental health loophole.
If you try your luck with people and it fails, you know you were right all along. It reaffirms your existing hypothesis. And if somehow it succeeds... it is serendipity. A fortunate and improbable accident.

Anonymous · Answer

Get over it! That's my advice. We're not going to feel sorry for you here. You don't see women lining up to feel bad for the rejection men take. And feeling sorry for you doesn't help you anyhow. What you seek is only going to be found within you.

Berethor · Answer

If you was not anonymous then you could had met someone on this site. :)

Abbycado · Answer

If you have this many problems, you need to work on yourself before thinking about dating.

Anonymous · Answer

Find somebody who has proved to love you no matter what, or improve your current physique.

DishLady · Answer

So go get counseling...

Anonymous · Answer

What have you tried so far? No point in giving you advice that failed in the past

jahaims · Answer

Go to therapy

I want connection and love but feel too insecure to meet people. I struggle with body image and mental health and need advice, not pity?

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I’m really pretty and kind but painfully shy and also have some depression. I put myself out there but feel like no one likes me. What should I do?

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