Is it bad to be seductive to your S/O for women?

[Anonymous]

I’ve a boyfriend and I’m not sure if being seductive only to him and no other men meant I’m a slut. I know how to be seductive but I might lose my boyfriend if I do. Should I not be seductive and instead be a girlfriend doing girly things. Should I hide this part of me from him forever?

Updates

9 mo

He’s my first boyfriend so I’ve no experience in dating.

[SueShe]

I don't think it is bad to be seductive. Just don't overdo it and pretend to be someone you are not.

If you start wearing clothing that you usually don't wear such as lingerie or if you are putting on a lot more or different makeup just for him, he will notice that you are changing the way you appear and behave.

If he is your boyfriend, he likes you the way you were when you first met him and there is no need to change anything in your behavior. This may only cause for him to start to be suspicious about this new way of behaving.

[Asker]

I just started dating him 2 days ago. If he’s the one for me can I show this side of me?

[SueShe]

You can but don't overdo it. Don't pretend to be someone you are not. If you are normally not the seductive type of person, then refrain from doing it.

[Asker]

If he’s the one for me I don’t mind being seductive only for him. I think he’ll like it maybe. ♥️

[SueShe]

If he is in love with you, then he will like it - definitely

[Asker]

Thank you. ☺️ 🙏

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO 👍

[WhitneySnow]

@SueShe wow! An opinion that isn’t entirely anti-sex. That’s great. I totally agree with you.

[SueShe]

@WhitneySnow oh, you noticed? :-)

[WhitneySnow]

@SueShe I did! Awesome 😊

[WhitneySnow]

No. Be seductive when the two of you are alone together. He’ll love it.

[ohsheeT]

Im not sure i understand the question. Are you saying if yourvseductive with your boyfriend. You have to be seductive to every man

[ohsheeT]

Oh oh ok I get it. Seductive for women. Well, if you're his girl friend. He wants you. And no other competition.
No matter if it's a woman or a man. If you do flirt with a man or a women. Ir going to be in his head all the time... and one of the best things about a relationship is you dont worry or think about it until you give him a reason to

[Asker]

I only want to be seductive only to my Mr Right but no else not even my family members & my best friend know this about me. Why should I waste my skills on men when I can use it on my Mr Right? IRL people don’t know this hidden part of me, if I go around seducing people that makes me a shameless seductress. If I were a man I wouldn’t go around seducing random women, etc.

[ohsheeT]

So how do you know ur seductive. I know a few girls who said the same thing. I even know a dancer that she thought she was seductive. Not even close. I had to teach her how to dance and to
Feel the music ok, so what happens if you seduce a girl and she wants. You.. and when said if you seduced other men, you would be called something .. and then you said if you were a man, you wouldn't go.
Around seducing women, so that means you would go around seducing men

[Asker]

Sorry, I didn’t word it properly. If I were a man I wouldn’t go around seducing anybody except for my S/O if I have one.

[ohsheeT]

Yes makes since but still everyone thinks they know how to flirt or seduce and they can or do. . But to be good. You have to know a few things. It's more than just seducing . but I will take your word . For it

[Nikki1989]

It is not bad per se; just don't be someone who you are not.

[Ask105]

Quit wasting his time ! and tell him im gonna fck you over because thats exactly what you’re gonna do and have done

[Asker]

No that’s not what I meant. What I meant is it better to be seductive to your S/O when dating? Is it too much? I’ve met one friend of mine who seduced her boyfriend but she’s loyal to him only. I’m faithful but I’m not sure if showing my seductive side to him will make him think I want sex immediately. I think I’m willing to wait till marriage to do the seducing because I don’t want him to misunderstood.

[Ask105]

I don’t know because immediately grew up with players as a kid when I realized that all modern women trying these things I quickly learned all their tactics psychology of them and they usually do the opposite of what they say so it would freaking piss me off all be honest with you and look i get it tho right because you want to do these things to be loved or find someone so your question for me when ! If girl touches me i feel like she breaks my heart im like what you trying to to pull on me now , just be yourself show him some love puppy love is cool but dont give it up hella quick and be overly sexual until your months in and he starts seeing what you see in him may be your first time you done this but you can create sexual tension with him but don't pull all the tricks out the bag show him you love him is all a guy wants that’s mentally stable

[mysteriousNicholas]

Pardon? I think I've misunderstood the question

[mysteriousNicholas]

Okay, so your update says he's your first real boyfriend and your mid to late 20s, ok - so you're asking if you should be exclusive and not flirt with others?

[Asker]

Will he mind if I only showed this side of me to him? I’m loyal & of course seducing someone else other than your S/O is immoral.

[mysteriousNicholas]

I think it's a relationship expectation to have loyalty 😘

[mysteriousNicholas]

Cleavage - is one thing - bikini's is one thing - a really short skirt is one thing bare legs - however 👀 actually seducing and flirting 🫦 surely that's a divorce / a break up 💔

[mysteriousNicholas]

Anyways - back to mind my own