If a partner is mean to you and unhappy with you , Why don’t they leave you?

[Finchie40]

Through the years I dated some girls’ that eventually turned on me by being rude and disrespectful towards me , that would make comments and sometimes belittle me or criticize me and compare me to other guys’ saying I wasn’t a good man blah blah blah , so I would immediately tell them to leave me if you are that unhappy with me and ask them Why are you staying with me and not leaving , if I make you that angry or upset or miserable? Go find yourself a guy that you are happy with and leave me the fuck alone , but they wouldn’t leave unless I dumped them first , which i eventually did , because I couldn’t tolerate her negative attitude anymore. So girls’ ’ why stay with a guy that you are miserable with and not leave him if you are that unhappy with him? I even cheated on a girlfriend once when I was younger and she didn’t want to leave me , when I told her To? Why do a lot of girls stay with a guy that they aren’t happy with a guy that betrays you or stresses you out? When a girl betrays me , I immediately kick her ass to the curb , but most of you girls’ do not do this , Why is that? and why stay if he barely makes you happy? I only stay with girls’ that bring happiness into my life , Not Misery, it seems most girls’ are opposite, is it because she loves the drama? I never understood this with females’ whatsoever, not saying every female is this way but it seems there are a lot of them out there , I have witnessed and experienced this a shit ton of times

[Sal_Monella]

The problem is that we still suck up to them for reassurance and approval and they play us like a tuna fisherman. What we have to do, when the dark clouds inevitably roll in, is to set irrevocable rules. Mine are that I require respect, admiration, trust, and affection as a condition of my continuing this relationship starting now. No exceptions. Its an offer she can't refuse. Maybe you have heard that before.

Yes, a relationship is voluntary and you do not have to agree and you do not have to stay. Once you have had it up to here...

Its time to pack your things and go. Don't negotiate. Don't compromise. Don't wait for her to leave. You are giving her control and YET ANOTHER opportunity for rejection and judgment. Decline breakup sex. You won't soak your penis for a few weeks, you'll live, Cavalletto.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

I asked my ex the same question. His response was "because I love you". I told him, his actions does not show love. Love isn't always enough.

Others stay bc they don't want to start over. Then there is the financial issue - Some can't survive by themselves and others don't want to loose half their belongings. When there are kids involved the man sometimes thinks he won't be able to handle raising a kid/s by himself, or that it would be better for the kids if they stay together. Which isn't true, bc it's more damaging growing up in a house where mommy and daddy screams or someone gets slapped around, than in separate houses where it's calm.

Separating isn't always easy, but it's totally worth it once you experience the calmness that comes with it.

If you are not happy together, then don't stay together. If you have truly tried to do everything you can to make it work, then there is nothing wrong with admitting you made a mistake and to try again.

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s insane to me why someone would want to stay in a unhappy relationship with someone , if they are that miserable, the girls’ I dated that even turned mean and rude and disrespectful towards me , I told them to leave and they didn’t , when I told them fine I am leaving you instead , they just assumed I was talking out my ass until I ended up meeting another girl , acting like I was this cheater when clearly I wasn’t , considering I already dumped her miserable ass. , people can be absolutely insane

[sage2021]

It almost sounds like why do people stay at a job that that they are unhappy with? They complain about how much it sucks, but they don't go and find a new job.

Maybe it's kinda like that. They stay with you until they find someone new, and then they leave.

In my second marriage he didn't only make me unhappy but miserable! One day I had a talk with myself and I thought, I am either going to stay with him forever or I am ending it right now.

I got up off the couch after making my decision and asked him to leave and that I wanted a divorce. I wanted him gone that night. He had plenty of places to stay and I didn't or I would have been the one to leave. Once I made up my mind it was over and done!!

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 😀

[spartan55]

A lot of women have this weird thing where they don't want to be the one to break up so they try to get the guy to do it. It's bizarre and I've never really heard an answer that makes sense.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Is it not obvious they like the drama? In the situations where you're perfect and doing nothing wrong... they make up reasons to have it. Do they not? Their intention isn't to leave... not at all... they just want a fight.

The main reason they cheat is because their guy is perfect and takes care of her every need. Watch what they do, and don't trust a fucking word out of their mouth. It's why that contradiction between what they say they want from a man and what they go for exists.

Don't blame them though, it's their biological nature. They're not even aware that they're doing it when they're doing it. Read some articles on "shit tests" and it will make a lot of sense to you.

[Finchie40]

Yes, that’s why I don’t tolerate her shit , and when she realizes I am not , that’s when she comes chasing me back , Guys’ that are constantly nice to their girlfriends’ unfortunately get cheated on because she looks at him like he is a wimp , Females’ want a challenge, she loves drama , , so when she realizes you are completely fine without her , that’s when she gets on her knees for you

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's a headache that's making a lot of men wonder if they're just better off on their own. Movements like MGTOW or red pill (black pill as well) actually have traction only because of these female's behavior. We got states trying to make paternity tests mandatory because paternal fraud is so rampant (cheating unhinged)... what is it, 1 in 4 tests show they're not the father... that's sad.

But yeah, if you get sick of their shit, they beg you to come back... just to eventually do it again later.

[exitseven]

A lot of girls are afraid that if they leave they will never find anyone else.

[mysteriousNicholas]

finchie finchie - you're doing the best you can ; emphasise every syllable there ; you're doing the best you can 🏝️

[Anonymous]

If there are kids involved
lf there's a house
It's difficult to walk away
Painful, expensive

[Seangreen]

The real question is why don't you leave them

[Anonymous]

I'm single, so I don't have to worry about that.

[Nikki1989]

They do leave.

[Ariesman81]

Masochism