Should I see what he has to say or just continue ignoring him?

[Anonymous]

So we only dated for 3 months, but after the 2nd month of dating, things started to go downhill before I eventually just blocked him. I didn’t even say to him that I wanted to break up with him. I was just pissed off with his actions, and he did something that really pissed me off. He was lying and doing stuff behind my back and getting mad at me for simple things that I should have left him for. It was never anything physical and he always said that he had family issues and never wanted to talk to me about it. He would just ignore my calls or texts until he felt like talking to me again. His excuse was that he was busy when I asked why he didn’t answer me. I’m just too nice, and I give people chance after chance to change. It’s been almost 4 months since I’ve blocked him, but he recently keeps liking me on every dating app I’m on. I was planning to just ignore him, but I feel like I should give my last say and tell him how I feel.

[ohsheeT]

Well, you more or less did have your last words. You basically told him in your own way. I don't like being treated the way you're treating me

And if he did not get that message from you just ghosting him then there's a problem

You basically showed him your boundaries and what you're willing to deal with and what you're not willing to deal with


So now really. You have to look at it is. Did he learn anything? Will he try better do different

I say go for it just for the learning experience.
Because you have to understand this is not only about him, but this is about you and who you? Want to be and how you want to be treated

It is also something.
That you should look at is just because you don't get your way. You get pissy and go back to the wrong way. That's completely wrong too


So either he learns what you're all about and your boundaries? And if you don't get your way , you can't control yourself. So you just snap and walk away.
And then you're head. You're thinking i'm gonna show him... You really should work on

And for you, get to see human acto see if he actually.
Heard what you didn't heard by actiand then you get a second chance.
To communicate what is bothering you instead of just. Losing it and not being able to control your actions or your words to communicate that to him.

[OneViewpoint]

Why do you insist on reopening that can of worms? What good can come of it? Let it go. No contact. Block this immature man baby.

[HollyK21]

Honestly at this point I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s been more time without him than there ever was with him, and those 3 months together were nothing but drama. Would I say that how you broke up was ok, not really, I would’ve at least sent a text. But in any case it’s behind you now. Like if you wanted to give him some closure then you’re not wrong for that, but its probably better not to reopen that door.

[Asker]

Yeah, I understand. I was just hurt, and I wasn’t thinking clearly. I realized later I should’ve sent a text to him.

[HollyK21]

I get that for sure, but at the end of the day, it’s in the past. You handled it how you did, and it might be better to just make peace with that rather than reopening the door to apologize. I say this mainly because look at the situation, you’re both single, actively on the dating apps, and he’s still trying to get your attention. I think that a conversation with him wouldn’t be a simple matter of closure and then that’s it. He’s likely try to get the ball rolling again, or drag you into some sort of argument/victimization that would leave you feeling crappier than you did in the start. Basically I’m saying, I don’t think good would come from that chat, not closure, and not a healthy relationship.

[In_Trance]

Move on